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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by our friends, longtime Bachelor franchise icon Ashley Spivey (Season 15, aka Brad Womack's second season) and her delightful husband Steve Hunsberger. These two have been married for over 6 years, have been dating for 10, and they're also our NYC neighbors! :) Today they join Shandy to share whether or not they would have met sans The Bachelor, what it's like to endure tremendous loss together, how they "pass the baton" between them, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game that Andy describes as "very married". 😂 Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Ashley and Steve!

2:50 - How They Met

8:44 - Do They Think They Would Have Ended Up Together Without The Bachelor?

14:59 - First Impressions

21:01 - How They Complement Each Other

24:23 - How Suffering Miscarriage Affected Their Relationship

34:07 - Early Hurdle

40:11 - How They Fight

45:55 - Any Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed

49:26 - The Newlyweds Game

1:05:58 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 4 and 5!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:47 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 4 & 5

1:28 - Episode 4 Kick Off/Evening

13:10 - The Next Day

24:02 - Ashley And Jared’s Date

27:05 - Back At The Beach

28:52 - Evening

29:37 - Brandon And Serene’s Date

30:39 - Back At The Beach

36:21 - Credits

36:37 - Episode 5 Kick Off

38:35 - Salley

51:40 - The Next Day

54:42 - Peter And Brittany’s Date

58:22 - Back On The Beach

1:11:00 - Jacob And Jill’s Date/Evening

1:13:18 - Back On The Beach

1:16:17 - Kira

1:25:44 - Credits

1:26:54 - Andy’s A-Game

1:27:47 - Shandy Word Watch

1:29:25 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by not one, but TWO delightful callers. Our first caller, Ray, has been texting with a guy daily for 6 whopping months. The catch? They live in different countries and have never even kissed. How can she take things to the next level? Our second caller, James, had his "number" used against him towards the end of his last relationship. When, if ever, should one share The Number, and is honesty really always best? Listen on for the Shandy take!

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Ray!

27:03 - Shandy Debrief

29:21 - Welcome To Caller James!

51:48 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 2 and 3!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 2 & 3

1:40 - Episode 2 Kick Off

17:52 - Evening

49:56 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

59:12 - Credits

59:50 - Episode 3 Kick Off

1:06:56 - Rose Ceremony

1:12:05 - The Next Day

1:22:57 - Evening

1:27:08 - Andy’s A-Game

1:27:32 - Shandy Word Watch

1:29:07 - Who We Would Go For

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Today's Hot Topic conversation finally tackles a common theme among our Shandies' relationship questions over the last 2 years: What to do when one partner wants to get frisky way more than the other? Shan Boodram, our esteemed expert joining us today, could not be more qualified to take on this subject: Shan is a certified sexologist and sex and intimacy educator, among her many other qualifications, and she helps us navigate how to broach the topic of wanting more sex, how to work towards raising one's own libido, how to communicate likes/dislikes in the bedroom (without killing the mood), and how to get back into sexy time postpartum. Shan is as fun as she is knowledgeable and we guarantee you'll both laugh and learn something new throughout this conversation!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Sexologist And Intimacy Educator Shan Boodram!

3:16 - What Is Sexology And Why Did She Get Into It?

8:36 - Tips For Couples Navigating Mismatched Libidos

13:55 - Does Bringing It Up More Scare It Away?

20:14 - For The Partner Who Wishes They Wanted Sex More

27:56 - Comfort and Familiarity

29:29 - Turn-On Triggers

31:12 - Where’s The Line Between Maintaining A Sex Life With A Low Libido Versus Agreeing To Have Sex When You Don’t Want To? 

35:44 - Does More Beget More?

37:55 - Advice For Sex And Intimacy Postpartum 

40:53 - Tips For Orgasming

43:44 - Tips On How To Get A Partner To Change What They’re Doing Without Killing The Mood?

