Dr. Nicolya Show

Dr. Nicolya Show

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  • 111: Can You Be A Christian And Hypnotherapist?
    A question I got recently is how can you be a hypnotherapist and Christian? And the answer is yes you can be both!!! YES I am an unapologetic believer! Christ is my savior and God's son. He died on the cross for my sins and I am forever thankful for Him. And yes I am also a certified hypnotherapist as well.  While to me, I recognize you can be both I know that most people don't understand how....and the reason I know this is because I was one of them.  When I first sought out to improve my skills as a coach I was seeking a program to learn about EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). I found an amazing program that would help me to become certified in EFT. but the caveat was it also helped me to become certified in hypnotherapy. 
    I was extremely hesitant about the hypnotherapy piece, but I prayed and felt this was the best decision for my business. I even was sure to ask another believer to pray and hold me accountable if I got too far out of line. I then decided to move forward trusting God was with me the entire time.   When I began the program I was totally closed off to hypnotherapy and decided to put my focus on the EFT portion of the program. While I was loving that I noticed that I started to get more curious about hypnotherapy. People were sharing in our online group how it was blowing their mind and the results they were getting. I wanted that and for once I felt like my guard was coming down.  I believe the reason I started to let my guard down was because my coach was always drilling in our head that prior to using hypnotherapy with a patient we needed to ensure it was ethical for 1. the patient/client 2. the clinician 3. the world. I also learned how some people would use it regardless of this, but I was in a group of women who wanted to change the world in the RIGHT way. This level of accountability and support made me feel safe to give it a try. So I took the leap and scheduled a session with one of the women in the program, whom I trusted  I went in for a 45 minute session, and a lot of skepticism and much to my surprise this session changed my life.  
    I then decided to try hypnotherapy on a great friend of mine who was struggling with losing weight and loving herself totally. She wanted to be more confident and consistent with working out and removing excuses. We did ONE 45 minutes session and since then my friend has lost 30 pounds and worked out 2-3 times per week consistently for the last 6 months!  Hypnosis  can be equated to guided visualization. Many people say that it is a a calm, physically, and mentally relaxed state, where they are able to focus deeply on what they are thinking about.  In fact, hypnosis came from the greek word hypnos to sleep, Hypnosis is the induction of a state of consciousness in which a person apparently loses the power of voluntary action and is highly responsive to suggestion or direction.  Literally hypnosis is a great way to get in a relaxed place and open your mind to what you truly desire. It's a powerful way to connect with subconscious to reprogram thoughts/behaviors/actions.   Honestly there is nothing demonic or "woo woo" about it. As the clinician my job is to get you to share your deepest desires, then get you to relax and then I guide you through what it is that you want from a different perspective so you can see what it looks and feels like. More importantly so you can see that this available to you.   Hypnosis is so life changing and I feel like it's a crime that more people don't know about it. As a counselor I have never been more impressed with the shift and breakthroughs that have been created with my clients using hypnotherapy.
    If you would like to schedule a hypnosis session sign up here:
    15 min
  • Bonus Episode: How to develop your intuition.
    In 2022 I set a goal different than any other goal I have ever set. The goal was to have a calm and regulated nervous system. It’s been a crazy journey but so impactful. One of the best things that has come of it is strengthening my self trust. In todays bonus episode I am going to talk all about developing your intuition. Intuition can be a hard thing to understand, but we all have these powerful senses that can guide us through life. We just need to learn how to listen and pay attention! Let’s talk about it. If you would like to subscribe to my channel on YouTube check it out here: youtube.com/drnicolyawilliams
    16 min
  • 110: Should I Niche Down?
    Many coaches in the business space will tell you that you have niche down in order to be successful. I’ll be honest I have a very contradictory view of niching. For me niching depends on whether or not you feel aligned with it. In today’s video, I talk about two different business organizational structures so that you can learn about each and lean in to which feels most aligned.
    Sign up for your business human design reading here:
    https://www.nicolyawilliams.com/human-design-breakthrough-session/
    16 min
  • 109: What is decision fatigue
    Decision fatigue is a state of mental overload that can impede our ability to make additional decisions. A more simplified way to explain this is that decision fatigue refers to the mental exhaustion a person experiences after making a lot of decisions. And essentially it is the assumption that the less decisions you have to make the less exhausted or overwhelmed you will feel. Psychologists consider decision fatigue  the deteriorating quality of decisions made by an individual after a long session of decision making.
    The good news is you don't have to stay stuck in the struggle. So let's talk about how to work through decision fatigue
    1. Make your biggest decisions earlier in the day when you're energized and focused.
    2. Try to eliminate decision making when possible. (For example meal prepping at the beginning of the week prevents you from having to decide what to make for dinner every night.)
    3. Build breaks into your day. I have an alarm on my phone that goes off 2x per day and it says "am I creating from a place of joy or a place of stress" this alarm serves as a gentle reminder to check in with myself and get in touch with what I need in that moment.
