Desire on Fire

Yes… we are manifesting cute guys in coffee shops in 2022! Grab your favorite drink and get comfy because this week it's just us and we're having a catch up! In this episode, Aimee shares an update on her recent dating escapades. We speak about coming face to face with fear of rejection when approaching men, working through feelings of shyness and hesitation, and finding ways to shake off paralysis in pursuit of our edgiest desires.

Aimee shares the juicy details about a recent (majorly transformational) tantric training she attended. We also talk about our experiences with aversion, and how the people who challenge us the most can often be our greatest teachers, if we're willing to stay leaned in for the lessons!

We discuss: - Unblocking emotional and spiritual blockages that stem from past relationships. - Viewing romantic aversions as personal and spiritual learning opportunities. - How meeting your match can challenge you, and that sometimes you need to give new connections time and space to grow to their full potential.

Join us for our Intimacy Styles Masterclass on March 10th! https://www.desireonfire.com/the- intimacy-styles-masterclass/

Check out the tantra training Aimee attended (ISTA): https://ista.life/trainings/ista-level-1

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Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/

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Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Is our school system currently doing a good job of educating our children around sex? Is there a right or wrong time to discuss sex with our kids? It can definitely be an awkward topic that seems easier to avoid but we're here to tell you that these conversations are beyond essential to your child's sexual development. Today we are exploring what it really means to be sex positive parents with Dr Holly Richmond, a somatic-psychotherapist, marriage and family therapist, author and national and international sex therapist. We hear her remarkable story on how she set out as a Creative Writing teacher at a girl's prison but then found her true calling to help people on their sex and relationships and journeys of intergrating their sexual traumas to finding consensual, pleasurable sex again.

We find out:

How to create safe learning opportunities and embrace your child's curiosity around sex.

Recognising your child's communication style in order to have the most practical discussions on sex, body autonomy and self pleasure.

That using technical terms for your genitals around your children is integral to their sex education.

That being sex positive isn't just about having lots of sex but knowing and doing what works for you.

The crucial differences between privacy and secrecy as well as sexual empowerment and affirmation seeking.

CONNECT WITH DR HOLLY RICHMOND:

https://drhollyrichmond.com/

https://www.reclaimingyourpleasure.com/

https://www.instagram.com/drhollyrichmond/

CONNECT WITH DESIRE ON FIRE:

Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/

Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/

And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/

Connect with Aimee:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Connect with Ellie:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Do you hold shame around your kinky desires? Do you fear you and your partner are incompatible lovers? Do you crave more adventure in the bedroom? This week we're joined by Jordan Bowditch, a professional edutainer and men's coach dedicated to inspire higher truths, and Alxa Bowditch, a sex and relationship coach and the founder of That Sex Group. We discuss Alexa's suffocating Catholic upbringing and Jordan's self-described "self-development junkie" phase, before starting their committed relationship and confronting their sexual desires and differences.

We explore Jordan's take on masculine and feminine energies, and how the couple weaves kink and the different Erotic Blueprints into their sex life.

We dive into:

• How sexual development is a key component for any personal transformation journey
• That having amazing and brand new sex is not strictly reserved for the honeymoon phase and sexual breakthroughs can happen at any time
• What sex and intimacy is like after marriage and how to create a next level of commitment
• Working to overcome feelings of shame and allowing important conversations about desire to be had in relationships

CONNECT WITH JORDAN AND ALEXA:

Jordan on Instagram: https://instagram.com/conscious.bro

Alexa on Instagram: https://instagram.com/thatsexchick

Podcast : https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/that-sex-chick/id1537817017

Work with Sex. & Love Co.: https://www.thatsexchick.com/work-with-me

Find out your Erotic Blueprint by taking this quiz: https://bit.ly/2usIDAQ

CONNECT WITH DESIRE ON FIRE:

Join us for the Intimacy Styles Masterclass, our first live, virtual event of 2022!

