Is your marriage in the best shape it could be? Do you feel like you’re married but living as roommates? How can you improve your marriage? In This Podcast Summary In this podcast episode, Veronica shares the story of her marriage and how she managed to make her marriage survive and thrive. Starting our marriage […]

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Do you ever feel lonely? Are you not sure how to make friends? Is this the life you want to live?

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In this podcast episode, Veronica shares her story of a time when she felt alone and didn’t know how to make friends.

ADAPTING TO CHANGE

My husband called me one day saying, “I’ve just received orders, we’re moving to New York.” Sure, we’re a military family but orders to New York? There had to be a mistake. So right away I told him to fix this! I’m not moving. My dad was ill and was up for a liver transplant. I couldn’t leave him, and we owned a home. Everything I know is here, I didn’t want to go. I was scared. I didn’t know how to start over or deal with change. But we were moving, it was a done deal.

Being the wife of a military man is hard. Most days you’re alone. In Cali, I have family, friends, and a support system. I was going to be alone in New York. Now looking back, it’s clear that I was just looking for something I could control. I was being forced out of my comfort zone and I was so afraid to try something new. When we moved to New York, I found myself isolating.

The skype calls I had with my friends were small moments of joy. I lied to them and told them New York was amazing and that I loved it. I just wanted to be happy. But when we got off the phone, I was alone again. Taking the kids to school I remember looking down, not talking to anybody. And to make matters worse, I’d gained weight. I lost myself because I was so afraid of change and didn’t know how to lean into vulnerability. It impacted our lives in a big way. I mean think about it:

If mom is not okay, no one is okay.

So I started to do things differently and ask myself questions. Is this the life I wanted to live? I knew that I couldn’t live this way anymore so I made an active decision to change it. I had to make an active choice.

Steven Covey states in order to create a new habit, you have to know what to do, how to do it, know why you are doing it and you have to want to do it.

LET’S START GETTING REALLY HONEST WITH OURSELVES

Step 1 Ask yourself: What do I need to do right now to live the life I want to live? What habits do I need to change? Write them down.

Step 2 Ask yourself: Why do I need to change these habits? For example, are you lonely? If you continue living like this, how will things continue?

Step 3 Ask yourself: How am I going to change these habits? For me, it was instead of avoiding everyone, I told myself I’m going to start approaching other moms. Lean into the discomfort and connect. When I did that, I slowly started to find myself.

Step 4 You have to want to do it! For me, this meant I had to lean into my insecurities about meeting new people by challenging them. I did this by telling myself there is no way I am the only one who feels this way.

WHAT IS YOUR INTENT FOR TODAY?

Today I want you to compliment five women. Compliment their smile, eyes, or hair. Then pay attention to their reaction. I bet you will start a conversation. And then you’ll start to understand how to make friends.

Lean in and start a connection with someone with the intent to start a friendship.

Until next time, keep pushing forward.

Do you ever feel lonely? Are you not sure how to make friends? Is this the life you want to live? In This Podcast Summary In this podcast episode, Veronica shares her story of a time when she felt alone and didn’t know how to make friends. Adapting to change My husband called me one […]

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Do you put everyone else first before yourself? Are you stressed and disconnected on most days? Do you want to live a life that’s empowered and unapologetic?

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In this podcast episode, Veronica shares an introduction to her story and steps to become empowered as a woman, wife, and mother.

THIS USED TO BE MY LIFE

So it’s 615am, we’re late! Really late. I wake up in a rush to get the kids up. My husband is still asleep as today’s his day off. 

I’m running around like a madwoman trying to wake them all up. Making breakfast, prepping lunch, negotiating with the kids what they should wear and trying to get everything ready. I’m alone getting the kids ready, did I mention that? It’s an entire checklist that’s running through my head and I’m trying to get through it as quickly as possible. I run back downstairs, yelling at everyone, let’s go, let’s go! 

Guess who meets me downstairs. My husband, who is showered, dressed and has his coffee in hand.  Meanwhile, I look like the hired help, and I don’t even have a bra on! 

 I say to him, “It must be nice taking that shower and getting dressed.” He replied, “Why didn’t you wake me up, I would have helped?” Yes, sure! If you wanted to help then you would have helped!

Well, there goes the start of everyone’s day. It wasn’t a good one. But at no point did I stop and think, girl, put your bra on first.

 I lived my life like this for so long because, well everyone else was doing it too. We’re slaves to the checklist and we don’t do anything about it. We shouldn’t have to do everything on our own and resent our families for it.

No woman should suffer silently, losing herself while trying to make a perfect life for her family.

But why didn’t I just let them do it? Well, because they wouldn’t do it the way I liked it or I’d have to redo it. So instead, for years I would do everything and anything for them, and they knew it. They had the luxury of doing nothing for themselves because they knew mom had their back.

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