Doing Relationships Right

Is there a link between sex and happiness? Does having MORE sex with your partner mean you are guaranteed a more loving marriage? 

If you are having “intimacy” issues in your marriage, does that mean you’re doomed for failure?

I LOVE this topic!

And I am thrilled about this conversation with the brilliant, Randi Levinson. Randi is a Couples Therapist and Certified Clinical Sexologist. She helps couples find a deeper, more meaningful connection; better communication, and better more fulfilling sexual experiences. Randi considers herself to be beyond lucky to have studied with the best therapists in the world. She has been trained by Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs. Ester Perel is one of the many therapists that has given Randi invaluable guidance in her work with couples. 

We will discuss how aging, loss of desire, loss of desire for your partner, resentment build up, disconnecting fights, contempt, boredom, defensiveness, stonewalling, and criticism play into how we move away or ‘grow apart’ from our partners. All this and more, today on Doing Relationships Right.

Highlights:

• The importance of seeing a Sexologist before Marriage
• Embarrassment over Sexual Issues 
• Importance of Communication During Sex 
• Is Masturbation Important? 
• Is Porn Addicting? 
• Is there a Link between SEX and Happiness? 

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Where to find Randi:

Website: http://www.randilevinson.com/

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Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7ilFqf18-z-H_e7JFIrjbQ

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

 

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here. 

 

Show notes:

[1:35] How Randi started her journey

[3:34] Do we recommend talking to a sexologist before getting married?

[7:10] Embarrassment over sex priority and incompatibility in sex desire

[11:37] The importance of communication in sex

[14:57] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[17:19] Put your spouse first

[18:00] Exercise your vulva and sex toys

[23:33] Evolutionarily speaking, women can find pleasure whenever she wants to

[25:29] How much sex can sustain a happy marriage?

[27:23] Stop and turn towards your partner instead of the other way around

[29:15] Where can you find Randi?

It's time to get real about all things Hurvitz. 

My marriage, my divorce...my relationships and how they all helped me evolve into the woman I am today. 

Highlights: 

• What is "Slow Love"? 
• Is there a "right time" to get married? 
• Intimacy according to Hurvitz 
• Putting your Kids SECOND in your marriage
• What Jennifer's divorce taught her about marriage and relationships 
• Does Jennifer regret getting a divorce? 

 

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

YouTube Channel to watch the episodes! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7ilFqf18-z-H_e7JFIrjbQ/videos

 

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

 

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here. 

Show notes:

[1:13] Podcasting on a new platform and join Clubhouse

[2:30] Freaking out because they are not married

[6:58] The reason why Jen’s first marriage ended in divorce

[8:30] Is it okay to put your spouse 2nd priority?

[9:55] Slow love — take things slowly

[11:40] It’s all about BEING the right partner

 

I am so excited about this episode!

Get out a pen and paper (or your iPad!) you’re going to want to take notes on this conversation, trust me!

Do you think PRENUPS are only for the rich and famous?

Does the phrase, “Honey, I need you to sign a Prenup,” leave a horrid taste in your mouth and instantly make you angry?

Well…then this is such an important conversation! We are going to SQUASH the negativity associated with prenuptial agreements with my guest, Lauren Hunt.

Lauren is an Attorney / Mediator in New York. She believes that divorce is an opportunity to create the life you and your kids were meant to live. She works with her clients to ensure that their voices are heard, their values understood, and their goals are achieved. As a child of divorce herself, Lauren understands the short and long-term impacts that family changes have on the parents and the children. In her downtime, she can be found exploring a new hiking trail with her husband and son, cooking up big Sunday breakfasts, and dancing to “Baby Shark” for the millionth time with her son – Jack.

Lauren feels that prenups are POSITIVE and that they get a really bad rap for being “divorce planning” in the making…but in reality, they are helping to plan for your marriage. Listen to Doing Relationships Right and hear why every new, married couple should have a prenup!

Highlights:

• Why are prenups usually used? 
• Lauren "debunks" some of the myths
• 3 main reasons why Prenups are POSITIVE 
• What is a "Sunset Clause" 

 

Where to find Lauren:

Website: https://laurenhuntesq.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/laurenhuntesq/

 

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

 

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

 

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here. 