46:12 - True Or False: Ejaculation Is Good For Men’s Health

50:32 - Thoughts On Today’s Swipe Culture And Dating Climate 

57:42 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down the premiere!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

2:38 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 1

3:56 - Episode 1 Kick Off

9:57 - Paradise Is Open

32:18 - Jesse Threatens The Group

36:17 - Evening

36:40 - Andrew And Teddi

42:29 - Genevieve And Justin

44:23 - Andrew And Teddi, Continued

45:47 - Johnny And Hunter

46:23 - Lace

51:29 - Lace And Logan

1:02:35 - Sierra And Michael

1:04:09 - Jill

1:04:29 - Jill And Romeo

1:05:53 - Kira

1:07:43 - Kira And Romeo

1:11:07 - Kira Versus Jill

1:13:46 - The Next Day

1:14:26- Victoria F

1:14:39 - Credits

1:15:08 - Andy’s A-Game

1:16:42 - Shandy Word Watch

1:19:09 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you like a guy but not his pet name for you, is it worth saying something? If reconnecting with a former flame via LinkedIn has reached a roadblock, when is it OK to up the ante? Plus a classic Andy-I-Need-Your-Male-Perspective-On-This-Guy's-Intentions question! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

0:00 - Q1: I Like The Guy But Hate His Pet Name For Me

6:29 - Q2: What Are His Intentions?

13:45 - Q3: I’m Finding Myself Attracted To Someone I Should NOT Be Attracted To—Am I Normal?

23:04 - Q4: My Partner Keeps Making Jokes About What’s Obviously An Insecurity—Thoughts?

37:03 - Q5: Our Libidos Don’t Line Up—Thoughts?

50:37 - Q6: Rekindling With A Former Flame Via LinkedIn—Should I Try Again? 

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Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 12, aka the GRAND FINALE!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:35 - Finale Kick Off

3:43 - Last Week, Continued

7:14 - Rachel’s Last Date With Tino

10:32 - The Ladies Chat In Mexico

12:29 - Rachel’s Proposal

17:37 - The Breakup House: Gabby And Rachel

24:57 - The Breakup House: Tino And Rachel

48:11 - Live: Rachel 

49:27 - Live: Rachel And Tino

53:20 - Aven

57:21 - Gabby’s Proposal

1:04:03 - Live: Rachel And Erich

1:12:09 - Wrapping The Season

1:12:27 - Next Bachelor

1:16:54 - BUT WAIT THERE’S MORE

1:21:14 - Shandy Word Watch

1:21:40 - Reviewing Premiere Predictions

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by lovebirds Kenny Braasch (The Bachelorette, Season 16) and Mari Pepin (The Bachelor, Season 25), who you watched meet and get engaged on Bachelor In Paradise Season 7! They're now over a year into their relationship (just ask Andy about his famous bet!) and they live together in Chicago. Today they join Shandy to share their first impressions, how their 15 year age gap works for—not against—them, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game that will have you on the edge of your seat! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Kenny And Mari!

2:24 - How Familiar Were They With Each Other Before Meeting On Paradise?

5:16 - First Impressions

8:41 - How They Complement Each Other

11:29 - The Most Common Misconception About Their Relationship

16:00 - What About This Partnership Makes It Successful Versus Past Ones?

22:27 - Early Hurdle

23:14 - How They Fight

21:05 - How Do They Actively Work On Their Relationship?

32:03 - Shandy’s Bet

33:08 - Getting To Know Mari And Kenny

38:48 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed

41:41 - The Newlyweds Game

1:04:45 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 11, aka the Finale, Part 1!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:37 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 11

4:17 - Episode 11 Kick Off

4:54 - Zach Speaks With Rachel

11:16 - Rose Ceremony

12:39 - Live: Zach And Rachel

18:46 - Aven Meets Rachel’s Family

32:21 - Rachel Chats With Her Friends

37:02 - Rachel Chats With Aven

47:34 - Erich Meets Gabby’s Family

51:15 - Tino Meets Rachel’s Family

56:46 - Aven’s “Last Shot”

1:06:04 - Rachel

1:11:54 - Live: Aven And Rachel

1:14:00 - Gabby’s Final Date With Erich

1:22:24 - Shandy Word Watch

1:24:13 - Shandy's Predictions

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