Doing Relationships Right

How is “leaning into” the pivot when faced with change or adversity a positive thing? Let’s find out!

 

Well, we are discussing all things pivoting today with my guest, Monica Ortega, the author of The Power of Pivoting, a self-development book to help guide people through an unexpected change in their lives. Maybe it’s in their relationships, or jobs; or their mental health, or even a world crisis.

 

Monica’s goal with her new book is to take the stigma away from change, “It doesn’t have to be scary! It can be epic! It can be an opportunity.”

 

Monica Ortega is a professional on-camera host, speaker, and actress from Holt, Michigan. She created the online travel show Monica Goes back in 2015 to inspire others to break out of their comfort zones and go on adventures. She's produced and hosted over 100 episodes, and been featured on Matador Network, USA Today's 10Best, Insider Travel, and more!

 

Monica has spoken openly about how her personal setbacks have helped her pivot to create a life she loves. She speaks at events around the country helping others to embrace change and create their own dream life. Monica emcees some of the biggest music festivals in the nation and has been seen in over 20 commercials on TV. She is also the co-host of the podcast Stumblin' Forward.

 

Highlights of Today's Episode: 

• Who is Monica Ortega
• Stop the Stigma of Change
• What is Pivoting and why should we "lean into it" 
• What is "Falling Foward" 
• Talk about Monica's new book 

 

Find more of Monica:

Website: https://www.monicagoes.com/

The Power of Pivoting book: https://www.monicagoes.com/book

 

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Show notes:

[1:58] Who is Monica, and how things started for her?

[5:27] Monica's traveling show and her divorce story

[9:42] On writing a book in less than a month and self-publishing

[11:07] Monica's pivotal moments

[13:58] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[14:59] On "failing forward"

[16:22] Generational differences

[19:57] Diving deeper into Monica's podcast: Stumbling Forward

[21:53] Final nugget from Monica

[25:02] Be kind to yourself

[27:43] Where to find Monica and her works

How is YOUR relationship with FOOD?

 

Do you count calories endlessly? Are you constantly cutting out carbs or doing those “elimination diets” hoping to lose extra pounds? Do you know how much water you’re drinking each day or even how often you poop? How about your workout schedule? Do you even work out at all?

 

Well, it’s all part of HEALTH AND WELLNESS! This is so important and that’s why I have Nikki Levine (Nikki Wellness) on the podcast today! Nikki is a certified health coach, personal trainer, single mom of 3, and total former junk-food junkie turned wellness warrior. She received her Undergrad degree in Communication from Tulane which serves her well because she loves to communicate—and help others get out of the “diet mentality” and live their most balanced lives!

 

Highlights of Today's Episode: 

• Why the relationship with yourself is SO vital 
• Why Health & Wellness is so important 
• Is it all about counting calories? 
• What are the other factors in weight loss? 

 

Find Nikki Levine: https://nikkiwellness.com/

 

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Show notes:

[1:38] The importance of your relationship with yourself

[5:04] Why people overdue with working out

[6:14] Nikki's turning point

[8:50] Do cheats that matter

[9:30] The problems with counting caloric points

[12:30] Nikki as an accountable partner

[15:32] Boundaries are important

[18:26] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[19:28] Exercise should be part of your regimen

[22:32] Having a hard time working out? You're not alone!

[27:03] The "beauty sleep"

[28:43] How to get more sleep

[34:05] Work with Nikki because she's fantastic and can help anyone in the world

[35:50] Where to find Nikki?

Now, just like snowflakes, every divorce is different. The same can be said for families! Every family is unique and so is each situation when it comes to BLENDING THEM! Sometimes it works as smoothly as the Brady Bunch and other times- it’s a fucking disaster, but what’s most important is that you know the FACTS and do what works for YOUR individual situation.

