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While you’re focusing on how to protect yourself from a narcissist’s manipulative schemes, 

the enemy is laser focused on YOU. He’s using backdoor attempts to infiltrate YOUR life.

 And while it’s tempting to blame the narcissist—after all, THEY are the Trojan horse—the truth is that 1 Peter 5:8 reminds us that we are to “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.” 

 In fact, there are seven different demonic doors that can be opened in your life as a result of a narcissistic. Let’s take a look at each one so you can learn how to slam them shut in the mighty name of Jesus.

 Door #1: Confusion

The most common quality narcissists develop within their victims is confusion. 

 Your desire to resolve conflict and grow in your relationship is met instead with an onslaught of underhanded accusations and backhanded belittlements. It’s enough to leave you bewildered, wondering how they’re just not understanding what you’re saying. 

 Here’s the truth: they don’t understand because they don’t care. You’re confusing their fake, self-serving interactions with a genuine interest in the relationship.

 My friend, God is not the author of confusion. Believe His promises and respond promptly to His commands and confusion will loosen its grip on you.

 Door #2: Suspicion 

When someone you should be able to trust betrays you, it hits to the core. It leads you to think, If I can’t trust my parent or partner, who can I trust? You begin to view others through the lens of suspicion. 

 I get it. You’ve been hurt. But I want to encourage you to not allow the enemy to use a spirit of suspicion to destroy any future relationships.

 That doesn’t mean you override your God-given discernment and trust everyone—that would be foolish. Rather, allow God to show you who you can and can’t trust by leaning on Him and waiting to see what fruit they produce. 

 Door # 3: Identity Crisis

Whether it’s listening to their damaging words or spending all of your focus on meeting their needs, being in a narcissistic relationships is an invitation to live below your potential.

 Over the years I’ve encountered many narcissistic survivors who say, I don’t even know who I am. If you’re not grounded in Christ, being involved with a narcissist can wreak havoc on your self-esteem.

The solution: turn your focus to who God says you are—despite what the narcissist says. Immerse yourself in scriptures like Psalm 139:13-16 and Ephesians 2:10 until God’s word begins to drown out the narcissistic lies.

 Don’t fool yourself though, this will be a battle, as the enemy will want to pull you back into that old toxic thinking. Keep fighting, my friend. 

 Door #3 definitely opens the door to #4.

 Door #4: Codependency

Codependency is an unhealthy attachment to others, and a reliance on others to get your needs met. It’s like you can’t be OK unless they’re OK with you. 

 In codependent relationships, you rely on each other instead of God. As romantic as it sounds in movies, it’s destructive in healthy relationships. 

 Satan is a master at getting you to look to others for your needs and then calling it ‘love.’ Codepdendents are classic mood monitors. They pride themselves on ‘feeling’ others’ feelings.

This is not a super power, this is a demonic distortion of what healthy interdependent relationships should look like.   

 If you are struggling