Ditching Perfection

By Carly BartlettReligion & Spirituality Christianity

Ditching Perfection episodes

November 01, 2022 Episode 34: Enneagram 8 | Teddy Bears In Cement Suits | Hannah Helwege
Hannah shares with us about:
💡 What it is like to be an Enneagram 8,
💡 The difference between transparency and vulnerability, and
💡 How God has helped her realize that not only does God carry her burdens, but God also carries her.
Hannah Helwege is the High School Pastor at Fellowship Monrovia, a Gospel-centered, multi-ethnic, intergenerational church near Los Angeles. When she's not at church, you can find Hannah outside with an adventure on her mind, on a couch with a good book in her hand, at home with her husband cooking a new recipe, or surrounded by friends with a smile on her face. Yes, Hannah is aware that that was the cheesiest bio line you could ever read.

You can connect with Hannah on Instagram @hannah.helwege. I'm also on instagram @carlycommunicates! I'd love to connect with you there!
Perfectionist Character Quiz: carlycommunicates.com/resources
Enneagram Assessment: https://coach.yourenneagramcoach.com/karissa-harrison

1 hr 2 min
October 25, 2022 Episode 33: Enneagram 5 | Moving From “I Need To Know More,” To “I Am Enough" | James Austin
James Austin will be my guest on the podcast next Tuesday!
He will be chatting with us about:
💡 What it is like to be an Enneagram 5,
💡 His voracious love of learning, and
💡 How God has helped him move from “I need to know more,” to “I am enough."

