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  • #148 The Real Reason You Keep Self-Sabotaging | Hema Patel

    What if the stories you've been telling yourself for years... simply aren't true?


    In this deeply moving and thought-provoking episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with RTT Hypnotherapist, Coach and Suicide Prevention Advocate Hema Patel for one of the most important conversations we've had on the show. 


    Together, we explore childhood trauma, emotional literacy, self-worth, people-pleasing, perfectionism, visibility, purpose, and the powerful role our subconscious mind plays in shaping our lives. We also dive into the heartbreaking reality of suicide, the systemic issues contributing to the mental health crisis, and why Hema believes suicide prevention is everyone's business. 


    Hema shares her own deeply personal story of experiencing suicidal thoughts, losing her cousin to suicide, growing up with racism and feelings of abandonment, and how those experiences ultimately shaped her life's mission.


    This is a conversation about healing.

    About hope.

    About finding possibility when life feels impossible.

    And about creating a world where people feel safe to be seen, heard, and understood.

    If you've ever struggled with self-doubt, felt stuck in old patterns, questioned your worth, or wondered if things can truly change, this episode is for you.


    ⏱️ CHAPTERS

    00:00 – Powerful Suicide Prevention Messages

    02:22 – Introduction & Meet Hema Patel

    06:02 – You Alright Mate? Check-In

    08:45 – Purpose Bigger Than Fear

    12:12 – People Pleasing, Worthiness & Self-Worth

    16:51 – Understanding Trauma & Childhood Wounds

    22:18 – Emotional Literacy & Why It Matters

    30:37 – Teaching Suicide Prevention In Schools

    36:30 – How Hema Defines Success

    40:22 – Why We Believe Thoughts That Aren't True

    45:05 – Education, Purpose & The Future

    55:44 – Measuring Kindness Instead of Performance

    01:07:16 – Losing Her Cousin To Suicide

    01:14:00 – The ABC of Suicide Prevention

    01:20:13 – Hope, Possibility & Reaching Out

    01:33:06 – Antidepressants, Mental Health & Awareness

    01:40:27 – Community, Connection & Finding Joy

    01:47:06 – Racism, Abandonment & Healing Childhood Wounds

    02:03:12 – Masculinity, Emotional Safety & Modern Manhood

    02:06:54 – Finding Your Voice & Sharing Your Message

    02:18:12 – What Hema Hopes You Take Away

    02:20:40 – Presence, Trust & Living In The Moment

    02:31:25 – A World Where Everyone Feels Seen

    02:32:08 – Storytelling Cards & Vulnerability

    02:35:49 – Hema's Mission To Reduce Suicide


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    🔗 Connect with Hema Patel

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hema-p-71ba9819/

    Useful Links: https://linktr.ee/ResetandRediscover

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/resetandrediscover/


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    This episode includes discussion of suicidal ideation, domestic abuse, addiction, and mental health crises.

    If you’re in the UK & Ireland and you need someone right now:

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    • NHS guidance on urgent mental health help: CLICK HERE

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    2 hr 38 min
  • #147 The Conversation That Could Save A Life | Suicide Prevention Special

    This week’s conversation honestly feels like one of the most important episodes I’ve ever recorded.


    Being released during Mental Health Awareness Week, I recently sat down with the incredible Rose Rowkins for a raw, honest and deeply powerful conversation about suicide prevention, emotional literacy, masculinity, parenting, modern pressure, hope, and the importance of human connection.


    Statistics still show that around 6,000–7,000 people die by suicide every year in the UK. Around 75% are men. Many never speak to a mental health professional before they die.


    That has to change.


    One of the biggest things I took away from the ASIST training Rose delivers is this:


    👉 Suicide prevention does not belong solely to professionals.

    It belongs to all of us.


    This conversation explores how we’ve created a world where people often feel safer hiding their pain than speaking about it… and how we can all learn to better show up for each other when it matters most.


    Rose shares her own lived experience with suicidal thoughts, the devastating loss that shaped her mission, and the life-changing lessons she’s learned through over a decade of suicide prevention work.


