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Y'all, this one hit different. Dr. Monique pulled up and did not come to play. She brought the real, the research, and the receipts on what long-term marriage actually looks like -- not the highlight reel version. Catch the full episode on YouTube - https://youtu.be/PwlSGxxH52Y

In this episode, we get into:

• The biggest lie people tell themselves before getting married (and why "I'm ready" might be the most dangerous one)
• Why being committed to the wedding day is not the same as being committed to the life after it
• The truth about 50/50 -- and why Dr. Monique says it's actually 100/100, redefined
• E's honest breakdown of the first two years in a blended family and what changed everything
• KayCee on growing individually while staying connected -- and why that's not a bad thing
• Why love alone will not hold a marriage together, and what actually will
• The connection Dr. Monique makes between couples therapy, generational patterns, and Black women's sexual health

About Dr. Monique: Dr. Monique is a therapist who works with individuals, couples, and families. She brings sharp insight, warmth, and zero sugarcoating to the conversation. She does premarital counseling, couples sessions, and creates space for people to show up as their full, unapologetic selves.

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2026 Misogi Goal Reset Guide & The Hiring Brief

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"Pray about it" has value. But what happens when prayer alone is not moving the problem? Dr. Monique Tarver, licensed therapist with 26 years of experience, breaks down what mental health actually means, why "protecting your peace" might be avoidance in disguise, and why the Black community's relationship with therapy runs deeper than stigma.

This is a clip from our full episode "Black Mental Health, Sex & Marriage" with Dr. Monique L. Tarver. Watch the full conversation here: https://youtu.be/Vi18E5rLX5k

TIMESTAMPS

• 0:00 How do you break through generational mental health stigma?
• 0:05 What mental health actually is (and what it is not)
• 1:02 "Pray about it" has value AND so does therapy
• 1:24 Why "what stays in the house" has historical roots
• 4:11 "Protecting your peace" vs. actual avoidance
• 5:22 When prayer is not working: how to know when to pivot
• 13:39 The difference between therapy, counseling, and life coaching
• 16:14 Therapy has goals. You are supposed to graduate.

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Y'all. This episode. Dr. Monique L. Tarver walked into the D&D studio and did not hold back, not even a little bit. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist with over two decades of experience, a published researcher, a ministry leader, and one of the most grounded, real, and brilliant people we have had the pleasure of sitting with. This conversation covers a lot of ground, and every single topic connects back to something that matters for your health, your relationships, and your life.

Here's what we got into:

• Why "pray about it" has value AND why it cannot always be the only tool, and how to know which one you need
• The real definition of mental health (hint: it is a process, not a destination, and it is not just the absence of stress)
• How "protecting your peace" can actually be a form of avoidance, and what accountability looks like when it's been mislabeled as toxicity
• Dr. Tarver's take on AI as therapy, why she sees value in it as a supplement but not a replacement for human connection
• What 80 combined years of marriage looks like at one table, including the biggest lie people tell themselves before walking down the aisle
• Why marriage is 100/100 and not 50/50, and what that actually means when you're running on empty
• Dr. Tarver's published research on Black women's sexual health, the shame-blame-guilt cycle that starts in middle school, and why most Black women were never taught to expect pleasure
• How she holds her faith and her clinical practice in the same hands without choosing sides
• What disrupting your own life looks like in practice, from slow mornings and coffee to walking the Whitney Plantation and arriving at gratitude

About Dr. Monique L. Tarver: Dr. Monique L. Tarver is a licensed marriage and family therapist, wellness educator, curriculum designer, and published author whose research on the sexual health of Black women has been featured in the Journal of Feminist Family Therapy. She is the founder of Good Times Ahead Marriage and Family Ministries, where she has served couples and families since 2000. She is also an adjunct professor training the next generation of therapists. When she is not in session or in the classroom, she is spending time with her husband of nearly 30 years, Mr. Wonderful (spelled O-N-E-derful, and yes there is a reason for that), and their four children.

Before you close this episode: If something Dr. Tarver said hit a nerve, that is the conversation you need to keep having. Share this episode with someone who grew up being told to pray about it and never got anything else. They need to hear this.

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2026 Misogi Goal Reset Guide & The Hiring Brief

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Spring is here and E and KayCee are ready to get you out of the house and into your element. This episode is all about taking your fitness outside, shaking up stale routines, and dealing with those seasonal allergies that try to shut the whole thing down.

What they covered:

• Why spring is the perfect time to reset your workout routine and why your body actually needs the change
• Shinrin-Yoku, also called forest bathing, and how a slow nature walk counts as real wellness
• Urban hiking and outdoor fitness ideas for people who live in the city, not just the suburbs
• How sunlight affects your mood more than most people realize and what that has to do with your motivation
• Natural allergy remedies including local honey (and why local means LOCAL to your zip code), the Neti pot, the Butterbur herb, and when to schedule workouts to avoid peak pollen hours
• Spring workout options that feel like play: cycling, swimming, gardening, park body weight sessions, and more
• KayCee's doctor's reminder that the best gift you can give yourself costs nothing but a little time

No guest this episode. Just E and KayCee keeping it real about what they are actually doing, what they are trying, and what they are definitely not doing (KayCee is not touching a Neti pot, period).

Try one thing from this episode this week. Just one. Then come back and tell us how it went. Leave a review, share this with a friend who needs a spring reset, and subscribe so you never miss the conversation.

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Your presidents grew it. Your doctors prescribed it. So how did cannabis go from mainstream medicine to a felony?

E and KayCee break down 12,000 years of cannabis history, who criminalized it and why, how it became a tool to incarcerate Black and brown communities, and what the legalization era is actually getting wrong.

This episode covers the real origin of 420 (yes, it's from the Bay), the political machinery behind the War on Drugs, the racial bias Black patients face in pain management, different strains and uses, the dangers of edibles, and why Black entrepreneurs are being locked out of the industry they were locked up over.
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2026 Misogi Goal Reset Guide & The Hiring Brief

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Real talk: we are ALL guilty of it. Posting too much, scrolling too long, and somewhere in between, forgetting where the line is. E and KayCee sat down and had the honest conversation about oversharing in the digital era — where it comes from, what it costs you, and how to get intentional about what you put out there.

What we got into:

• The dopamine trap — why likes and comments keep pulling you back for more, and how that chase turns into an oversharing cycle
• Red flag moments: when a Facebook post becomes a dissertation about your relationship and nobody asked
• How platform context matters — LinkedIn was built as a digital resume, not your personal diary (E speaks from experience)
• The real-life cost of airing things online: damaged relationships, legal risk, and inviting trolls into your vulnerable moments
• Tabitha Brown as an example of sharing with intention — frequent, warm, purposeful
• The 20% rule: keeping at least a fifth of your life completely offline, no exceptions
• Practical ways to digital detox — from app removal to Sunday phone fasts

Whether you're a content creator building a brand or just someone trying to stay connected, this episode will have you asking yourself: am I sharing to connect, to compete, or to brand? The answer might surprise you.

Drop your thoughts in the comments on YouTube — we genuinely want to hear from you.

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This week E and KayCee sit down with Karen Glover, a San Francisco native E has known for over twenty years. Karen is the definition of a Renaissance woman: real estate agent, tax preparer, notary, contract analyst, and now a photo booth business owner. She's also the person who introduced E to her husband, so yes, she's a matchmaker too.

What we get into:

• How Karen got into real estate in 2004 after a family member dropped the ball on her first home purchase
• Buying a new build during the boom, refinancing, and watching it drop from $500K to $240K
• What "walking away" from a house actually means and how foreclosure worked in 2008
• Starting her tax business in 2007 by doing her own return and helping friends
• Stacking income streams without quitting her nine to five
• ADUs, Sacramento's pre-approved plans program, and using equity the smart way
• Raising her nieces and nephew while still making time for herself

About Karen: Bay Area born and raised, Karen has been in real estate since 2004 and tax prep since 2007. She added notary services, contract analyst work in construction, and launched her photo booth business in 2024. She's a mom, an auntie raising four kids, and the friend everybody calls when they need advice.