James Austin is the Pastor of Camas Church of the Nazarene in the beautiful Pacific Northwest. He is a graduate of Northwest Nazarene University and a lifelong student and practitioner in the Christian contemplative traditions. In addition to being a seeker of truth and wholeness, James also seeks out the best coffee wherever he is. James is married to Stephanie and they have three incredible kids.
1 hr 8 min
October 18, 2022 Episode 32: Enneagram 4 | Your “Too Much” Is Actually Your Superpower | Ali Gentry
My friend, Ali Gentry is here to talk with us about:
💡 What it is like to be an Enneagram 4,
💡 How what you've thought of as “too much” is actually your superpower, and
💡 How God sits with us in our emotions, right where we are.
Ali Gentry is the CEO and Founder of Vibrant Ministries, a speaker, preacher, and radio show and podcast host of “The Vibrant Life Show.” Ali is also the Women’s Ministry Lead and on the Teaching Team at Renovation Church in Phoenix, AZ. Along with traveling and speaking, Ali founded a monthly women’s event in Phoenix called ARISE. This event is for women across all ages, churches and backgrounds to come together, connect, worship, and serve! Adventure is her love language, while her passion is to see people live fully into the gifts God has given them, so that they can serve the church and the world!
1 hr 20 min
October 11, 2022 Episode 31: Enneagram 3 | Loved For Who You Are, Not What You Do | Bre Cairns Sheldon
Today, my friend, Bre Cairns Sheldon is on the podcast to share with us:
💡 What it is like to be an Enneagram 3,
💡 How to recognize signs of stress and overwhelm, and
💡 How God has helped her recognize the difference between healthy rest and avoidance.
We also talk about the best member of *NSYNC, our experiences leading worship together, and the gift of a weekly Sabbath.
Bre Cairns Sheldon is the Executive Director for Midtown Church, a church plant in Boise, ID. After graduating with a degree in Communication from Northwest Nazarene University, Bre spent a year in the business world before entering into church ministry. Bre loves making new friends and creating spaces where people can thrive. She has a passion for encouraging and inspiring others to become healthy & whole in all aspects of life. Bre's deepest desire is for people to see themselves the way that Christ does, and to live into the joy and confidence that comes through a relationship with Jesus. In her spare time, Bre loves playing volleyball, watching baseball (go Giants!), spending quality time with her husband Jared, and prepping the nursery for their little one who is due in February.
Are you interested in learning about your Enneagram type? Here is a reliable & free Enneagram assessment: https://coach.yourenneagramcoach.com/karissa-harrison Have you taken my Perfectionist Character Quiz? You can access it here: https://carlycommunicates.com/resources/ As always, I'd love to connect with you, so feel free to reach out to me online at carlycommunicates.com/contact or on instagram at @carlycommunicates.
1 hr 5 min
October 04, 2022 Episode 30: Enneagram 2 | Courageously Naming Your Need | Kylee Pearson Rincones
Kylee Pearson Rincones is my guest on the podcast! She is here to chat with us about: 💡 What it is like to be an Enneagram 2, 💡 How to become courageous in naming your needs, and 💡 How God has equipped her to care deeply for people in the midst of pain. We will also talk about playing shuffleboard, our friendship that goes back to elementary church camp days, and the memorable 21st birthday party that she threw for me! 🎂 Kylee is a licensed professional counselor and educator who knows the west coast is the best coast AND yet has been learning and loving the Midwest for almost 10 years. She enjoys creating art, music, and community in Kansas with her husband, Daniel. Kylee loves to play games, whether it be cards, strategy games, or pickleball, and she also enjoys appreciating God's creation on a walkabout outside. Kylee believes that through relationship, healing and growth flourishes.
1 hr 5 min
September 27, 2022 Episode 29: Enneagram 1 | Tuning into the Voice of Hope | Trevor Lubiens
People who identify as Enneagram 1s are known to be ethical, responsible, and principled people. Enneagram 1s are often called “Perfectionists,” but a more wholistic name for these amazing individuals is the “Reformers.” Enneagram 1s see the potential in the world and commit themselves to seeing the good come to fruition in their own lives, their work, and in the world around them.
One of the downsides that Enneagram 1s experience is the presence of their inner critic, who often dominates one’s inner dialogue — reminding the Enneagram 1 what is wrong, where they have fallen short, and what they need to do to be better. Enneagram 1s find the inner critic to be deflating and exhausting.
My friend, Trevor Lubiens is my guest on the podcast this week, and he will be chatting with us about:
What it is like to be an Enneagram 1,
How to utilize the voice of the inner critic in healthy ways, and
How God has used the Enneagram to deepen his prayer life.
Trevor and his wife Jamie have been friends of mine since I was in college and Trevor and I had a chance to work together for several years on the same church staff. Trevor is now the lead pastor of Midtown Church, a new church plant in Boise. Trevor is a lifelong student, avid reader, golf pro (in his dreams), and sushi enthusiast. More than anything, Trevor is passionate about seeing people grow into more engaged and loving followers of Jesus.
Trevor graduated from Trevecca Nazarene University with a degree in Business and also worked as the university's Creative Director. Trevor has spent the last 15 years in church ministry and is currently working to reimagine church and what it looks like to be a follower of Jesus in the 21st century.
Trevor and Jamie, have been married for over 15 years, and they have two kids, Kellom & Taiya. They moved back to Boise from Nashville 6 years ago and love serving in their respective fields to bring the love of Jesus to every person they meet.
To hear more from Trevor, check out the Midtown Podcast: Conversations for Curious People.
1 hr 14 min
September 20, 2022 Episode 28: What is the Enneagram? | Karissa Harrison
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I am excited to kick off our Enneagram series! A few months ago, I put out an instagram poll, asking what you most wanted to hear on the podcast in the future, and the overwhelming majority of you said you’d love a series on the Enneagram... So, here it is!