 

Highlights of this episode: 

• the pros and cons of blending after divorce
• the tips and the facts of blending 
• And Do Blending Right! (See how I did that?) 
• Why I chose not to blend my family 
• Other options besides blending 
• Stats on Blending Families 

 

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Show notes:

[1:33] Why we don’t have a blended family

[5:45] It can work, but not for everyone

[6:21] How Jim and I are handling our kids, separately

[8:24] Think about the kids, they’ve been through a lot

[9:30] Facts about blended families 

[11:33] Tips for being in a SUCCESSFUL blended family

[14:35] Don’t forget that there are options

[16:45] Follow me on IG and check out the freebies I have on the bio: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

It has been such a stressful year; the Covid-19 virus has caused overwhelming anxiety and uncertainty not only for adults but kids, too.

 

I think it’s fair to say that we are all hoping the vaccine brings some level of “normalcy” to our lives and makes parenting a bit easier, as well. It hasn’t been easy saying no to my teenagers when they want to see friends, and remote learning has been a nightmare! I could go on for days…and days.

 

But while I’m beyond thrilled to get my kiddos vaccinated what about the thousands of people who don’t believe in vaccinating their kids? What happens when you are CO-PARENTING with an ex that is vehemently against vaccines and you are PRO?

 

What do you do then?

 

Can you take legal action?

 

We find ourselves faced with a totally new situation with this Covid-19 vaccine that can make co-parenting even more difficult!

 

This is why I have the best of the best on the show today to help answer all your tough questions and more! 

 

Lisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP. A Matrimonial Attorney, CFL, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, she regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters for high net worth individuals. Named a 2019 10 Best Family Law Attorney for Client Satisfaction by the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys, Ms. Zeiderman is also a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children.

 

In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody,” Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in various legal publications and quoted on issues ranging from financial empowerment to tax issues to child custody.

 

Ms. Zeiderman, a Fordham University of Law graduate, also serves on the Executive Board of Savvy Ladies, Inc., and on the board of LIFT, Legal Information for Families Today.

 

Highlights of today's episode: 

 

• The Covid-19 Vaccine and when is it available to kids
• Will the vaccine be mandatory for children? 
• How will you approach your EX when the vaccine needs to be discussed? 
• Listen to your Pediatrician 
• Homeschool vs Schooling Kids

 

Follow Lisa on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lisazeiderman/

 

Follow Lisa on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-zeiderman-esq-a2a041a/

 

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You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

 

Show notes:

[1:48] Who is Lisa and what she does?

[4:00] What to do if one of the co-parents will say NO to kids getting vaccinated

[6:49] Will the Covid vaccine be mandatory for children?

[9:31] How to talk to your ex-partner when it comes to the vaccination

[13:07] The issues that COVID brought up apart from the health risks

[14:45] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[17:09] The problem of what has occurred in Miami

[18:20] Safety first!

[19:48] The mess in social media

[22:28] On homeschooling children

[25:14] Is it safe to send children to summer camp?

[27:15] Nuggets of advice

 

Getting a mortgage whether it’s a new home or refinancing to save money can be super stressful!!!

 

In fact, it was one of the MOST stressful parts of my divorce; especially going through the process alone. I had NO clue what I was doing, after all, I was a SAHM for over 12 years, I wish I had someone like Rebecca Richardson to help!

 

Or a podcast episode like THIS with answers to tough questions!

 

That’s why I am so grateful for Rebecca Richardson, The Mortgage Mentor!

 

Rebecca is a Charlotte native and UNC graduated (GO HEELS)! For almost 20 years Rebecca has helped clients understand complex mortgage concepts so they can confidently choose solutions that meet their short- and long-term goals. Saving them time and money she delivers a modern mortgage experience with a personal touch.

 

Her specialty is advising those going through separation or divorce. Rebecca has a passion for spreading the correct information and she helps her clients move forward swiftly and with clarity.

 

Staying focused on her clients’ needs, she provides consultation and information on the appropriate mortgage strategy to meet their goals. The mortgage process is simplified by Rebecca’s accessibility and accountability as well as clear and consistent communication.

 

Highlights of today’s show:

• Child and Alimony can be used to qualify for a mortgage
• What are the special guidelines?
• What is Divorce Settlement Refinancing?
• When is it best to sell the marital home? 

 

Check Rebecca and her services at the following platforms:

Website: https://www.rebeccarichardsonmortgage.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccarichardsonmortgage/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebeccawalshrichardson

IG: https://www.instagram.com/the.mortgage.mentor/

 

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Show notes:

[3:00] Mortgage and living situations after divorce

[4:35] What do you need to know?