Find Karen: [email protected]

If this episode hit different, share it with that one friend who keeps saying "I wish I knew how to start." Drop a comment and tell us which income stream surprised you most.

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The Disrupt and Discuss podcast is offering a free Misogi goal-setting template to help you prepare for 2026. This resource identifies your specific goal-setting style and provides a structure that works for your brain. Whether you are building a business or improving health, the framework turns ideas into challenging but doable goals. You can access this free offer by clicking the link in the description.

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E and KayCee are tackling the question nobody wants to answer honestly: is a college degree still worth the debt? This one's personal, and it got real fast.

In this episode, they dig into:

• $1.84 trillion in student loan debt and what that number actually means for real people
• The full breakdown of what it costs to live as a new grad in the Bay Area (spoiler: it's rough)
• Which degrees are still essential and which ones might not be worth the paper they're printed on
• Why 62% of jobs no longer require a degree and what recruiters like E are actually looking for
• Free certification paths through Google, LinkedIn Learning, and IBM that can replace years of school
• The comeback of trades and blue collar careers (KayCee's husband retired after 38 years as a mechanic)
• Harvard MBA vs. garage entrepreneur: who would you trust to help you build a business?
• Using AI tools like ChatGPT to prepare smarter questions before doctor visits
• Why your doctor's opinion is one opinion, not gospel

Both E and KayCee bring their 20+ years of HR and recruiting experience to this one. KayCee shares her own story of getting a fine arts degree and ending up in a completely different career. It hits different when you've lived it.

Drop a comment: If you could do it over, would you still get the degree you got? KayCee already said no. What about you?

The Disrupt and Discuss podcast is offering a free Misogi goal-setting template to help you prepare for 2026. This resource identifies your specific goal-setting style and provides a structure that works for your brain. Whether you are building a business or improving health, the framework turns ideas into challenging but doable goals. You can access this free offer by clicking the link in the description.

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Pull up a chair because this one is personal. E and KayCee are introducing themselves for the very first time and telling you exactly how Disrupt & Discuss came to be. Spoiler: it started with fear, faith, and a whole lot of hiking.

In this episode, we're talking about:

• KayCee's 17-year healthcare career and why she walked away from it
• The false positive mammogram call that put life into perspective
• How The Fitness Collective and MyHerba were born out of the pandemic
• E's return to YouTube after a 10-year break
• A colon scare that led to a full plant-based lifestyle shift in 60 days
• The two-hour hikes where all these conversations really started
• Why this podcast is their twist on health, wellness, and real life

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2026 Misogi Goal Reset Guide & The Hiring Brief

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B.L. Lewis didn't know he was in that car seat at age 3 watching his mother nearly get beaten to death — until therapy unlocked the memory 30 years later. In Part 2 of this Disrupt & Discuss conversation, B gets raw about childhood trauma, suppressed pain, and the moment he drove to his biological father's house after 20 years of silence.
We get into what the Red Pill movement gets right and wrong about Black fatherhood, why being a bonus dad to a fatherless boy is one of the most honorable things a man can do, and how Paul Robeson's father's words shaped how B raises his kids. Plus B reads live from his poetry book, breaks down his ADHD diagnosis, and drops the philosophy behind his TOMAG publishing company.
Watch Part 1 first: https://youtu.be/ucMGjtbRKrU?si=kaFG4cAgF216p-Zo
📖 Some Days Are Better Than Others: https://a.co/d/049mltuv
📖 The Way of the Superior Man: https://a.co/d/0cIHn7o0
📖 The Disorganized Mind: https://a.co/d/01dC8ujt
🌐 Goodreads: goodreads.com
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