Peter and his girlfriend have been together for 6 years, living together for 1/2 that time. Peter's really happy in the relationship, but doenst need to have anything change. Peter's girlfriend wants to buy an apartment with him. IS co-home ownership a red herring for a ring? Props to Peter he was open minded and willing to talk which I don’t necessarily take for granted in males. 

Peter is an excellent artist! Check out his work HERE: https://www.peterschenck.com/

Follow him HERE @pbschenck

Comedian Matt Ruby and I agree there is a lot Non—Trump voters missed (myself included) about how society views a large group of men. It's not simple, especially since we are all in our info silos. Matt put out a great substack opinion piece on this topic. Even discussing this shit nowadays is risky, but necessary for all of us to understand these issues. I was inspired to listen to this Joe Rogan episode after our chat and it was further illuminating. We MUST UNDERSTAND the other people!

Btw: Did you also know that Matt Ruby is an AWESOME COMEDIAN?? HERE'S PROOF

More Matt Here: https://www.mattrubycomedy.com/ @mattrubycomedy/

The substack we discussed here:

https://mattruby.substack.com/p/incessantly-calling-men-toxic-is

It’s my fault. As ambassador of the elites, I take full responsibility for this defeat.First off, let’s admit it: He’s the greatest con man ever. The first time around, people might not have understood what was happening. This time, everybody knew — and they went for it anyway. When you get the marks to volunteer for the duping, you’ve achieved true con mastery.

Am I mad? Nah. Frustrated, but this is just who we are. It’s the same way I feel about the rise in antisemitism. We act like something new is happening, but really we just moved the rock and are now seeing what was underneath all along. I’d rather stare it in the face than pretend it’s not there. This is who we are.

(Also, let’s be real: I’m a white dude who lives in NYC so I’ll probably be insulated from the worst of it.)

Plus, I kinda saw it coming…

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“Butts in seats” is the comedy version of elections. It’s our way of saying, “Scoreboard!” The lesson we’ve learned: You can go on Colbert 15 times and it won’t have the impact of one Rogan appearance. Especially if you wanna reach dudes.

Ezra Klein explained this in the NYT:

She should’ve gone on Rogan, and much else besides…But Rogan is symbolic of something bigger. There is an alienation that’s grown between young men and much of the Democratic Party. For years, there’s been no real way of talking about masculinity in liberal circles that didn’t attach the word “toxic” before it. There’s been a reveling in growing female strength and a deep critique of male culture. You can have any view you want on the merits of that, but it’s had consequences.

The Republicans are the roast and the Democrats are the HR department. And America wants cruel jokes more than a DEI seminar.

If any/all of this annoys you, I return to this question: Do you want to win next time or nah?

Because what I’m really getting at…

It’s time to realize that incessantly calling men toxic is a bad way to get their votes.

The truth is men are suffering and retreating right now. Richard Reeves has been discussing this at length. Here's a taste.

I worry that we’re not signaling strongly enough to young men now we need you. We in very different spaces. We the families, we the mothers, we the labor market, we the community. Not just we need people, but we need you. And absent that sense of we need you, I think we see a lot of young men retreating.

I don't get the chance to meet people like Franklin Rossman often enough. Someone who had found a big part of his life of sharing his art to improve young people's lives who are too often overlooked by public education. Franklin shares a fascinating story of growing up and the role music played in his life which led him to the role of Regional Director, New York for Guitars Over Guns.

@franklinrossman @guitarsoverguns

Franklin Rossman Bio:

Growing up, Franklin Rossman always knew one thing—he was going to make his mark in Hip-Hop! As a kid, the Brooklyn, New York native soaked up all of the culture and sounds around him. JAY-Z, the Notorious B.I.G. and Nas helped to inspire Franklin’s musical tastes and aspirations. With that, Franklin began creating, and his first works were a series of mixtapes under the stage name, The Incomparable Shakespeare.

Franklin established himself as a talented lyricist early on with appearances on Sirius XM’s Sway In The Morning, Showoff Radio with Statik Selektah, and MTV. He’s performed alongside Hip-Hop luminaries including Slick Rick, The Lox, and has collaborated with the likes of Kool G. Rap, Sean P, and others.

In addition to music, Franklin is intimately involved in education. He developed and piloted a Hip-Hop ELA curriculum. His work explores literacy through Hip-Hop, bringing a socially and culturally relevant approach to learning across schools and community organizations. For multiple summers, in partnership with Harlem Children’s Zone, he helped coordinate literacy-based programming at Columbia University. With over a decade of experience in the classroom and the entertainment industry, Franklin remains committed to youth development.

Guitars over Guns Mission Statement:

Kids are awesome. They’re creative. They’re fearless. They’re bursting with energy and hungry for knowledge. They know how to make the most of every opportunity.

But kids from our most vulnerable communities don’t always have the chance to discover just how awesome they can be. These kids are filled with promise. They have big dreams and bold stories to tell. And yet, due to circumstances and systems beyond their control, they don’t always know that they have the freedom to choose a path of their own.

At Guitars Over Guns, we’re changing that through music, because we believe that music, combined with strong, consistent mentorship, can reshape the trajectory of a student’s life.

