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- S3 Ep.2: The Act of People Pleasing
In this episode, we explore the deeper roots of people-pleasing—what it really is and how it differs from genuine kindness. We unpack where these patterns begin, what they were originally protecting us from, and the hidden costs that come with constantly putting others first.
We also dive into the fears that keep people-pleasing in place, how it shows up in everyday moments, and what it takes to start unlearning it. This conversation offers a grounded, honest look at reclaiming your voice, your boundaries, and your sense of self.
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Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
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54 min - S3 Ep.1: Motherhood and Identity ft. Grace Johnson
In this episode, we’re joined by Award-Winning Author and Podcast host Grace Johnson for a candid conversation on motherhood and identity. We explore the early shifts that come with becoming a mother, the tension between fulfillment and disorientation, and the quiet internal conflicts many women face.
Grace shares insight on how cultural expectations shape identity, the pressure to make motherhood your main role, and how to stay connected to yourself through it all. Whether you’re a mother or navigating any major life transition, this episode offers a thoughtful perspective on evolving without losing who you are.
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Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
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1 hr 4 min - S2 Ep 16: 2025 in Review + What Surprised Us This Year
We look back on the moments and trends that shaped 2025, highlighting what mattered most and what caught us completely off guard. From unexpected shifts to key lessons learned, this episode reflects on the year that was and what it may signal for what’s ahead.
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Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
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49 min - S2 Ep 15: Healthy Competition vs Envy vs Jealousy
Is competition always healthy, or does it quietly create distance between us? Can envy fuel growth, or does it blur into jealousy and insecurity? In this episode, we unpack these powerful emotions and explore how they shape our relationships and, more importantly, our self-worth and personal growth.
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Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
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53 min - S2 Ep 14: Do Our Expectations Influence How We Perceive Outcomes?
What exactly are expectations, and why do they hold so much power over how we experience life? In this episode, we explore the connection between our expectations and the way we perceive outcomes.
We unpack the difference between healthy standards and rigid expectations, and discuss how shifting from a mindset of control to one of curiosity can transform the way we navigate challenges, relationships, and personal growth.
This is a conversation about perspective, flexibility, and finding freedom in letting go of the outcome.
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Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
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49 min - S2 Ep 13: Sexual Trauma and Its Impact on Sexual Health in Relationships
Of all the topics we could explore, this one feels both necessary and overdue. Sexual trauma touches so many lives, directly or indirectly and it’s time we create space to talk about it with honesty and care.
In this episode, we unpack what sexual trauma is, how it shapes our relationships, our sense of safety, intimacy, and sexual expression, and how healing practices can help survivors reclaim safety, connection, and even pleasure in their bodies.
This is a conversation about awareness, compassion, and the possibility of healing.
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Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
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51 min - S2 Ep 12: Inner Child Wounds and How We Can Identify Them
We all carry wounds, many reaching back to childhood. Left unhealed, these wounds often follow us into adulthood, shaping how we think, feel, and relate to others. In this episode, we explore how to recognize the wounds of our inner child and uncover practical steps to begin the healing journey.
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Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwhyapodcast/
Follow DWHYA on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dwhyapodcast?_t=ZT-8vh1MWRkekg&_r=1.Follow Paula on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paula.b.martins/
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50 min - S2 Ep 11: The Importance and Impact of Taking Accountability ft. Ibrahim Popoola
In this episode, we dive deep into why accountability feels so hard and why it matters now more than ever. Together with our guest, Ibrahim Popoola, we unpack what accountability truly means, why many of us resist it, and how a lack of it can quietly damage our relationships. Tune in for eye-opening insights and practical takeaways you won’t want to miss.
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Ibrahim Popoola on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ibrahimpopoola_/
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Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
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51 min - S2 Ep 10: Understanding Attachment Styles
Attachment styles are everywhere in the conversation right now, but what do they mean, and why have they become such a buzzword? In this episode, we break down the different attachment styles, how to recognize them, and the powerful role they play in shaping our relationships. We also dive into practical ways to cultivate secure attachment both within ourselves and with the people we care about most.
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Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwhyapodcast/
Follow DWHYA on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dwhyapodcast?_t=ZT-8vh1MWRkekg&_r=1.Follow Paula on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paula.b.martins/
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52 min - S2 Ep 9: Why are Millennials Unhappy? ft. Faith Onyesom
Being a millennial isn’t easy, especially in today’s fast-paced, ever-changing world. In this much-anticipated episode, we explore the deeper roots of why millennials are often called the anxious generation. Joined by our inspiring guest host, Faith Onyesom of Good Faith Yoga, we unpack the ways stress and emotional exhaustion show up in millennial bodies and share simple, powerful practices to feel more grounded and connected. If you’ve been looking for clarity, calm, and a little encouragement, this episode is for you.
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Good Faith Yoga on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/goodfaithyoga/?hl=en
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Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola
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About Do We Have Your Attention
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Get ready for unfiltered discussions with Paula Bamgbose-Martins and Aisha Popoola, two cultural hybrid licensed mental health therapists, on a mission to dive deep into the topics that touch us…
all as humans. Here, we invite you to join our candid, heartfelt conversations on mental, emotional, and physical health, as well as the shared challenges we face in this journey called life. This is the podcast where we ask, 'Do we Have Your Attention?' as we explore what connects us all.