    4. Get a partner or good friend to weigh in. For me, with an undefined ajna and head center (human design) getting that time to talk it out and get support is extremely freeing and helpful. So get support when you can.
    5. Consider writing out a pro's and con's list when you have to make a major decision. This will help you to think it through and reduce the likelihood that you will regret the decision later.
    6. When you feel tempted to make a rash or impulsive decision give yourself a chance to take a break.
    7. Create and commit to a set routine. Implementing this structure will help you to save time, while simultaneously bringing a sense of consistency in your life. It will also eliminate the need for you to make decisions for some of your basic and routine tasks. Plus your brain loves that consistency.
    8. Reflect on past experiences. Sometimes the inability to make a decision is rooted in the fact that you don't trust yourself based on past decisions . One strategy I have found to be exceptionally helpful is to reflect on decisions I have made in the past that were good. I also will look at the ones that were hard, but what I learned from them. This experience and activity always gives me the boost of confidence and energy I need to make decisions both big and small.
    9. This may be the most difficult, yet most important- after you make your decision do not waiver. Trust yourself, and trust the process. Ultimately no decision is "wrong" because it's at bare minimum teaching you something. Embrace your power to make healthy decisions and move forward. I have learned the more I trust myself-the better decisions I am starting to make.
    Regardless of how strong, hardworking or disciplined you are, your ability to make the best choices can eventually run out due to decision fatigue. This is why it is important to not only identify decision fatigue, but to make sense of it can save you a lot of energy emotionally, but can also conserve your time.
    If you want to learn more about your human design schedule your reading here: https://www.nicolyawilliams.com/human-design-breakthrough-session
    18 min
  • 108: What’s it called ?
    In the coaching space there are so many terms being thrown around that it can be so confusing about what means what. In today’s blog I am going to give you a description of each !
    Let’s begin with the difference between a mastermind, group coaching program and a course!
    Courses and group coaching programs were created in order to teach people something and to be able to access people from all over the world. The goal is to teach them something:
    * New
    * Valuable, and
    * Impactful
    With the course and group coaching program you can deliver information to your students to
    take and implement into their own lives or businesses. 
    A group coaching program has content, structure, curriculum, and coaching from the person facilitating the program. This typically consists of people traveling in a cohort format through the program .
    A course on the other hand can be delivered on demand or gone through at your own pace. A course is a hub in which information is shared on a specific subject (money mindset, business, writing a book etc.)
    Courses are usually hosted through a learning management system (I.e. kajabi, teachable, thinkific), in which students can view their course syllabus, the modules and academic progress, as well as communicate with other students and their instructor.
    Both routes should have tangible takeaways, practical action steps, and support (this could include but it’s not limited to a workbook, activities, coaching calls, online community, or check-ins) as you apply the learning materials to your life.
    A mastermind is a group of like minded people who “mastermind” aka share ideas to bring forth a power of creativity and support. A true mastermind is made by those in the group. They are committed to one another. A group coaching program is a group of people who come together to learn a subject or curriculum and receive coaching from the coach. A mastermind has no content. The coach is a facilitator; the one who attracts the right people into the group.
    One on one coaching - Private coaching requires more personalized attention and more of your time. This is catered to the client and their needs. It can be supplemented with workbooks or trainings as you see fit.
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    What’s the difference between a masterclass, webinar and workshop?
    For me when I host webinars they are free. Here I am typically sharing steps they can avoid & then they go off and do it on their own.
    Trainings and masterclasses are often used interchangeably. I usually use this instead of the word webinar because that sounds corporate focused. Masterclasses are specialty classes in which the learning objectives take place through in-depth practice paid with detailed instruction.
    The word “webinar” is a mix of the phrase “web-based seminar.” The webinar topic is supposed to be closely aligned with whatever the host is selling.
    Workshops are usually paid because The host/ coach etc is walking you through the work . In addition to guiding you they are giving room for feedback. For example, I recently hosted a workshop on tapping and I helped the attendees walk through and tap on their own. I also talked about creating scripts etc.
    Ultimately when you’re presenting remember you’re a master and people are looking at you as the authority! You get to use these platforms as the chance to showcase your expertise and let people know how they can work with you. If you’re ready to create your very own online course join us here: https://www.nicolyawilliams.com/content-course-coins. If you’re ready to stand out and sell out as a coach join us here: https://www.nicolyawilliams.com/master-your-mindset-masterclass-for-coaches if you’re ready to write your very own book join us here: https://www.nicolyawilliams.com/writeyourbookin30daysnow if you’re ready to live your life more intentionally join us here: https://www.nicolyawilliams.com/living-aligned-by-design-workshop
    17 min
  • 107: Content Creation Plan For Coaches
    Does the idea of creating content overwhelm you?

