Desire on Fire

On today's show, I invite the hosts of Clit Talk - Lindsey, Katie, and Sugar - to talk about their pleasure positive work. We dive into all things pleasure - slowing down to drop into our desire, finding time for a self-pleasure practice, and curating a pleasure positive lifestyle by dropping the walls and conditioning we have around our sex, our CLITS (this is not a bad word!), and our own erotic freedom.

We get deep into:

• What CLIT stands for and why reframing the messaging around this word is important
• A FREE self-pleasure resource from Clit Talk that you don't want to miss out on!
• The difference between orgasm and climax (and why understanding it will open up your self-pleasure practice!)
• Finding a balance between the masculine and feminine energies within us
• The surprising (and super juicy!) place Katie got pregnant
• How masturbating helped cure one of my guests of her back pain!
• The big gap in sex education and what needs to change
• A little tip about deep throating that can help prepare you for anal sex
• And so much more!

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We all have the privilege of choosing where we put our attention - it can drastically transform our lives! In today's episode, I have a powerful and awakening conversation with Orgasmic Meditation and relationship coach Shareeah Woods about where she chooses to direct her attention and energy in her life. We get deep into the constructs of race and its effect on the individual and the collective, and how we can all take part in personal healing.

We get deep into:

• Why Shareeah does not subscribe to the construct of race
• How she deciphers the term "colorblind" and why it might surprise you
• One of the most important ways we can start to heal ourselves from hate and separation
• Shareeah's advice for looking beyond the current narrative while still deeply honoring the experiences of others
• How confronting and challenging the energy field of division and separation can be
• Shareeah's thoughts on what hate really is (and how to accept the feelings of others with more compassion)
• The black and white construct and why it does not exist in many other countries outside of the U.S.
• Our "defense response" and how to accept it as part of the human process
• Why dropping the resistance to the thing you want changed can actually help you create the change you want to see in the world!
• And so much more!

Connect with Shareeah:

[email protected]

https://www.facebook.com/shareeah

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Today is a very special day on the podcast - I invite my mother, Shellie Batuski, to share her powerful and unique transformational story! As a student of communication and personal development since the 1980s, Shellie shares how that journey to inner work and healing led to manifesting her truest desires and creating a happy, empowered, and fulfilling life.

We get deep into:

• Shellie's upbringing and the catalyst that ultimately led to her transformational journey
• The "don't rely on a man" narrative and how this could be holding you back from true intimacy with a partner
• Discovering her desires AND her right to express them (and how life-changing this can be!)
• The powerful program that ultimately changed the direction of her life
• How she manifested a husband named David (and cut through 6 months of dating in one week!)
• One of the BIGGEST shifts she made in her life and how it helped her stop blaming others
• What it's like to be a mother to a sex and intimacy coach
• How pleasure and sex play a role in her 33-year marriage
• And so much more!

Connect with Shellie: [email protected]

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The world is not focused on uplifting women, we have to do the work ourselves! In today's episode, I talk with champion for women and creator of Revelle, JoAnna Hartzmark about her mission to reshape the future of retail by putting women's needs at the forefront of the conversation. We discuss the inconsistency of women's clothing sizing, the attempt to ignore our complex bodies, and the power of healing our wounds and conditioning around what it means to look and feel beautiful.

We get deep into:

• JoAnna's journey to body confidence and why she is so passionate about her work
• Her mission to match the technical fit of clothing to the emotional fit
• Unlearning the triggers around being "too big" for a certain size
• The importance of healing the inner wounds around body shame and finding acceptance
• Addressing the structural biases and systems of oppression in our society
• And so much more!

Learn more about Revelle Nation: https://revellenation.com/ & https://www.instagram.com/revellenation/

JoAnna's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joannahartzmark/

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Do you have a self-pleasure practice? Do you feel sexually fulfilled (without a partner)? In today's episode, I dive into this juicy topic by revealing how I incorporate a self-pleasure practice into my life, how it has evolved over time, and how you can release any resistance you have around it so you can start to explore the powerful healing, beauty, and magnetism of a self-pleasure practice in your life.

I get deep into:

• Why the word "masturbation" just doesn't work for me
• How I developed a reliance on a vibrator for orgasms (and I how I broke through that barrier)
• The various teachers, mentors, and classes that have contributed to my practice
• Incorporating a practice called "peaking" into self-pleasure
• Why I masturbate with my friends on a weekly Zoom call
• How you can use a glass wand to de-armour your pussy!
• Some practical ways you can start healing any trauma in your genitals
• Why having a consistent self-pleasure practice has brought more men, clients, and creativity into my life (and why this is all possible for you too!)
• And more!

Sign up for the upcoming Desire on Fire Pleasure Challenge! www.ThePleasureChallenge.com

Orgasmic Meditation: https://instituteofom.com/

Lauren Harkness - Teaches Peaking practice + Tantra: https://www.radiantecstasy.com/

Carli Jo - Teaches Jade Egg practice + other sensuality practices: https://carlijo.com/

Layla Martin - Teaches Jade Egg, Self Pleasure and Sexuality practices: https://laylamartin.com/

Yoni Wands and Eggs: https://www.yonicrystals.love

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There are many ways addiction can show up in our lives and this can keep us trapped in an existence that isn't aligned with our truest self. But we can find deep transformation in the acknowledgment of our addictive patterns. On today's episode, I talk to coach and author Dean Powell about his powerful journey with addiction, finding a path to healing, and his passion to help others to not only break their addictions, but live and thrive beyond them.