Accomplished painter and portrait artist and now curator! recently completed a 365 portrait a day project so we get to find out what the experience was like for her since they were all done from live subjects. Brenda is also the mother of a lovely teenage girl, Oona and it affected her too. A lot of unexpected stuff here! http://brendazlamany.com/

Loren Munk is an amazing painter and art world chronicler. His art and videos are an amalgamation of art history. The well-known painter, Katherine Bradford said he deserves a MacArthur "Genius" Award and I wholeheartedly agree. As James Kalm, he’s had over 2 million views of his web series covering art, galleries, artists, openings and even some street musicians. There is so much to learn about this former Mormon from Utah. Loren was talented as a child but art didn’t come alive for him until he was stationed in Germany with the U.S. Army during the 70’s. Loren was a highly active part of the art world in the 80’s. He never quit, but the art world went through it’s paces and he and his wife, Kate, focused on bring up two boys. In the meantime Loren, reentered the art world with a vengeance. This is genuine inside scoop, folks. There’s even a discussion of, “What’s more important for an art career,-the work or the relationships?” Find out more about Loren and see his work here: http://www.lorenmunk.com/ Enjoy his art world videos here: https://www.youtube.com/user/jameskalm and here https://www.youtube.com/user/jameskalmroughcut

Max and Guillaume are two musicians from Massachusetts who work for Metro Art Collective, an organization hosting a variety of artistic events dedicated to showcasing underground local talent. As well as making their own music, they revel in the opportunity to meet and build relationships with the local artistic community.

Gulliame is a fellow RFB host-hes only 24 and hes been doing his show since April. He does his radio show with his cohost Max Randall. who today, unfortunately, had to work. Even though I've benn aware of his show,and met Max, this is the first time I've met Guillaume in person. He is studying to be an actual credentialed psychotherapist at the New School. He also has 2 part time jobs, one as a student crisis councelor and one as a substance- abuse councelor. He seems to have had a decent chilhood with some discussion around his father being a high-achieving workaholic. Guillame talks about his dad's influence in reference to how much Guillame values his relationships. At the end of the day Guiallame is concerned he is not focussing on him music enough to satisfy him and with a little digging, we find out his organization and discipline could be better. He's taken steps recently to improve so we agree to meet again in 6 months to chart his progress—stay tuned!

I met Elija Meshnick briefly at an open mic. We vibed instantly so I invited them on the show. They're a comedian, also pretty well-adjusted but still has some issues around popularity from being compared to her gregarious fraternal twin. They have ADHD issues—do they have it or not? Does a diagnosis matter? We were able to drill down and get a lot done while still having a blast!

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Tim Seeberger s his music. As founder/frontman of PopMusic his band is gatherering heat and opportunities. As he has transitioned from a devoted Christian to a devoted queer musician who is also Christian, Tim has experienced a lot of identity adjustments, starting in a new way when he went away to college. He has a good relationship with his family, lots of friends and above all, his music will always ground him. There’s still some work to do on intimacy but he’s only 27.

Also, on a personal level—I really like this music. It has a genuine uncynical authenticity just like Tim.

Listen to PMFD on Spotify

Watch their Another Screen video

Another Screen by Pop Music Fever Dream, from their new EP, "Songs For Emotion."

Starring T. Seeberger, Carmen Castillo, Domenico Bancroft, and Nicole Harwayne

Directed by T. Seeberger

Produced by T. Seeberger, Carmen Castillo

Cinematography/Vfx by Sam Blieden (Instagram: @s.r.b)

Edited by Sam Blieden, T. Seeberger

Acting Coaching by Carmen Castillo

Special thanks to @TheFilmMakersCooperative

Pop Music Fever Dream is a post-punk/no wave band from NYC.

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pmfd.nyc/?h...

Bandcamp: https://pmfd.bandcamp.com/

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/0SZRh...

Here's some great interviews with Tim:

https://swimintothesound.com/blog/2024/9/9/the-name-of-the-band-is-pop-music-fever-dream

https://www.bkmag.com/2023/10/02/inside-the-queer-punk-revolution/

#timseeberger #popmusicfeverdream

Justin Linville is a talented actor and improviser. He’s on a star improv team at the Brooklyn Comedy Collective where he works as the director of the BCC Dog House location. Justin seems to really enjoy growing up in his family and was encouraged to do what he chose to, so in fact, he’s actually pretty well adjusted. I think his being an “air force brat” and moving around a lot every few years made him a pretty chill guy — his secret weapon is his ability to handle hectic situations productively, which he did as Chris Gethard’s assistant for years as well as playing John Mulaney’s assistant on TV in “Crashing.” He’s been in a bunch of tv shows and movies too. As he’s young, he is deliberating his future….

Also WATCH Bob Denver:

Gilligan's Island: https://www.justwatch.com/us/tv-show/gilligans-island https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gilligan%27s_Island

The Many Loves of Dobie Gilllis: https://www.justwatch.com/us/tv-show/the-many-loves-of-dobie-gillis https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Many_Loves_of_Dobie_Gillis

More about Justin

IMBD

This is the 3rd time I've had Lana on my show and we rocked it. Lana is a brilliant rapidly rising comedian whose doing the hard work it takes to get to where she is—performing at The Comedy Cellar and having her own special (shot—coming out soon) on DryBar comedy .

We start talking about Lana's relationship with her mother and I suggest doing a "role-play" where I act as her mother and she says what she wishes she could say to her. I think we surprised ourselves on what came out of this. I know this sounds like a teaser, but it is seriously hard to describe. Absurd, hilarious and VERY REAL.

Check out Lana at these spots:@drybarcomedy SPECIAL @amazonprime @nycomedyfest @comedycellarusa HEADLINING Peckville, PA 9/28; VA 11/1 ; MD 11/16 & lots more tba

Instagram @lanasiebel

Hear Lana talk about being a refugee from Ukraine to American at 7 years old. how she built her comedy career, her husband and now 11-year old son (destined for comedy, I think) on our previous episodes here:

DLG277 Lana Siebel is a rare find in the comedy world: talented, hilarious, smart and KIND.

DLG323 A funny/serious session with comedy mentor Lana Siebel.