 

Show notes:

[1:55] All about Lauren Hunt and how she became a divorce attorney

[3:31] Lauren and going to law school

[6:20] 3 important things that Lauren wants to point out when it comes to prenups

[9:09] Plan and negotiate a prenup when you’re happy

[13:00] The benefits of a prenup

[15:13] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[17:57] Sunset clause

[19:13] On trust funds

[22:51] Draft and sign your prenup DAYS before your actual marriage

[23:37] Not being able to get divorced because of a prenup?

[27:31] Things that you can include in a prenup

[28:41] What to check before getting a prenup attorney

 

Do you have a brand or image you’re trying to create?

Maybe you’re looking for tips on how to take great pics for your Online Dating Profile?

Well, you’re in luck! 

Today’s guest on Doing Relationships Right is none other than MY personal brand photographer, Laura Tompkins the owner of Laurel Belle Photography here in Charlotte! If you have seen my Insta feed or website…then you have seen her work!

Laura is a branding, headshot + content curation, photographer. That means she helps brands (or influencers) create cohesive, beautiful imagery for their websites, blogs, social media accounts + promotional materials. She also helps to create stunning, easy-to-use websites full of call-to-actions + alt-text so you can worry more about the other parts of your business.

Laura’s award-winning photography specializes in fun, laughter-infused, confidence-boosting portrait experience sessions for women and girls…I love her, and if you live in the Charlotte area-you are in luck! If not, reach out to Laura on her website for help with your website design or ask about her travel fees.

And if you book with Laura to build your new website use the CODE RELATIONSHIPS for 10% off your package. Thank you, Laura!

Highlights of this episode:

• How Brand Imagery can enhance self-image
• How to take the "perfect" selfie for your Dating Profile
• Tips and Tricks on preparing for a photoshoot
• What are the best pics to use on your Dating Profile? 
• Laura can also help build your Brand Website

 

Where to find Laura:

Website: https://www.laurelbellephotography.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/laurelbellephotography/

 

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

 

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

 

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here. 

 

Show notes:

[2:33] Who is Laura, her life experiences and career journey

[4:41] Ensuring Laura’s clients are ready for the photoshoot 

[7:47] On building websites

[11:25] Getting good pictures is addicting

[12:31] Tips on getting great selfies

[14:18] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[15:21] When is using filters on your photos too much?

[18:09] Selfies vs. professional photos

[20:06] 10% discount off your website build, just use the code “relationships”

[21:15] Speed round 

[23:08] A piece of advice about photos and branding

[27:44] Outro

Nothing more fun than Valentine's Day, right? The flowers, candy, fancy dinners..all the romance!  Usually! But what about during a pandemic? 

Today's episode is filled with innovative ideas for a Covid-friendly (but still fun and sexy) Valentine's Day! And Jennifer's boyfriend, Jim Healey is joining in the fun! Check out the episode on YouTube, too to get a few extra smiles!  

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

 

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here. 

Show notes:

[2:53] Backyard bundle up

[4:00] Make a Valentine vision board

[5:42] Virtual tarot card reading

[6:50] Virtual art classes

[9:22] Heart in a jar

[10:02] Game night

[10:55] Nighttime spa date

[11:26] Romantic movie marathon

[12:35] Scavenger hunt

[13:09] Chocolate dip

[15:00] Recreate your first date

[16:11] Charcuterie board

[19:20] If you’re alone on Valentine’s day

 

Something about this woman--Leah Morris! 

This is an episode of Doing Relationships Right that you’ll feel in your soul!

As Leah says, “To the one who wants more” and she’s the one to give it to you! She’s a life & relationship transition coach; not only beautiful on the outside, but down to her core! I’m so grateful for this conversation with her about how to pivot when life doesn’t go as planned, claiming your wants and needs, and how to break free from the mundane bullshit and move forward deliberately.

Leah has an infectious energy and a love of LIFE. Listen to her podcast Deep Chats Podcast and I’m sure you’ll agree x a million! Thank you, Leah, for sharing your journey of self-growth and bringing us the “bright light of awareness” we ALL deserve.