February 17th, 5-7pm: https://www.desireonfire.com/the-intimacy-styles-masterclass/

Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/

Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/

And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/

Connect with Aimee:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Connect with Ellie:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

We spent the better part of the last year creating a unique framework to help you master your biggest blocks when it comes to sex, love and relationships.

The more you understand your limiting beliefs and sabotaging behaviors when it comes to intimacy, the easier it is to attract the truly nourishing and healthy connections you crave.

In this episode, we take you behind-the-scenes to share about The Intimacy Styles: how we came up with them, why they matter, and why we can't stop talking about them at Desire on Fire.

We dove into…

• An in-depth look at each of the Styles (and the best and worst qualities of each)
• The never-before-told story behind how we created this framework
• Aimee and Ellie's Intimacy Styles (they might surprise you!!)
• Simple tips and strategies to overcome your limitations and becoming a magnet for the sex, love and romance you desire

Join us for the Intimacy Styles Masterclass, our first live, virtual event of 2022!

February 17th, 5-7pm: https://www.desireonfire.com/the-intimacy-styles-masterclass/

Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/

Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/

Connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/

Connect with Aimee:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Connect with Ellie:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Thriving in Marriage After Hitting Rock Bottom with Joy Harrington Marriage is not always sunshine and rainbows. In this episode, we dive into a taboo topic we've never covered on the podcast before: porn addiction. Joy Harrington — coach, multi-entrepreneur, wife and mom of two (with a third on the way!) opens up about her rock bottom moment, and how the lowest low in her marriage motivated her to face her fears and step into a whole new version of herself. She shares how she discovered her feminine power, opened her heart, and has created a relationship with her husband where they can both THRIVE — and how you can, too. We cover:

1. The two-step reality check to guide you when you hit rock bottom
2. Living, surviving, and thriving together as partners in life (with mind-blowing sex!)
3. How support from like-minded people can impact your healing journey
4. Joy's journey with her feminine power, emotions, and tenderness and how embracing it influenced her husband to rise into his healthy masculine energy
5. Consent - how it should feel empowering and not punishing for you or your partner
6. And so much more!

Connect with Joy:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joyharrington.ig/

Website: https://www.levelupbabe.com/

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/level-up-babe/id1486277372

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RSVP for the FREE Desire on Fire Intimacy Styles Masterclass on Feb 17th: https://www.desireonfire.com/the-intimacy-styles-masterclass/

Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/

Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/

And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/

Connect with Aimee:

Check out my Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Connect with Ellie:

Check out my Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Making the decision to follow your intuition and live unreasonably isn't a simple or easy choice. But if you're ready (or you want to be!) to live beyond your reasons and step into more healing, self-compassion, and connection in your life - then this one's for you! In today's episode, we invite our dear friend, Jill Herman, to share how she stepped into her true purpose and how she inspires others with her outspoken & vulnerable voice. We dive deep into topics like politics & abortion (and how we get triggered by them!), what it's like to move beyond our own self-righteousness, and how to live a life with more possibility - because it is deeply liberating over here!

We dive into:

• Dealing with feeling triggered & self-righteousness - and some juicy wisdom around these
• How your own wounding could be affecting how you "hustle", react on social media & more
• Jill's powerful story of abortion, forgiveness & personal responsibility
• Yes - AND (what this means and why it's SO important!)
• The THREE things Jill has feared the most - and why they are the SAME THREE things that she desires most!
• And more!

Connect with Jill:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillhermanbeyou/

The Be You Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beyoupodcast_/

Get her FREE e-book on her website! https://www.jillherman.com/

Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/

Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/

And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/

Connect with Aimee:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Connect with Ellie:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Are you in love with your cycle? Do you honor it? Are you connected to your body's wisdom? Embracing and falling in love with our cycles is central to embracing our feminine. In today's episode, we have an incredibly special conversation with beautiful soul and doula, Peyton Callahan. We discuss honoring our cycles and sex education (not only for girls, but for our boys & men too!), the importance of reciprocity & community, and how we can embrace our sensuality and connect to all of the wisdom our bodies have to offer - without the shame!