[7:42] Refinancing after divorce

[12:59] Rebecca’s passion

[13:34] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[15:21] Is it best to sell the marital home? 

[16:40] When to refinance?

[19:00] Separating finances during a divorce process

[23:00] Rebecca loves what she does

[25:37] Where to find Rebecca?

Ahhh....well, it's another JUST JEN episode, and if you're dating after divorce then you are sure to bump into a MOM with kiddos! In fact, there's a huge chance you are a single mom--right? 

 

So, this one's for us! Oh, ya! Me too. :) 

 

It's a whole different ballgame dating a woman that has children, I should know, that's why I decided to share it with you in today's episode! 

 

Highlights of today's show: 

• Handle her with care
• Have different priorities 
• Tips on how to treat a single mom 
• Why they demand a certain level of respect 

 

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7ilFqf18-z-H_e7JFIrjbQ

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

 

Show notes:

[2:37] Handle her with extra care and respect

[3:23] Be flexible around HER schedule

[5:02] You are NEVER going to be the father of those kids

[5:35] Moms are SEXY too!

[5:55] She has a baby body

[7:02] Don’t be needy

[7:43] Moms don’t need EXTRA drama

[9:24] Here’s a lot of good stuff when dating single moms

 

Leisse Wilcox is “not just another fucking coach” as she puts it quite frankly on her website...

 

She helps high-achieving and purpose-driven women figure out their shit and move forward- unapologetically. You know how much LOVE that! 

 

This conversation is one of my most honest and raw to date; I tried to keep it together, but when Leisse starts working her magic it’s tough! Trust me, it’s not always easy to have these emotional discussions…but they make the BEST episodes! I cried. Leisse, made me cry! 

 

Leisse Wilcox is a Conscious Relationship Success Coach with expertise in finding truth and beauty in the relationships we have with ourselves and others. As a Master Success Coach and bestselling author changing the global conversation on emotional health and self-love, she has been interviewed in media including CNN, ABC, CBS, NPR, CTV, Elephant Journal, the Toronto Star, and Thrive Global.

 

A passionate (and TEDx) speaker, dynamic thought leader, author, NLP practitioner, top podcast host, cancer survivor, solo parent of three, and taco enthusiast, she knows intimately that every relationship we have - in business, life, and love - is built on the foundation of the relationship we have with ourselves.

 

Highlights on today's show: 

• What makes Leisse so amazing? 
• Talk about Leisse's book
•  Talk about how childhood impacts our daily lives 
•  Masculine and feminine energy
• Check out Leisse's brand new website! 

 

Where to find Liesse Wilcox:

Website: https://leissewilcox.ca/

How To Be A Human: the Podcast With Leisse Wilco‪x‬” https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/how-to-be-a-human-the-podcast-with-leisse-wilcox/id1475186316

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/leissewilcox/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/leissewilcox/

 

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You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

 

Show notes:

[1:15] Who is Leisse, and how she got started with writing?

[3:49] Over-meaning and over-simplifying self-love

[7:24] You are never broken --- we are healing

[11:23] Moving forward without being angry

[18:05] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[19:10] Fawn response to fear

[25:50] Cumulative wounding that we remember

[27:47] The masculine and feminine energy

[32:02] Having a tough time during the pandemic

As you know we talk about ALL types of relationships on DRR so why not the one we have with money?

 

In fact, it’s probably one of the most important of all!

 

So, ask yourself, how is your relationship with MONEY?

 

Are you able to ask for what you’re worth? Do you know how to budget and spend appropriately? Even share what you do with confidence when asked? All of this comes down to SELF worth and self-love.

 

Today’s guest, Jackie Ulmer, is one of the leaders in her field and “Helps people make money without annoying their friends”. She is a business sales and mindset coach, helping Solopreneurs build their business action plan including messaging, marketing, and mindset, so they know what to do, where to do it, how to do it, and most important - who to do it too, each day in their business. She's sold products and programs in over 40 countries using her proven Social Selling Strategies.

 

Jacke helped me so much during this episode so grab a pen and get ready to take some notes!

