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- S3 Ep. 12: Reparenting yourself in your 20s and 30s
In this episode, we explore re-parenting yourself in your 20s and 30s and what it means to give yourself the care, guidance, and safety you may not have received growing up. We talk about why this work often comes up during adulthood, what re-parenting can look like in everyday life, navigating complicated relationships with parents, and letting go of the guilt that can come with wanting more for yourself.
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Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
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1 hr 7 min - S3 Ep. 11: The Audacity to Become ft. FT
In this episode, we’re joined by Chef Funmilade Taiwo (FT) for a conversation about “the audacity to become.” We explore his journey from mental health and psychology to entrepreneurship and, ultimately, becoming a professional chef. We talk about what it means to evolve beyond the person you once thought you’d become, embrace new beginnings, and have the courage to step into a new chapter.
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1 hr - S3 Ep. 10: Is Money Actually The Root Of All Evil?
In this episode, Paula explores the complex relationship people have with money—how it shapes our beliefs, identity, self-worth, and the way we view success. Together, we unpack whether money changes people or simply reveals who they already are, and what makes our relationship with money healthy or unhealthy. This conversation invites listeners to reflect on their own money narratives and redefine wealth beyond fear, shame, or judgment.
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48 min - S3 Ep.9: Unlearning Shame Around Sexuality ft. Figs
In this episode, we sit down with Sex Therapist and Podcast Host Figs to explore the complex relationship between shame and sexuality. We discuss how sexual shame is learned, how it shapes our experience of our bodies and desire, and how it can quietly affect relationships.
We also examine the impact of cultural and religious expectations and offer compassionate guidance for anyone carrying sexual shame—what healing can look like and what it doesn’t. This conversation is a thoughtful, judgment-free space for understanding, self-acceptance, and growth.
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1 hr 4 min - S3 Ep.8: Gender Roles within Romantic Relationships
In this episode, we explore how gender roles shape dating and relationships, from the “unspoken script” of who texts, plans, or pays to who carries emotional labor. Guests reflect on acting out of societal expectations versus genuine desire and discuss whether modern relationships are moving beyond traditional roles or creating new ones. The conversation highlights the importance of openly communicating about roles and expectations to build more balanced, authentic partnerships
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1 hr 11 min - S3 Ep.7: Is Marriage the Ultimate Accomplishment? ft. The Northern Therapist
Is marriage truly the ultimate achievement, or have we simply been taught to believe it is? In this episode, we sit down with The Northern Therapist to explore the expectations surrounding marriage, the misconceptions about singleness, and what it really means to live a meaningful life. Together, they unpack the difference between what marriage represents and the realities it brings, while challenging the idea that fulfillment is tied to relationship status. This conversation invites listeners to embrace a broader definition of success—one rooted in purpose, healing, and authenticity.
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Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
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1 hr 5 min - S3 Ep.6: Love Island USA Season 8 & Modern Dating: A Therapist's Take (Part 2)
On this Part 2 episode of the DWHYA Podcast, we continue our conversation about this season of Love Island USA through a mental health lens — reflecting on the key moments, relationships, and lessons that emerged throughout the season. Together, we explore the deep desire to be chosen, the value of genuine friendship, and the roles that accountability, honesty, and emotional maturity play in building healthy relationships.
As we recap the season, we unpack what reality TV can teach us about self-worth, connection, and the courage to show up authentically. Join us as we reflect on the conversations this season sparked and what they reveal about the way we love, grow, and seek meaningful relationships.
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1 hr 7 min - S3 Ep.5: Love Island USA Season 8 & Modern Dating: A Therapist’s Take (Part 1)
On this Part 1 episode of Do We Have Your Attention, we’re unpacking the current season of Love Island USA through a mental health lens — exploring the patterns we see in modern dating, from vulnerability and trust to attraction, conflict, commitment, and the search for genuine connection.
Beyond the drama and entertainment, these moments reflect real conversations many of us are having in our own relationships: Why do we chase certain connections? Why is multi-dating often seen as a threat? And why are we so deeply invested in being chosen?
Join us as we explore what reality TV reveals about the way we love, connect, and seek to be chosen.
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Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
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1 hr 12 min - S3 Ep.4: Vulnerability in Men ft. Michael Sonariwo
In this episode, we’re joined by Content Creator and Media Entrepreneur Michael Sonariwo for an honest conversation on vulnerability and modern masculinity. We explore the pressures men face today, the hidden costs of avoiding emotional openness, and how fear, shame, and perfectionism can shape their experiences.
Michael shares his personal journey, including his recent experience of therapy, and what it’s teaching him about strength, relationships, and self-awareness. This episode offers a powerful perspective on redefining masculinity and creating space for men to show up more fully and authentically.
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1 hr 19 min - S3 Ep.3: The Pressure to Appear Okay
In this episode, we explore the pressure to “appear okay” and the difference between performing wellness and genuinely feeling it. We discuss why it can feel safer to hide our true emotions, who benefits from this act, and who pays the emotional cost.
We also examine how this connects to people-pleasing, when appearing okay can be protective, and when it becomes harmful. Listeners will gain insight into recognizing these patterns and what might shift if we allowed ourselves to be truly seen without explanation or justification.
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About Do We Have Your Attention
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Get ready for unfiltered discussions with Paula Bamgbose-Martins and Aisha Popoola, two cultural hybrid licensed mental health therapists, on a mission to dive deep into the topics that touch us…
all as humans. Here, we invite you to join our candid, heartfelt conversations on mental, emotional, and physical health, as well as the shared challenges we face in this journey called life. This is the podcast where we ask, 'Do we Have Your Attention?' as we explore what connects us all.