We dive into:

• Peyton's important work with young girls, mothers & fathers around girls' bodies, their cycles & so much more
• Learning to receive - and the BIG lesson motherhood taught her around this
• Peyton's love story (this is so beautiful, sisters - you do not want to miss it!)
• The role gratitude can play in moving through grief
• A surprising fact about the clitoris and menopause!
• Her ebook "She Becomes" - a dad's guide to his developing daughter
• And more!

Connect with Peyton:

Website: ​​https://www.peytoncallahan.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ohdeerpeyton/

Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/

Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/

And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/

Connect with Aimee:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Connect with Ellie:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Let's get real, surrendering to desire can be painful. It can come with suffering. But the purpose of following the path is that we become the women that we're meant to be in pursuit of our greatest desires! In today's episode, we dive deep with our dear friend and coach, Cailin McDuff, to share three stories of desire and surrender - and a peek behind the curtain at what it really looks like to live in the space between wanting and having, and to relate to your desires in a more aligned way.

We dive into:

• THREE real-life examples of what it looks like to get worked by your desires
• Some of the tools & perspectives we use to move through the discomfort of holding big desires
• Aimee's recent desire journey - and how she got to the YES
• What Cailin does when she feels defeated or annoyed by a desire
• Feminine integrity, owning & honoring our desires, and dealing with disappointing others (this is a big one for a lot of us!)
• Caitlin's dating life as the ultimate surrender practice - and how she called in her lover!
• Ellie's journey to finding a place to live (surrender was vital here!)
• And so much more!

Connect with Cailin:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cailinmcduff/

Website: https://www.cailinmcduff.com/

Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/

Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/

And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/

Connect with Aimee:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Connect with Ellie:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Curious about kink? Maybe you're intimidated by it and feel frozen in that place? It's true that taboo desires can be difficult to follow, but trust us - the more you get curious about that little whisper, the more healing and expansion you can find! In today's episode, we invite coach & intimacy expert, Kayce Neill, to talk to us all about kink! We discuss the beauty in combining kink & sensuality, the common misconceptions (and what the truth really is!), and the deepened sexual experiences and connection that can be found by following your kinkiest desires.

We dive into:

• Ways to safely and playfully explore your kinky desires!
• A breakdown of the Erotic Blueprints - and why Kayce uses it as the foundation for her teaching
• Some common fears around kink & BDSM - and the real truth!
• How BDSM can be a SOBER route to a transcendental experience
• Why Kayce doesn't teach the terms Dom & Sub - and what she uses instead!
• A great place to start if you are new to kink
• Some advice for sharing taboo desires with a partner
• Kayce's experience as a courtesan
• And so much more!

Connect with Kayce:

Take the Erotic Blueprints quiz and deepen your sex! https://bit.ly/2usIDAQ

Websites: https://www.erosandkink.com/ & https://www.kimiinch.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erosandkink/

Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/

Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/

And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/

Connect with Aimee:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Connect with Ellie:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Afraid of getting canceled? We were too! But the truth is - nobody can actually cancel you. And telling the real truth might be the adventure of your life! In today's episode, Kelley and I share our stories of "getting canceled" this year and the powerful self-discoveries along the way. We discuss the truths that got us canceled, the impact and ripple effects on our lives & businesses, and why we are truly grateful for this expansive experience. Ready to lean into more truth in your life? Let's dive in because we are going to tell you why it is SO worth it.

We dive into:

• How to lean into more truth in your life - regardless of cancel culture!
• Discovering what being canceled really means to you & how you can use it to expand
• A breakdown of the posts that got us canceled (and a look at the comment section - it was pretty brutal!)
• Personal responsibility, shame & blame, and tribe mentality
• Political correctness - good or bad?
• Valuing diversity of thought and conversation over censorship
• And more!

Connect with Kelley:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode/

Website: linktr.ee/kelleymbode

Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/

Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/

And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/

Connect with Aimee:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Connect with Ellie:

Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie