Five ways to embrace.

What do we mean by embrace? The easiest way to explain embrace is to describe a hug. When we hug someone there is no space between us. Our hearts are close and our bodies are pressed together tightly. If we really have done the job of hugging properly, our breathing and heartbeats will sync up and it feels as if we are one with each other. The next time you hug a loved one, try to become conscience of your breathing by just being aware of the rise and fall of your chest and the rise and fall of your hugging partners chest. Just watch this then follow these steps.

1. Close your eyes: We are so visual that we are distracted easily by things in our eyes' path. Closing your eyes allows you to focus better on the embrace.

2. Don't grasp: When we try to hold on too tightly we can make our partner feel trapped and uncomfortable. A light yet firm embrace is the key.

3. Avoid the slap: The action of slapping the back is jarring and a bit disturbing to some. Try not to get over zealous.

4. Breath: Remember to focus on the breath and feel the sensation of your chest rise and fall as the breath moves in and out. There is no need to try and control your breath.

5. Acceptance: While you have this person so close it's a great time to embrace with your mind as well as your arms. Try saying this as you watch your breath: "I accept you just as you are right now."

This exercise can be used not only with a partner but on your self! Try the same method but hug yourself this time. You may also use these steps when your are faced with a difficult scenario or even with a difficult person. They don't have to be literally hugged (though that would be ideal). You can practice with your imagination. So hug your enemy today and relieve some of that pain you may be carrying around.