Doing Relationships Right

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is the author of TAKING SEXY BACK: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (New Harbinger, 2020) and Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). She is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University and a regular contributor at Psychology Today.

Today we're chatting about:

• How to Talk to Your Children About Sex.
• Sex and Intimacy are two different things.
• Talking about Sex More Openly.
• Struggling with having a different sex drive from your partner.

Connect with Dr. Cohen:

• Website: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/
• Her Book: https://www.newharbinger.com/author/alexandra-h-solomon
• Her Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mrfMyci15ME

Here's the link to get started: DOING DATING RIGHT VIDEO COURSE!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Dr. Joe Kort is a leading expert on sex and relationships. He is author of 4 books on male sexuality and fluidity. He specializes in Out-of-Control Sexual Behaviors (OCSB)/“sex addiction”, Relationship Problems and Marital Conflict, Sex Therapy, and Sexual Identity Concerns, Depression, Anxiety and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. 

Today we’re chatting about: 

• Is porn destroying relationships?
• The issues with porn and vibrators.
• Implicit versus explicit contracts in a relationship.
• Having empathy for your partner’s erotic interests.

Connect with Dr. Joe Kort: 

• Website: JoeKort.com
• Twitter: twitter.com/drjoekort
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/joekort
• His podcast: https://smartsexsmartlove.com/

Here's the link to get started: DOING DATING RIGHT VIDEO COURSE!  

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here.

“Once you have YOU, you have EVERYTHING.” ~ Kiko Ellsworth

This episode of Doing Relationships Right podcast is sooo good, y’all. I literally saved the best for last (no offense to my other fabulous guests, ofc) with this one! Kiko Ellsworth, a Men’s Evolution Coach, High-Performance Lifestyle & Love Coach, and Emmy Award-Winner…who ignites the hearts of so many. 

We talked about soulmates, relationships, and how it is possible to find love again with your EX. Not to be “in love” but to love them enough to be in an amicable, co-parenting relationship together and Do Relationships Right! 

Thank you, Kiko for showing up so authentically, sharing this space with me, and dropping such beautiful bits of knowledge with my listeners. 

I can’t wait for you to join me again in the fall and dive even deeper into Breath Work and how you teach women to own and express their “Natural Queen PowHER”. 

Find Kiko Ellsworth on his website: https://kikoellsworth.com/

Here's the link to get started: DOING DATING RIGHT VIDEO COURSE!  

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here.

Show notes:

[3:18] Talking about soul mates

[6:40] What is a completion ceremony?

[12:10] What is required of you to be in a space to do a completion ceremony?

[14:44] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[15:45] How Kiko started his career?

[19:58] The relationships you need done right

[22:27] "Once you have you, you have everything." - Kiko Ellsworth

[23:35] Kiko and Kundalini Yoga

[27:48] Kiko and his Emmy award

I'll be back in September raring to go! Don't forget to listen every Tuesday to Safe & Sexy Summer Episode! 

Follow the FACEBOOK group for all the gossip and goings-on...and see you soon! xo j 

Here's the link to get started: DOING DATING RIGHT VIDEO COURSE!  

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here.

Show notes: [1:26] Season update: summer hiatus and Hurvitz' Safe and Sexy Summer

[4:34] I have one sponsor spot open

[5:06] Doing Dating Right: virtual course

[6:55] Group coaching to start this fall

[8:45] Another exciting news: in-person summit

If that means, if divorce is inevitable to achieve what's going to be a healthy situation for ALL parties involved then it's the "right thing" to do. 

What is NOT good for the kids is a high-conflict, contentious situation. Ever. 

Today, my guest, Kimberley Ewertz is here to talk about her new book, Family Redefined: Childhood Reflections on the Impact of Divorce. I have to say I barely made it through this interview...it was gut-wrenching to hear but a necessary conversation to have. Thank you, Kimberly, for joining me today. 

In her over thirty years of experience in the field of journalism Ewertz has written for numerous publications. The recipient of two Missouri College Media Association Awards, early on in her career, spurred her desire for feature writing which she still pursues today.

Kimberly has spent over three decades working as a reporter and journalist crafting profiles of people and events. Her experience as a journalist has allowed her to craft a book that showcases the true-life stories of adult children of divorce, giving them a voice to convey all they experienced and providing helpful information to divorced parents and their children.