Highlights on today's episode: 

• It's all about choices 
• The Fear of What If's 
• How to PIVOT to find self-love 
• Listen to Leah's Podcast Deep Chats 

 

Where to find Leah Morris:

Website: https://www.liferemade.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/leahemorris/

Deep Chats Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/deep-chats-podcast/id1493690055

 

Join the Doing Relationships Right Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

 

Where to find Jennifer Hurvitz:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

 

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here. 

 

Show notes:

[1:30] All about Leah Morris

[3:05] Being married to a narcissist and an addict

[4:56] Realizing that we DO have a choice

[7:30] The fear of “what-ifs”

[10:42] Why Jennifer is so proud of Leah

[12:10] On drawing boundaries from people who don’t have your best interest at heart

[13:07] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[15:04] The people you think who should lift you up are sometimes the ones that don’t 

[16:50] Leah as a hypnotherapist

[19:30] Have a beginner mindset

[22:53] Just choose kindness 

[23:07] A little nugget of advice from Leah

[25:10] The best place to find Leah

[26:34] Outro

There is NOTHING more important than raising kind, empathetic, and compassionate humans and bringing them into the world. Nothing. That’s why I am thrilled to have Rachel Walt, founder and creator of Craftingood on the show today…the company that helps YOU raise compassionate kids in your own way.

 

Rachel is the essence of positivity, creativity & authenticity. She is a wife, mom of 3 young kids & the founder of Craftingood. She has a background in holistic health coaching, community organizing, and Speech-Language Pathology. She reads, collects experiences, and ripples kindness. If you need her, you can find her watering her dead tomato plants, dancing in her living room on Friday nights, or posted up at the Indian buffet.

 

Currently, She's on a mission to empower families and guilty, sacrificial moms like herself, to use creativity and self-compassion as their most powerful tool for raising kind kids, having fun, and changing the world!

 

Highlights of today’s Episode:

• POC author is chosen for each of her “boxes” 
• Importance of teaching about racial inequality at home
• Rachel’s new Digital Course
• Thoughtful products available for families Kindness, equity, and creativity
• Supporting Racial Awareness with Craftingood

 

USE CODE RELATIONSHIPS to get a discount on your purchase at Craftingood today! 

 

Where to find Rachel Walt:

Website: https://craftingood.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/wearecraftingood/

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

 

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here. 

 

Show notes:

[2:16] Who is Rachel? How she started her business? 

[6:14] Optimistic outlook and positivity

[7:00] Craftingood is changing

[11:24] The sacrificial motherhood and filling her cup every day

[15:28] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (www.soberlink.com/)

[16:31] On marriage, resentment, and difficulties

[18:00] Digital course coming out in February 2021

[19:38] The kid element of Craftingood

[22:18] Demographics for the course and the boxes

[24:20] Craftingood helping parents raise KIND kids

[28:21] Discount code! You don’t want to miss this!

[29:56] You are here for a purpose

If I told you Dating Over 40 is WAY better than dating back in your 20’s would you believe me?

It’s true! And on today’s episode of Doing Relationships Right, I’ll tell you why! And I’m sharing my tips on how to find love the second (or first) time around. It can happen- if you know the “right moves” to finding your Mr. or Mrs. Right.

Highlights of today’s episode:

• Be patient
• Be positive
• Be ready to date
• Let go to the PAST
• Love yourself

 

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

 

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here. 

 

Show notes:

[1:02] The topic in today’s episode is something I love to discuss

[2:10] Are you ready to date?

[3:13] Let go of the past; move forward

[4:25] Self - self - self

[5:42] Do NOT settle

[7:25] Try new things

[8:07] Meet other single people 

[8:40] Stop putting too much pressure on yourself

[9:48] Be clear about what you want

[11:11] Be bold

[12:04] Feel young, be young!

Ready to Stop Panic or Social Anxiety from stopping you?

Do you have children that are struggling with Anxiety during this pandemic?

 

How about YOUR own feelings of anxiety?

 

I am so grateful to have Dr. Helen Odessky on Doing Relationships Right to talk about her new books, Stop Anxiety From Stopping YOU and Stop FEAR From Stopping YOU!