In case you are unfamiliar with the Enneagram, it is a personality typing system that can help us better understand ourselves, others, and our relationship with God. It is a tool to keep in our tool belt to help us understand our motivations, fears, and desires. Enneagram coach Beth McCord describes it like an X-ray. It can help us see what is under the surface, revealing areas of strength and weakness, but it is not the instrument of healing. Only God can bring about restoration and healing… but I do believe that the enneagram is one of many tools and resources that God can use to help us as we pursue wholeness in Jesus.
Today on the podcast, my friend, Karissa Harrison is here.
Karissa is an Executive Pastor and Certified Enneagram Coach who is passionate about helping leaders use the Enneagram and spiritual formation practices to execute a plan for personal and spiritual growth. She has served in pastoral ministry for over 16 years, and enjoys every opportunity to serve individuals and teams through coaching, consulting, and spiritual direction. She's been married to Ryan, they have 3 school age kids, and live in Murrieta, CA. She prefers a great book to Netflix and quiet conversations over large crowds.
Karissa provided a link to an amazing Enneagram assessment, and I highly encourage you to check it out: https://coach.yourenneagramcoach.com/karissa-harrison
Here’s a link to an article about seeing the Enneagram through the lens of the Gospel: https://www.yourenneagramcoach.com/blog/the-enneagram-and-gospel-freedom/
1 hr 4 min
September 13, 2022 Episode 27: The Thing Beneath the Thing | Steve Carter
In Romans 7:15, Paul writes: “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do.” Isn’t that so relatable? Sometimes we find ourselves getting frustrated at our loved ones, exaggerating the truth, or trying to escape a difficult situation, and we wonder what is motivating our behavior.
Today, my friend, Steve Carter, is here on the podcast to talk with us about his book, “The Thing Beneath the Thing.” In it, Steve talks about triggers, habits, and narratives that are powerfully rooted beneath the surface, how we can recognize them, and step into greater levels of wholeness.
I think this is super applicable for us perfection-ditchers, because I don’t think we really want to be perfectionists, right? We don’t want to give people pleasing power in our workplaces, friendships, and families. But those sneaky habits weave their way into normalcy. So, I think this episode will be helpful and encouraging… and I hope you pick up his book if you haven’t read it already!
Before we dive into the conversation, I want to tell you a little bit about Steve. Steve Carter is someone who I have learned from and respected for a long time. I listened to him regularly while he was the Teaching Pastor at Willow Creek. I watched him, from afar, handle difficult situations in his church with great integrity and honor.
Then, a few years ago, Steve came and spent a week with us at the church where I was serving at the time. Mike and I picked him up from the airport, took him out to lunch, and chatted for a few hours about preaching, supporting women in ministry… and of course, he and Mike chatted A LOT about the NBA. :)
Steve is the real deal. He’s authentic. He’s willing to make hard choices to stand with those on the margins. He’s one of the most incredible communicators of the Gospel I’ve ever heard. He’s quick to encourage and call out the best in others. And I am grateful to call him my friend.
1 hr 14 min
September 06, 2022 Episode 26: Step One in Dealing with Difficult People | Chats with Carly
There is so much division right now. We see it on the news, on social media, and around our holiday dinner tables. Today, on the podcast, I will be talking about Step 1 in dealing with difficult people. I am no expert; I am in the trenches with you, but God has used Romans 12:1-2 to guide me to the initial stop on the journey toward relational bridge building: and that’s self-reflection and self-awareness. YES. We can’t control others, but we can control ourselves. So, instead of pointing the finger at others, God is inviting us to look in the mirror. ///// Do you want more Bible study content delivered to your inbox each week? Sign up for Carly’s weekly emails at carlycommunicates.com/resources.
48 min
August 30, 2022 Episode 25: When It Feels Like God is Absent | Dr. Mike Kipp
Today’s conversation is a special one. My friend, Dr. Mike Kipp, is here to share with us, and let me tell you what… I am so thankful for this conversation. Mike is a devoted follower of Jesus and an avid wake surfer. He loves his family deeply, he is a beloved professor of practical theology and someone who dives in to love on the often forgotten people in our community…
And…. Mike has gone through some really tough times. In fact, he went through a time several years ago when he felt like God was absent… Yes. A leader in the church felt this way and I am just so grateful that he is willing to share his story, because oftentimes we feel like we can’t voice our hardships or speak up about our crises of faith. Today, Mike will share what his season of darkness was like and how he sifted his way through with vulnerability, authenticity, and the faith and love of his community.
We can make it through the dark, but we can’t do it alone. So, as we dive into this episode, I hope you are reminded that there are others who are with you on the journey. I also hope that you are reminded today that you are seen and known by God…. The God who doesn’t run from suffering, but runs toward it for our sake.
Mike Kipp has served young people in various roles for the past 30 years in California, Kansas and Idaho. He's been a youth pastor, professor, pastor of intergenerational connections and public school board member. For the past 18 years he has taught at Northwest Nazarene University and is a professor of practical theology. Mike has degrees from Cal Poly SLO, Nazarene Theological Seminary and Fuller Theological Seminary. Mike is also the author of the several works, including his latest book, Making Room: The Purpose and Practice of Youth Ministry.
Mike is married to Sandy and they have two kids, Spencer and McKenna, with whom they love to adventure. Mike loves the academic calendar because all summer he gets to mountain bike, camp, wake surf, and read the daily newspaper with a cup of coffee.
1 hr 2 min

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Welcome to the “Ditching Perfection” podcast with Carly Bartlett. Each week, this podcast will help you pursue wholeness in Jesus rather than trying to have it all together. Along the way, you will…