Oftentimes, divorced parents face countless difficulties with their children. Kimberly’s book addresses a vast number of these including; abandonment issues, parental alienation, the challenges faced with transitioning from one household to another on a regular basis, when to introduce a new partner to the family, and many more. All these subjects are worth discussing.

Where to find Kimberly:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-ewertz-b5648276

Website: https://www.familyredefinedbook.com/

Get Kimberly’s book, Family Redefined: Childhood Reflections on the Impact of Divorce here.

Here's the link to get started: DOING DATING RIGHT VIDEO COURSE!  

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here.

Show notes:

[2:35] Kimberly talk about her book

[4:05] How did the book come to be?

[8:40] Being honest with your kids is crucial

[9:27] Allow children to share their emotions

[10:37] The impact of divorce on kids continue with age

[14:20] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[15:21] "Your children will do as well as you do regarding the divorce."

[19:00] Is there a rainbow after the rain? 

[25:26] When a relationship has no connection anymore

[27:40] Final nugget of wisdom 

Because there is a difference!

Not everyone is a narcissist, ok? Really! On this episode of Doing Relationships Right, we are discussing the FACTS about narcissism (and how to handle being in a relationship with a real one) with my guest, Dr. Sue Cornbluth.

Dr. Sue is a certified parenting expert and coach with international recognition, specializing in high conflict situations. She is a regular contributor as a mental health expert for network television stations including NBC, Fox, and CBS. She has contributed to several national publications and has written a best-selling book, "Building Self Esteem in Children and Teens Who Are Adopted or Fostered". Dr. Sue currently hosts a weekly radio broadcast, The Dr. Sue Show.

The Dr. Sue Show focuses on parenting topics. It was recently honored as one of the Top 100 podcasts in the world by the Huffington Post. The Dr. Sue Show provides its listeners with support through her advice on how to work through the difficult and stressful situations divorcing families face. With her guidance, individuals can work through their individual situations and once again thrive. Dr. Sue's honest, direct, and down-to-earth approach while guiding families through the divorce process is unique and has proven to be extremely successful. 

Find Dr. Sue and her services:

Website: https://www.drsueandyou.com/

Here's the link to get started: DOING DATING RIGHT VIDEO COURSE!  

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here.

Show notes:

[0:33] Check out Doing Dating Right at www.jenniferhurvitz.com

[2:29] Dr. Sue's colorful background

[7:49] Diving deeper into narcissism

[9:29] Do not label people; there are criteria for narcissism

[13:00] Narcissistic and gaslighting

[15:06] Is there a genetic predisposition to narcissism?

[19:17] Where narcissism comes from?

[21:12] On love bombing

[22:31] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[25:56] The things one can do when they're in a relationship with a narcissist

[30:05] What if you're in a co-parenting relationship?

[34:51] More co-parenting tips

[38:53] Take a chance; not all people are narcissists

[42:17] Dealing with friends

[44:07] "I'm sorry, BUT..."

[45:52] Where to find Dr. Sue

You asked...I answered! 

The most personal questions you tossed my way this season- I decided, what the hell? Truth Hurvitz Style, ofc! 

And with this season coming to an end here's a reminder that while I'll be taking a short "summer break" I will be returning recharged and raring to go in SEPTEMBER! 

In the meantime, don't you think about going anywhere! I've got a HOT & SEXY Summer Line-Up ready for ya! And don't forget to follow me on Insta, Clubhouse & Facebook to see what I'm up to. 

And...if you are serious about getting back out in the dating world after being stuck inside during the pandemic, check out my DOING DATING RIGHT ONLINE VIDEO COURSE! It's available now and you won't believe the price. 5-Video Sessions packed with tips, advice, and takeaways that will get you started on your online dating journey: from picking the perfect profile picture to writing your bio-- I've got ya! 

Here's the link to get started: DOING DATING RIGHT VIDEO COURSE!  

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here.

Show notes:

[2:37] My autoimmune condition

[8:38] Plans for the summer

[10:05] Will I ever get married again?

[11:04] Do I regret getting divorced?