    We talk about:


    • Why people don’t want to die, they want the pain to end
    • The power of simply listening without trying to fix
    • Why emotional literacy needs to start in schools
    • Modern masculinity and the pressure men carry silently
    • Parenting, kindness and raising emotionally aware children
    • The role community and belonging play in keeping people alive
    • Redefining success beyond money, status and achievement
    • Why awkward conversations can genuinely save lives

    And honestly… this episode reminded me again that hope often begins with one conversation.

    If this episode helps even one person feel less alone, it’s worth it.


    ⏱️ CHAPTERS

    00:00 – Introduction: Why This Conversation Matters

    02:13 – “You Alright Mate?” | Rose’s Honest Check-In

    06:56 – Why Work Shouldn’t Become Your Identity

    09:35 – Parenting, Kindness & Emotional Literacy

    14:18 – How Rose Defines Success

    16:30 – Leaving Corporate Life & Following Your Heart

    25:59 – The Suicide That Changed Rose’s Life Forever

    32:40 – What Samaritans Taught Rose About Suicide Prevention

    35:45 – “People Don’t Want To Die — They Want The Pain To End”

    41:02 – Rose Opens Up About Her Own Suicidal Thoughts

    46:57 – Why We Must Stop Waiting For People To Reach Out

    50:57 – Why Emotional Literacy Must Start In Schools

    57:01 – Why Asking About Suicide Saves Lives

    01:03:45 – Community, Belonging & Human Connection

    01:11:27 – Are We Teaching Children How To Live?

    01:20:01 – The Language That Can Save A Life

    01:30:59 – Financial Pressure, Success & Suicide

    01:40:48 – Why Talking About Death Helps Us Live

    01:50:06 – What Gives Rose Hope

    01:53:00 – A Message For Anyone Struggling Right Now

    01:54:26 – Closing Reflections & Final Thoughts

    ⸻

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    👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast


    🔗 Connect with Rose Rowkins: https://www.linkedin.com/in/roserowkins/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/start_the_conv/

    Website: https://www.starttheconversation.uk/


    💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success, mental health and suicide prevention.


    🚨 If you are struggling right now, please speak to someone.

    UK Samaritans: Call 116 123 (24/7)

    👉 Samaritans UK


    SPONSORED BY:


    Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.uk

    Brown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.uk

    Carpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com


    🎬 PRODUCED BY:


    H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/

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    2 hr 2 min
  • #146 How Much of Your Life Is a Performance?

    👉 How much of life is actually a performance… and what does it really mean to be yourself?


    In this episode, I sit down with my good friend Craig Whiteley, West End performer, drama teacher, and someone who has experienced both the highs of standing ovations and the deeper lessons that come after.


    We explore the masks we wear, the roles we play, and the question so many of us avoid…


    👉 Who am I… really?


    From performing on the West End to teaching the next generation, Craig shares powerful insights on authenticity, resilience, self-belief, and why success isn’t what we’ve been taught.


    This is an honest, emotional, and deeply human conversation about identity, kindness, and finding balance in a world full of noise.


    ⏱️ CHAPTERS


    00:00 – Introduction & the BIG question: Is life a performance?

    02:30 – “You Alright Mate?” – navigating life, noise & pressure

    05:00 – Family, cancer, and finding purpose through challenge

    09:30 – Childhood, kindness & where mindset begins

    12:30 – Who am I? Identity beyond roles & achievements

    18:30 – Teaching kids confidence, play & self-belief

    23:00 – What success really means (then vs now)

    30:00 – Regret, perspective & redefining priorities

    40:00 – Why we struggle with self-worth & accepting compliments

    50:00 – The highs of performing vs real life fulfilment

    01:00:00 – Ego, validation & being enough

    01:10:00 – Social media, performance & authenticity

    01:20:00 – Resilience, rejection & staying grounded

    01:30:00 – Final reflections: kindness, play & legacy


    💭 KEY THEMES


    • Authenticity vs performance
    • Redefining success beyond status and achievement
    • Confidence, self-worth & validation
    • The importance of play and joy
    • Resilience, rejection & growth
    • Teaching the next generation emotional literacy
    • Kindness as a core value


    🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:


    👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast


    🔗 Connect with Craig Whiteley

    https://thetheatreworkshop.com/person/craig-whiteley/


    💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.


    SPONSORED BY:


    Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.uk

    Brown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.uk

    Carpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com


    🎬 PRODUCED BY:


    H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1 hr 59 min
  • #145 Why So Many Successful Men Feel Empty

    What if success isn’t something you achieve… but something you become?


    In this powerful episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with Volker Ballueder, coach, therapist, author, and host of Stories of Success, for a deep conversation about what success really means in today’s world.


    After interviewing high performers and building a successful corporate career, Volker realised that money, status, and external validation were never the full answer. Like many people, he discovered that reaching society’s version of success can still leave you feeling empty.


    Together, we explore the difference between success and fulfilment, why so many men silently struggle under pressure, and how emotional intelligence may be one of the most important skills we never get taught.


    We also discuss comparison culture, social media, midlife reflection, mindfulness, education, parenting, and the importance of helping young people define success for themselves, not through grades, job titles, or wealth, but through values, purpose, connection, and inner peace.


    This episode is for anyone questioning the path they’re on… feeling the pressure to keep achieving… or searching for a more meaningful definition of success.

    Volker shares honest reflections on chasing money earlier in life, how redundancy pushed him toward coaching and therapy, and why helping others now feels more rewarding than any corporate milestone ever did.


    We also talk openly about men’s mental health, suicide prevention, vulnerability, and why asking one simple question, You Alright Mate?, can change lives.

    A thoughtful, honest, and timely conversation about identity, fulfilment, masculinity, and what it means to live a life true to yourself.



    ⏱️ CHAPTERS


    00:00 Introduction

    02:10 You Alright Mate?

    03:10 How Volker Defines Success

    04:45 Chasing Money vs Finding Fulfilment

    07:45 Lifelong Learning & Education

    10:40 School Systems & Different Types of Intelligence

    15:30 Emotional Intelligence in Schools

    24:00 Creativity, Curiosity & Child-Led Learning

    28:40 Comparison Culture & Social Media

    31:55 Living True to Yourself

    38:50 What High Achievers Taught Volker About Success

    45:10 Why Purpose Matters More Than Money

    55:30 Being Enough As You Are

    59:55 Midlife Crisis or Midlife Awakening?

    1:03:10 Why Men Don’t Talk

    1:08:20 Vulnerability Is Strength

    1:17:40 Preventing Crisis Before It Happens

    1:22:40 Mindfulness & Self-Awareness

    1:31:15 Habits of Successful People

    1:45:15 What To Do If You’re Struggling

    1:54:55 Advice to Younger Volker

    1:55:34 What Does A Life Well Lived Look Like?


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    👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast


    🔗 Connect with Volker Ballueder


    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ballueder/

    Website: https://obnat.us/

    https://volkerballueder.com/


    💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.



    SPONSORED BY:


    Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.uk

    Brown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.uk

    Carpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com


    🎬 PRODUCED BY:


    H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/

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    2 hr 2 min
  • The Manosphere Isn’t Helping Men (Here’s Why)

    We’re losing 84 men a week in the UK…

    And we’re still telling men not to feel.


    Something isn’t working.

    And we need to talk about it.


    In this solo episode of The Different Hats Podcast, I reflect on watching the manosphere and the growing influence of voices like Andrew Tate.


    But this isn’t about calling anyone out.


    It’s about asking a deeper question:


    Are we helping men… or hurting them?


    Because behind the “alpha” messaging…

    there’s something else:


    Pressure.

    Disconnection.


    And a version of success that looks strong on the outside…

    but often feels empty within.


    From my own experience, and hundreds of conversations through the podcast, I’ve seen a different truth:


    The strongest men don’t do life alone.


    They feel.

    They speak.

    They connect.


    And maybe that’s where we need to start.


    💭 KEY THEMES

    ⏱️ 00:00 – The rise of the manosphere & its impact on young men

    ⏱️ 01:15 – Toxic masculinity vs healthy masculinity

    ⏱️ 02:30 – Emotional suppression, loneliness & male suicide

    ⏱️ 04:00 – The illusion of “alpha” success

    ⏱️ 05:30 – Identity, belonging & fear

    ⏱️ 07:00 – Redefining success: connection, authenticity & relationships

    ⏱️ 08:30 – Why emotional literacy needs to start in schools


    💡 A QUESTION FOR YOU


    How do you define success?


    Not what you’ve been told.

    Not what you’ve seen online.

    Take a moment. Write it down.

    Then share it with someone… or drop it in the comments below.


    Let’s start the conversation.


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    👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast


    💡 If this episode resonated with you…

    Please like, comment, and share.

    Your support helps us change the narrative around success and mental health.


    SPONSORED BY:


    Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.uk

    Brown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.uk

    Carpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com


    🎬 PRODUCED BY:


    H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    10 min
  • #144 The Real Reason You Feel Disconnected

    What changes in someone’s life when they start reconnecting with themselves?


    In this powerful return conversation, Marc Convey joins me for part two of his Different Hats journey, and this one goes even deeper.


    After our first conversation explored Marc’s extraordinary story of surviving a life-changing accident at 14, this episode focuses on what came next: leaving business behind, travelling in his van, writing his book, redefining success, and asking the deeper questions about identity, values, adversity, education, and what it really means to live from the inside out.


    Marc shares why success now means being decent to himself and decent to others, how discovering his core values of connection and freedom changed everything, and why so many of us are living from the outside in. We explore what young people really need, why the education system is failing to prepare them for life, the role of community and mentorship, and how adversity can become a gift when we learn how to reframe our story.


    This is a deeply thoughtful, human conversation about healing, self-awareness, purpose, burnout, contentment, and the power of connection.

    If you’ve ever felt disconnected from yourself, questioned the path you’re on, or wondered what real success actually looks like, this episode is for you.


    CHAPTERS:


    00:00 – Introduction

    02:20 – “Are you alright mate?” and the zone of contentment

    03:38 – Marc’s definition of success now

    07:17 – Leaving business, core values, and the power of freedom + connection

    18:54 – Uncertainty, discomfort, and what young people really need

    26:21 – Where to start when you’re in a dark place

    36:34 – Isolation, mindset, and taking responsibility for your wellbeing

    53:08 – The biggest lessons Marc has learned in recent years

    58:06 – AI, community, and dropping pebbles in your own pond

    1:16:04 – Are people living consciously or just drifting into life?

    1:24:03 – The manosphere, role models, and what young men need most

    1:32:40 – What Marc would change about education if he were Prime Minister

    1:36:17 – What Marc would say to his 14-year-old self

    1:38:15 – How to start reconnecting with yourself

    1:39:47 – How Marc knows when he’s nearing burnout


    Marc brings such wisdom, depth and honesty to this conversation, and I honestly think this is one of those episodes that will stay with people for a long time.


    🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:


    👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast


    🔗 Connect with Marc Convey

    Website: https://www.marcconvey.com/

    Substack: https://substack.com/@makingamarc

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marc-convey/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_conv


    💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.


    SPONSORED BY:


    Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.uk

    Brown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.uk

    Carpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com


    🎬 PRODUCED BY:


    H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1 hr 48 min
  • #143 Why Men Suffer in Silence… And How We Change It

    What happens when grief, creativity, masculinity and mental health collide?


    In this powerful episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with the brilliant Simon David Eden for a deeply moving conversation about childhood trauma, creativity, suicide, emotional expression, education, and the healing power of storytelling.


    Simon shares his extraordinary journey growing up in Moulsecoomb, being expelled from school at 12, finding refuge in writing, drawing and music, and navigating the devastating loss of his brother to suicide. We also explore his upcoming exhibition Shadow Light: Songs My Brother Taught Me, a profoundly personal body of work exploring grief, brotherhood, masculinity, and emotional inheritance between men.


    This conversation goes far beyond Simon’s creative career. It’s about what happens when boys and men are never given the language to express what they feel. It’s about the mentors who change our lives. It’s about why creativity matters. And it’s about the urgent need to create spaces where men feel safe enough to ask for help.

    A truly honest, heartfelt and important conversation.


    In this episode, we explore:


    • How Simon defines success through love, integrity and hope
    • Growing up in Moulsecoomb and the trauma that shaped him
    • Being expelled from school and feeling failed by education
    • How creativity became a lifeline
    • The loss of Simon’s brother to suicide
    • Why men often struggle to express what they feel
    • How art and storytelling can help us process pain
    • Why schools must nurture creativity and emotional literacy
    • The hope behind Simon’s exhibition Shadow Light: Songs My Brother Taught Me


    If this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who might need it.


    CHAPTERS


    00:00 Introduction

    00:40 Reflecting on the You Alright Mate? gathering

    02:09 What this conversation explores

    04:20 “You alright, mate?” check-in

    05:22 Simon’s definition of success

    07:26 Success, integrity and living true to yourself

    12:39 Why external success can feel hollow

    13:33 Poverty, pain and choosing a different path

    18:36 Growing up in Moulsecoomb

    25:24 Abandonment, trauma and survival

    31:23 Being expelled from school

    37:48 Creativity as escape and expression

    42:13 Why education often stifles creativity

    49:14 The power of mentors and being truly seen

    01:00:55 The purpose behind the exhibition

    01:03:59 Can creativity help prevent suicide?

    01:08:19 The gift of helping others

    01:09:53 Processing grief then and now

    01:13:59 Will the pain ever leave?

    01:15:33 The message Simon hopes the exhibition leaves behind

    01:19:50 Holding space, hope and the next hour

    01:21:23 Depression, demons and getting through dark moments

    01:26:10 Integrity, self-doubt and staying true

    01:30:44 Following dreams despite the voices that doubt you

    01::34 Final reflections on hope, suicide prevention and legacy

    01:41:37 Storytelling card: legacy beyond career

    01:43:19 Closing thoughts


    🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:


    👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast


    🔗 Connect with Simon David Eden


    Exhibition details: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/shadow-light-songs-my-brother-taught-me-tickets-1983767367598?aff=ebdsoporgprofile

    Website: https://simondavideden.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simon-david-eden-83168817/


    💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.


    ⚠️ Support note (please read)


    This episode includes discussion of suicidal ideation, domestic abuse, addiction, and mental health crises.

    If you’re in the UK & Ireland and you need someone right now:

    • Samaritans (24/7): 116 123
    • Text SHOUT to 85258 (UK, 24/7):
    • If you or someone is in immediate danger, call 999.
    • NHS guidance on urgent mental health help: CLICK HERE

    SPONSORED BY:


    Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.uk

    Brown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.uk

    Carpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com


    🎬 PRODUCED BY:


    H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    2 hr 2 min
  • #142 Are We Failing Our Kids? | Former Headteacher Dr. Mitchell on What’s Broken in Education

    What if the education system is failing the very children it’s meant to help?


    In this powerful episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with former headteacher, educator and English Channel swimmer Dr Hildi Mitchell to explore a big question:


    If we could redesign the education system from scratch, what would it look like?


    Drawing on decades of experience inside schools, Hildi shares why emotional literacy, safety, belonging and play are just as important as academic achievement, and why many children are currently being asked to fit into a system that wasn’t built for them.


    We talk about SATs, neurodiversity, mental health, leadership in schools, and why true success should be measured by the impact we have on others, not just grades or results.


    Hildi also shares the deeply personal story of supporting her daughter through school anxiety, and what swimming the English Channel taught her about resilience, humility and asking for help.


    This is an important conversation for parents, teachers, school leaders and anyone who believes education needs to evolve.



    CHAPTERS


    00:00 Introduction

    02:15 What does success mean in education?

    10:57 Are we starting formal education too early?

    19:33 The mental health cost of the current school system

    39:24 Supporting children who struggle with school

    56:15 If we redesigned education from scratch

    1:09:22 Teaching children they are enough

    1:25:04 Advice for parents

    1:36:02 Lessons from swimming the English Channel


    🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:


    👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast


    🔗 Connect with Dr Hildi Mitchell


    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmitchellswimsthechannel/


    💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.


    SPONSORED BY:


    Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.uk

    Brown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.uk

    Carpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com


    🎬 PRODUCED BY:


    H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1 hr 49 min
  • #141 “I’m Okay… But I’m Not All Right” | How Joy & Community Can Save Men’s Lives

    “I'm okay… but I’m not all right.”


    What happens when strong men finally answer that question honestly?


    In this game-changing episode, I sit down with Paul Jukes, leader of The Outta Puff Daddies, to explore masculinity, mental health, joy, community… and the power of simply asking:


    You Alright Mate?


    Paul shares his deeply personal story of living through a mental health crisis in 2018, despite a loving upbringing, strong friendships, and a seemingly “successful” life on the outside.


    Daily physical pain.

    Emotional isolation.

    Breaking point on a family holiday.

    And the moment that changed everything.


    From that darkness came something extraordinary:

    A brotherhood of men.

    A dance crew that went viral.

    A movement built on joy, humour, and emotional honesty.

    And lives being saved through community.


    We explore the big question:

    Can movement, humour and community unlock conversations that traditional mental health messaging struggles to reach?


    This is a conversation about redefining masculinity, not replacing strength, but widening it.

    Not revolution.

    Evolution.


    And if you care about men’s mental health, fatherhood, purpose, identity or redefining success, this episode will stay with you.


    ⏱️ Timestamps


    00:00 – Introduction

    03:00 – Financial pressure, identity & letting go

    07:30 – Modern masculinity: Evolution, not revolution

    12:20 – Teaching emotional literacy to the next generation

    15:10 – What is success (and does it change over time?)

    21:30 – Identity, purpose & empty nest transitions

    29:45 – Who was Paul before Outta Puff Daddies?

    36:00 – The shoulder injury & silent mental decline

    42:50 – Breaking point on holiday

    45:50 – The power of finally talking

    50:30 – The “glass of water” analogy (powerful moment)

    55:00 – Why community is the real toolkit

    1:02:00 – The man who said, “You saved my life.”

    1:07:30 – Why joy is essential in men’s mental health

    1:11:00 – The Outta Puff Daddies story & viral growth

    1:20:00 – 40 million views… but what really matters

    1:27:00 – Self-care, glimmers & finding joy

    1:41:30 – If Paul were Prime Minister tomorrow…

    1:45:30 – Final reflection: Can joy unlock the conversation?


    🔥 Key Themes
    • Masculinity redefined
    • Vulnerability as strength
    • Community as protection
    • Emotional literacy in boys
    • The danger of silent suffering
    • Why “just talk” isn’t enough without safe spaces
    • Movement as medicine
    • Joy as a gateway to healing
    • Purpose beyond performance

    🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:


    👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast


    🔗 Connect with Paul Jukes


    Website: https://www.outtapuffdaddys.co.uk/

    Instagram: @outtapuffdaddies

    TikTok: @outtapuffdaddies

    Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pauljukes/


    💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below.

    Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.


    SPONSORED BY:


    Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.uk

    Brown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.uk

    Carpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com


    🎬 PRODUCED BY:


    H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/

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    1 hr 55 min
  • #140 Redefining Success at 33 Weeks Pregnant | Building HERstory & Letting Go

    What does success really look like when life forces you to slow down?


    In this episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with founder and HERstory creator Stephanie Prior at a pivotal moment in her life, 33 weeks pregnant, scaling her business, and learning to let go of control.


    But this isn’t just a conversation about pregnancy or entrepreneurship.

    It’s about identity.

    It’s about leadership.

    It’s about redefining success beyond performance, perfection and proving yourself.

    Stephanie opens up about:

    • Growing up navigating identity, belonging and racism
    • The turning point at 16 that reshaped her path
    • From pageantry to public life, and what representation really means
    • Building HERstory into one of Sussex’s leading women-in-business platforms
    • The fear of losing control as a founder
    • Delegation, leadership and commercialising her business
    • Why success isn’t just money, it’s self-belief, gratitude and legacy


    As Stephanie prepares for motherhood, she reflects on ambition, vulnerability and what it means to build something that doesn’t depend entirely on you.

    This is a powerful case study in redefining success in real time.


    ⏱️ Chapters


    00:00 – Introduction

    02:24 – Delegation, leadership and commercialising the business

    07:41 – Early career, mentorship and full-circle moments

    14:09 – What does success really mean?

    18:34 – Identity, school, and finding perspective

    21:10 – The Gambia trip that changed everything

    29:00 – Belonging, racism and confidence

    36:45 – Pageantry and representation

    44:22 – The origin of HERstory

    49:48 – Creating space in business

    1:03:29 – Entrepreneurship wasn’t the plan

    1:13:19 – Pregnancy, control and fear

    1:25:22 – Ambition, motherhood and the next chapter

    1:30:36 – What she’d tell her younger self


    🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:


    👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast


    🔗 Connect with Stephanie Prior


    Website: https://prior-media.com/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missstephanieprior/

    LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/stephanie-prior-67903b84


    💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.


    SPONSORED BY:


    Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.uk

    Brown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.uk

    Carpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com


    🎬 PRODUCED BY:


    H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1 hr 40 min

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