Embrace the Mud

In this last episode of the series Real Relationship Wisdom, I share one final golden nuggets of wisdom from Terry Real which is the idea that Love Demands Democracy. So what stands in the way of two people successfully co-governing their relationship? It has to do with something Terry calls your relational stance. In this episode I describe what the 4 stances are, help you to identify which one is yours, and talk about what knowing your stance means for you and how it can help you create intimacy and connection in your relationship.

Terry Real's Relational Stance Quiz

Today on the Embrace the Mud Podcast I am continuing to share golden nuggets of wisdom from Terry Real and the topic for today is the 5 Losing Strategies. What are the 5 losing strategies, where do these behaviors come from, how do they impact our adult relationships, and what can you do to stop defaulting to them? These are the questions I will be answering in this episode.

Today on the Embrace the Mud Podcast we are looking at a concept I learned from Dr. Terry Real called Relational Integrity. What is relational integrity? How do practice it? How does it help create safety and closeness in your relationship? Listen in and find out.

Today on the Embrace the Mud Podcast we are highlighting another concept I learned from Dr. Terry Real called Loving Power. What is loving power? What does it look like? Why should you practice it? These are the questions we answer in today's episode.

In this episode of the Embrace the Mud Podcast we are kicking off a short series where I share my favorite relational concepts and ideas that I learned from Dr. Terry Real. Terry Real is a marriage counselor and couple's therapist with amazing wisdom to share with us all, whether we are in a romantic relationship or not, about what it means to live a relational life. Today we talk about what it looks like to have and develop a relational mindset, the foundation of living a relational life.  

Today on the Embrace the Mud Podcast we are talking about the skill of Co-Regulation. Co-Regulation is the ability to help you partner come out of a triggered state when they are activated and caught in emotional dysregulation. Why is co-regulation a valuable relational skill and what does co-regulation look like? These are the questions we will answer in this episode. 

No More Unmet Needs Workbook

Today we are continuing our series Essential Relationship Skill with the skill of attunement. Attunement is the ability to sense what your partner is feeling, to enter into their inner world and experience life and the moment through their eyes. Why is attunement an essential relationship skill and how do you enhance your own capacity for it? These are the questions we are answering today on the Embrace the Mud Podcast.

Today we are talking about the skill of bargaining. No two people in a couple are exactly alike and each will sometimes want different things, so how do you contend with that? How can you strive for mutual satisfaction when you have different needs or preferences? That's the topic of today's episode of the Embrace the Mud Podcast.

Today we are continuing in our series Essential Relationship Skills and are talking about the skill of complaining. Everyone experiences annoyance and dissatisfaction in relationships and it’s important to be able to communicate those skillfully. Unskillful complaints often sound like blame or criticism, two relational weeds we covered in our last series. So what does it look like to complain skillfully? Why is it important to complain well in relationships? That's what we are covering today on the Embrace the Mud Podcast.

Today we are talking about a relationship skill called Validation. Validation is the ability to help someone feel understood and cared for by you. What does it look like to validate? Why does validation matter in relationships? That’s what we’re discussing today on the Embrace the Mud Podcast.