 

Helen is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and practicing Chicago therapist, focusing on anxiety and panic treatment. She is trained in Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, and Exposure Therapy, which means that she uses research-based methods and teaches helpful tools starting from the very first session. Dr. Odessky is passionate about helping her clients beat stress and anxiety; believes that having coping skills is not enough to treat anxiety. Her main goal is for her clients to gain tools to beat anxiety so that they can focus on living their lives!

 

For the past decade, she has had the privilege of helping numerous individuals break the cycle of panic and anxiety. She believes that everyone can benefit from reducing his or her stress level. You can learn to be less shy and more assertive. You can stop panic symptoms from becoming full-blown panic attacks and you can learn how to live with less worry!

 

Today’s episodes highlights:

• Stop Anxiety from stopping YOU
• Stop FEAR from stopping YOU
• Tips to help your teens with stress
• Tools for helping teens with anxiety
• Dr. Odessky discusses ways to “walk through anxiety”
• Is Anxiety Hereditary? 

 

Where to find Helen Odessky:

Website: http://www.yourchicagotherapist.com/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/drhelenodessky/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drhelenodessky/

 

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

 

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here. 

 

Show notes:

[2:06] Who is Helen Odessky?

[4:09] Procrastination and anxiety: their relationship

[5:42] The importance of being a sounding board to your teenage kids

[7:01] The reasons why parents get anxious when our kids get anxiety attacks

[9:48] Important thing to remember when experiencing a panic attack 

[11:24] On focusing on the immediate future and limiting watching the news

[12:08] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[14:41] As parents, help the kids digest news and current events by asking questions

[15:25] Talking more about Helen’s books and how these can help us

[22:08] What is the best way to find Helen

[23:21] The pandemics role in anxiety 

[24:23] Is anxiety hereditary?

How do you know if you’re in a relationship with a NARCISSIST? UGH!

What are the signs? Can you tell on the first date, or if you’re already “in too deep” is there a way to get out?

So many questions and today’s guest on Doing Relationships Right, Relationship Expert, Janene Verabian has ALL the answers!

Janene Verabian has dedicated her career to helping others move through past trauma in order to live a happy, fulfilled, and meaningful life. She is a graduate of the prestigious Hypnotherapy Academy of America - an approved school of the American Council of Hypnotist Examiners which sets the highest standards for hypnotherapists. It is also considered the most advanced hypnotherapy institute in the world, as the curriculum features an extensive program on the study of human behavior and the mind. However, beyond certifications, Janene has been there...she’s experienced trauma, she’s been through toxic relationships and she’s done the work personally to move through them. Her real-life experience combined with her professional expertise has proven to be the key to helping her clients move through their trauma – and not get stuck in the cycle of endless therapy.

Janene can often be heard saying, “I don’t talk from the cheap seats.” She focuses on creating a safe space for her clients to speak openly without judgment while she listens – to extract the root issues and identify the core elements that the client is seeking to remedy. She also imparts a sense of supportive accountability as she is passionate about seeing her clients move through their trauma or relationship unrest. Her goal is to see each person make progress in an intentional way – creating sustainable change for the future they desire.

Highlights of the conversation:

• The commonly missed signs of narcissistic behavior
• The RED FLAGS that you might be with a narcissist
• What is Hypnotherapy and how is it helpful
• Using Hypnotherapy to move through past trauma
• How to get out of a narcissistic relationship

You can connect with Janene Verabian: 

IG: https://www.instagram.com/AskJaneneVerabian/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/AskJaneneVerabian

Website: https://www.janeneverabian.com/

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpod

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here.

Show notes:

[0:55] Guest intro

[2:30] How did Janene get into hypnotherapy?

[5:15] On hypnotism, do you really “go under”?

[9:35] Allowing clients to go through different emotions in order to feel free and happy

[10:35] On self-sabotage, playing the martyr and the need to change

[14:39] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[16:34] Signs that you’re in a narcissistic relationship

[19:28] From a snide comment turning into gaslighting

[24:44] Is being narcissistic hereditary?

[26:47] How Janene diagnose narcissism... or does she?

[28:10] Can hypnotherapy help clients who want to leave a narcissistic relationship?

[30:19] Where to find Janene Verabian