We get deep into:

• Dean's religious upbringing and learning to trust his intuition
• His journey with addiction and how it played into his relationship dynamics
• Seeking help and feeling shame in recovery
• Dean's thoughts on the spectrum of addiction
• One IMPORTANT piece we need to look at to be able to transform
• How he talks to his kids about drugs and the concept of parenting from your own pain
• The first step in a healing journey (and how useful this can be for anyone!)
• How his drug use affected his sex life
• Developing an attention level and felt sense of what is being said and unsaid (and how this can help in your relationships)
• And so much more!

Learn more about Dean: https://www.lifetorque.com.au/

Dean's IG: https://www.instagram.com/addiction_ary/

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From good girl to free woman, from pastor to getting paid to take her clothes off - on today's episode, I have a deep conversation with life coach Nikole Mitchell about her incredible awakening journey. We discuss her path from her early conservative upbringing, to finding sexual freedom and liberation through the realization that sexuality and spirituality go hand in hand and embracing the sacred work of reuniting these two constructs.

We get deep into:

• The religious conditioning from growing up in a conservative, baptist family and what Nikole had to release to embark on her awakening journey
• Why she credits seminary for helping her lose her faith
• Honoring our desires and reclaiming them as GOOD
• Confronting stories from childhood and what choosing to follow your inner voice can do for your life!
• Why following your pleasure and claiming your desires is NOT convenient or easy (but still SO worth it!)
• What support Nikole had when leaving her faith and why this changed everything
• Nikole's transformed sex life and not having a partnered orgasm during her 12-year marriage
• Why it's so important to do inner work if you are in a stigmatized role
• Exploring her boundaries and why she is so public with her sexuality and sex work
• Why Nikole still lives with her ex-husband (and why it works!)
• How being in alignment with your true desires will attract the right people to you (and repel the wrong ones!)
• And so much more, you don't want to miss this one!

Connect with Nikole:

https://nikolemitchell.com/

https://onlyfans.com/nikolemitchell

Nikole's IG: https://www.instagram.com/mitchellnikole/

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Why do we keep it a secret when pleasure is so fucking beautiful? Following your pleasure and allowing others to witness it can be so healing. Over the weekend, I attended a Play Party with my best friend and roommate Kelley and on today's episode, we dive into the sacred and loving experience of attending a Temple Night. Join us as we talk through our shared journey with the intimate practices and the sober, conscious, and connected play.

We get deep into:

• What a Play Party really is and why calling it a sex party can be inaccurate
• Why I am able to enjoy this experience even though I am not especially attracted to group sexual activities
• The sensual playground and environment of the party
• How the group acknowledged their level of play, desires, and boundaries for the evening
• Why valuing consent is such a HUGE part of conscious play parties
• The exercises that helped us practice saying yes and no to specific desires
• Allowing a man to touch my goddess dough (belly rolls) and receiving his love for my body
• Opening to receive masculine attention, energy, and love
• How you can honor a man's desire and still say no to it (without shaming him!)
• Why Kelley chose not to touch at all with one of her partner's of the night (and what she chose to do instead)
• How Kelley honored her celibacy while still receiving the beauty of the experience
• The RBDSM conscious sex conversation and how important it is to talk about after care
• And so much more juiciness!

Connect with Kelley: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode/

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Dealing with resistance to being in your own body? Maybe your body just doesn't feel like a safe place to be? On today's show I invite Nitika Chopra, chronic illness advocate and creator of Chronicon, to talk about her personal journey to healing and the passion she has for her mission to inspire self-love and help others learn to thrive with chronic illness.

We get deep into:

• Nitika's journey to advocacy and creating her platform for chronically ill folks to build connection
• What can happen when you make healing the ultimate goal in your life
• The one thing her inner voice told her that changed her whole life
• How damaging the toxic positivity cycle can be and how Nitika broke out of it
• Balancing the spiritual with the real pain and trauma that disease brings
• Recognizing trauma in the body and how powerful it can be for transformation
• Why Nitika started working with a therapist even though it was outside the norm in her culture
• The relationship between pain and pleasure and how that has shown up in her life
• An important first step to discovering your own pleasure (and why it's okay if you find this difficult!)
• And so much more!

Learn more about Nitika: https://nitikachopra.com/

Learn more about Chronicon: https://www.instagram.com/chroniconofficial/

Nitika's IG: https://www.instagram.com/nitikachopra/

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Your pleasure benefits the pleasure of ALL. The journey to pleasure looks different for everyone and on today's show I talk to The Pussy Priestess™ Josefina Bashout about her path to pleasure and how she holds space for women to become strong, confident and sexually liberated. We get deep into the alternative path to healing she found through Eastern holistic medicine and finding our power and pleasure through connecting to our divine feminine energy.

We get deep into:

• Discovering her strong lineage line to sexual healing work
• Feeling sexual shame and punishment in her youth and how that showed up in her sex
• Releasing the stigma around pleasure and the vibrational energy that it can have in your life
• Receiving a devastating medical diagnosis and her alternative path to healing
• The importance of sisterhood support
• How your emotions may be manifesting in your body and how to identify them
• What the patriarchy wants us to believe about ourselves as women and how it could be holding us back
• The TRUTH about why we're not allowed into shamanic ritual ceremony spaces while we are bleeding
• One IMPORTANT tool to use when feeling a victim to, or managing, something not in alignment with your truest self
• And so much more!

Learn more about Josefina: http://www.josefinabashout.com

Josefina's IG: https://www.instagram.com/josefinabashout/

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