"You can flip [the reaction to thoughts of divorce] away from fear and desperation to a stimulus that says 'we need to communicate more,' or, 'maybe we should read a book together or go and get a little help;’ You can shift it from hiding from the issues to going right at them. Physically, that’s what pain does for you. It says, ‘Oh, you better check that out. There must be something going wrong there.’" - Dr. Alan Hawkins