    Maybe you find yourself creating never ending content just to have very minimal engagement

    Or maybe you don’t even know what to create

    We have to do away with the idea of creating content just for creation’s sake.

    When you think about the content you’re creating would you say it…

    • aligns with your brands values?
    • Meets your clients where they currently are at and shows them how you can further support them?
    • builds your brands authority and trust?

      • If not listen up…

      Your content is the first way people get to experience your brand. So you want to make it solid!

      In todays video I am going to share how you can create a comprehensive content creation plan and avoid the burnout !

      If you want to leverage your coaching superpower check out this quiz here: http://www.nicolyawilliams.com/stand-out-coach-strategy

      If you want to learn how to effectively repurpose and in turn create more room for relaxation check out the workshop here: https://www.nicolyawilliams.com/repurpose-and-relax

      14 min
    • 106: How to run a coaching session from start to finish

      I firmly believe that every coach has their own unique approach to coaching, However, most coaching sessions share a common structure and unfold in much the same way. So today we will talk about how you can run a coaching session from start to finish without the overwhelm.

      1. Build rapport

      2. Listen to your client

      3. Support your client

      4. Tasking for your client

      5. Close Out

      Being organized and having a plan will help you feel in control and always know how to conduct a coaching session with confidence. So keep this list of steps handy and trust that the more you practice the more you get to make it your own.

      As a coach you have a very powerful role! When people invest in you (time and money) they are trusting you. Therefore it's imperative to make a commitment to improve your own skills and competencies. If you're ready to learn more about your STAND OUT coaching strategy and how you can weave this into the work you do take the free quiz here: www.nicolyawilliams.com/stand-out-coach-strategy

      16 min
    • 105: The Why, The What and The Who

      While still down with covid I started to reflect on the three pillars that helped me build the foundation for seeing my vision through. In today's podcast episode I stripped audio from a brief motivational live I did about these pillars and why you should take time to consider and reflect on them today.

      8 min
    • 104: The Four Permissions We Must Give Ourselves

      Covid kicked my butt....but it taught me a lot.

      So for the last two weeks I have been forced to be still and thanks to my undefined sacral that was super hard for me.

      I realized that even though I had loads of content pre-batched and ready to go I was worried how things would change if I was just laying in bed all day.

      I had such a massive quantum leap the month before and the idea of "loosing momentum" scared me sooo much.

      And I realized it was because I hadn't done the deep work around increasing my level of safety.

      So I went in and did lots of praying, deep reflection, tapping and hypnotherapy- all the tools I have at hand and know the power of.

      My intuition lead to me to start looking  and I found an amazing concept called The Four Permissions.

      Permission to say “No”

      When we are unable to say “No” in the midst of surrounding togetherness pressure, we lose a little of ourselves. It's imperative that we are okay with saying "no". This is not about being selfish, it’s about knowing who you are, what you believe, and what you need.

      Permission to ask for what you need

      Knowing how to take care of yourself means you can ask for what you need and being confident you're worthy of it.

      Permission to make mistakes

      It’s simple to say, but not easy to implement. You can tell yourself it’s OK to make mistakes, but there are voices in your head calling you a failure and the like. Giving yourself this permission will make you more likely to take appropriate risks putting you on the fast track to where you want to be quicker.

      Permission to rethink

      Just because “we’ve always done it this way before,” doesn’t mean we have to keep it up. Sometimes when things aren’t working and it's okay to reflect, reframe and re-do.

      Giving yourself these permissions helps you to create healthy emotional space, and trust again in yourself. It also show's others what is available for them as well.

      These four permissions are great guidelines to show you how to get in touch with yourself and how increase your level of self trust

      How would your life change if you gave yourself permission to implement these permissions?

      14 min
    • 102.5: 3 Tell Tale Signs You Should Start Offering High Ticket Coaching

      I have worked with some of the most powerful coaches who unfortunately have burned the candles at both ends or hustled their way to burn out. I don't know about you, but I know I can relate to that. They leave the nine to five just to find out that they're working 60 to 80 hours a week for themselves making less money and maybe even less of an impact. Or they move into business and they're trying to help everyone, losing themselves in the process, filling everyone's cup and emptying theirs at the same time. I don't want that for you. And that's why today I want to talk about the three telltale signs that let you know if it's time to move to high value coaching, also known as high impact coaching.

      In the coaching space we hear of high ticket coaching, which is about raising your price, but sadly I feel like many people put so much emphasis on the income, not always prioritizing the impact.

      I want you to be able to shift the structure so that you can build the business that is not only profitable, impactful and sustainable. So let's dive in and talk about those three telltale signs that it's time to move to high value and high impact coaching.

      7 min

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