 

HIGHLIGHTS on today's episode: 

• What are your "limiting beliefs" surrounding money? 
• How does "Imposter Syndrome" impact your personal growth?
• When is the right time to stop "investing in yourself"? 
• When people pay money to invest in YOU- it's time to show UP

 

Where to find Jackie Ulmer:

Website: streetsmartwealth.com

Social media: @jackieulmer

YouTube: Jackie L Ulmer

 

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Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7ilFqf18-z-H_e7JFIrjbQ

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

 

Show notes:

[1:35] Who is Jackie Ulmer and how she got into life and business coaching?

[3:45] Picking up limiting beliefs about money

[6:36] Changing your mindset of money and being intentional with what we say about money to our children

[11:09] Your limiting beliefs and imposter syndrome

[14:26] When to stop investing in yourself?

[16:05] What are you worth and how does being a “woman” play a role in this?

[17:33] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[18:36] People are paying for your expertise, knowledge, and wisdom

[20:10] When you pay someone or if someone invests in you, you SHOW up

[21:48] On married couples sharing financial accounts

[24:37] Every engaged couple should read these books

[27:24] “Money doesn’t buy happiness but it does buy choices”

[29:29] On online shopping (who isn’t addicted to it anyway?)  

[30:20] Final nugget of wisdom

[34:32] Where to find Jackie and learn more about what she does?

 

Should divorce be celebrated? 

 

Eh, I'm not so sure...

 

Well, we all know I have my opinions which is why I have MY very own SOLO JUST JENNIFER episodes! I get to rant and share my POV with no interruptions.

 

And yes, this brings me joy. ;) 

 

Look, if there’s anything I’ve learned in my long-ass life, it’s that everyone is entitled to their own opinions as long as they are the same as mine. Baahhhhaaa! 

 

I kid, kinda. 

 

People can do or think whatever they choose as long as they are not hurting anyone and being good humans. So, with that said…if y’all want to THROW A FLIPPING party when you end your marriage— have at it.

 

And, please, if the spirit moves ya…I’d love a new set of towels. 🤪

 

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Show notes:

[0:56] Gift registry for divorce people

[3:43] My thoughts around divorce parties

[7:14] My experience after moving to my own house after the divorce

[11:28] Outro

There is nothing I love more than talking about how to make good relationships GREAT!

I'm thrilled to have author and marriage educator, Dr. Peter Lynn on Doing Relationships Right today! 

This episode is filled with fantastic ideas and techniques to help make a marriage work; practical examples and take-aways that one can use daily. Actionable advice to enrich and sustain marriages, this episode is perfect for anyone in a relationship, looking to get married or already married.

My guest is Dr. Peter Lynn, co-author of the book Not a Partnership: Why We Keep Getting Marriage Wrong & How We Can Get it Right. Dr. Peter Lynn has served as Dean of Students at the David Robinson Institute for Jewish Heritage since its inception. An MA in Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) from the University of Pennsylvania and a PsyD in Human and Organizational Psychology, Peter lectures at Touro College in Jerusalem.

He is also the Founder and Director of Greatness Within Seminars, where he helps empower individuals and organizations through the application of Positive Psychology. An accomplished athlete and Ironman finisher, Peter was captain of the U.S. World Duathlon Team. Peter lives in Jerusalem with his family.

Highlights:

• Dr. Lynn explains why the book is entitled “Not A Partnership”
• Why does the world need another Marriage Book? 
• Dr. Lynn explains the “3 Paradigm Changes” that define a marriage $ What are the “4 Pillars of Giving?
• Why are they important for a Successful Partnership?

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Show notes:

[2:40] On Dr. Peter’s book: Not A Partnership

[5:18] Nurturing your relationship with your spouse

[6:24] People often run to another relationship thinking that it’s going to be better

[8:13] 3 paradigms

[9:40] For someone who isn’t looking for a spouse, marriage might not work for you 

[11:51] “Great marriages don’t happen they’re built”  

[13:23] Loving and giving

[15:04] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[16:44] Parenting during the pandemic

[18:47] 4 pillars of giving

[21:27] The world of respect

[25:02] Who needs to read this book?

[26:52] Where to find Not A Partnership