[13:53] The Truth Hurvitz

[15:07] An exciting news --- my mini-course

[16:21] Be ready for September

I'm so glad I found today's guest as I was scrolling through REELS on Insta. Ellen Elizabeth is a fantastic human...just wait until you hear this conversation, y'all. 

Ellen is all too familiar with the struggles of addiction, which are oftentimes unbearable. Add on the tormenting pains of infertility, and you have the perfect storm. After grappling and recovering from both, Ellen understands the gut-wrenching agony involved and never wants anyone to go through that alone.

Ellen is a 36-year-old Colorado native who is four years sober and the proud mother of twins. She lives with her family of four in Colorado Springs, CO, and currently works for a well-known defense contractor. Ellen loves animals, especially her dog Diego, as well as the multitude of outdoor activities Colorado has to offer, and is very passionate about the French language and culture.

When not working or engaging in the joys of raising twins, Ellen enjoys being a wellness influencer on social media to anyone struggling with addiction or infertility. She can be found @itsellenelizabeth and is here to support anyone struggling now, anyone who is in recovery, or family members of those struggling.

Her mission is to be a stand for women who are dealing with both the struggles and the shame that come from not feeling like they can quit drinking or not bringing a child into the world. 

Go check out Ellen:

Website: https://www.itsellenelizabeth.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/itsellenelizabeth/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/itsellenelizabeth

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here.

Show notes:

[0:00] Intro

[1:36] Who is Ellen and what does she do?

[2:45] Ellen's alcohol addiction and her journey to getting sober

[10:20] Genetics and alcohol addiction

[16:41] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[17:42] Ellen's state of mind around people who drink

[19:30] How to make a recovering alcoholic feel "included" in events

[23:09] The stigma with infertility

[27:18] Ellen's infertility story

[32:53] Don't be afraid to ask for help. You are not alone

[34:31] Outro

It’s the world’s first video dating app! Yes!

So, instead of sitting and swiping, Filter Off schedules dates for you to meet real people, live on video. And Today, I have the CEO & Creator, Zach Schleien with me to discuss the PRO’s and why video is the hottest trend in dating! 

Zach is the co-founder/CEO of the video speed dating app, Filter Off. Filter Off has been featured in publications such as The New York Times, BBC, and hit #1 on ProductHunt. Previously he ran and sold the dating blog Top Romp, which covered dating hacks and apps for the modern dater.

He is a TEDx speaker and his passions lie in technology, health, and creating authentic connections. When he is not working, Zach loves to travel the world, listen to podcasts, and work out.

So, what are the benefits you ask? Well, Zach and I discuss all of them!

But here are the highlights we will talk about in today’s episode:

• No anxiety about writing an online dating bio 
• No catfishing 
• Raw, unfiltered conversations 
• Saves time and energy 
• FUN! 

Find Filter Off and Zach:

Personal IG https://www.instagram.com/zach08590/

App IG https://www.instagram.com/filteroffdating/

Website: https://www.getfilteroff.com/

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here.

Show notes:

[1:35] What is Filter Off?

[2:49] How Zach got interested in creating a dating app?

[4:38] Filter Off during and post-pandemic

[6:55] How does Filter Off work? 

[9:19] The cost of Filter Off

[9:58] Talking more about the match-making service

[10:56] Success statistics of Filter Off

[11:33] Starting a community within the app

[13:06] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/)

[15:54] Is the app available on the web?

[17:53] The safety concerns of Filter Off

[24:18] Where to find Zach and Filter Off?

[25:14] Outro

And I'm not talking about what they're looking for in a partner. Nope! I'm asking my boyfriend of four years, Jim Healey, to answer some questions about MEN and Relationships today on Doing Relationships Right! 

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/jenniferhurvitz/_created/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7ilFqf18-z-H_e7JFIrjbQ

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Show notes:

[3:33] The BIGGEST thing men want, and we'll start with respect

[6:48] Men like to feel NEEDED

[8: 49] Accepted and be enough

[12:29] S-E-X

[14:51] Woman showing initiative 

[19:50] Included in important discussions and decisions 

[20:57] Maintain male relationships 

[24:37] Partner that sweats together stays together, really?

[27:13] Guys want their girls to be happy

[28:24] They want to be praised and acknowledged 

[29:45] Five-part series for anyone who wishes to date online for only $199