Episode 46: End Perfectionism and Find Peace

Welcome to the Empowering Working Moms Podcast with Dr. Prianca Naik! In this episode, Dr. Prianca talks about the dangers of perfectionism, which is a joy thief and a huge contributor to burnout and exhaustion. Dr. Prianca emphasizes that to truly find joy and balance, we have to burn down our old conditioning, stories, and narratives, and build up a new way of accepting our own mistakes and missteps because they are bound to happen. Let's learn to fight against perfectionism and live a life that's more peaceful and balanced!

 

In this episode, you will learn:

• Her work as a burnout coach for high achieving working moms.
• Discussion on the negative impacts of perfectionism on joy and overall well-being, and how society pushes the idea of perfectionism.
• The need to burn down old conditioning and build up a new way of thinking that accepts mistakes and missteps.
• The benefits of accepting imperfection and self-love.
• Invitation to join a free on-demand masterclass to overcome burnout and get peace of mind back.
• And so much more!

 

To end burnout and exhaustion and get your peace of mind back, check out her free masterclass on 4 steps to overcome burnout, get rid of overwhelm, and get your peace of mind back.

https://program.stresscleansemd.com/4-secrets-to-living-a-life-you-ll-love-podcast

 

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www.priancanaikmdcoaching.as.me to book a 30-minute consultation call

 

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[FULL SHOW NOTES]

If you’re listening to this podcast, you’re probably a high-achieving type A mother and you’re exhausted.  Maybe struggling with exhaustion and burnout.

 

You have checked all the boxes of success and aren’t happy.

You don’t have to feel exhausted anymore.  Imagine a life with no more burnout, more confidence more peace of mind.

That is possible for you because it has been for me and my clients.

 

With a little work, not much time, you can be out of burnout and enjoying your life again.  Check out my free on demand masterclass 4 Steps to Overcome Burnout, Get Rid of Overwhelm, and Finally Get Your Peace of Mind Back.

 

Link in show notes.

I did an episode on stopping perfectionism in episode 28

I got feedback that people wanted more material on perfectionism so here it is…

Perfectionism is a joy stealer AND a huge contributor to burnout and exhaustion.

The more we can learn to fight against it…it’s kind of like a disease…

The lighter, more peaceful, and balanced we will be.

We are high-achieving moms.  Many of us have been conditioned to be perfect.

 

100% on exams, be in shape, not too thin, not too fat…whatever that means!

Look young, have a perfect house and spouse, maybe even high achieving kids too and the list goes on!

 

Now we all know to err is to be human…and I’m assuming if you’re listening to this podcast you’re human unless you’re a pet bystander!

 

Therefore…we, as human beings can NEVER be perfect.

 

This gets dicey in medical malpractice because the law holds us to a standard in which we can never make mistakes…but of course we are human beings! 

 

I’m not going to go on a medical system tangent here..but I say this to highlight the fact that perfectionism is pushed in our society in so many places…including work.

 

We do our best and that is mother beeping enough.

 

To stop feeling exhausted and actually find joy and balance, we have to burn down some of our old brainwashing, stories, and conditioning.

We do our best yes.  But we will never be perfect in all areas of our lives.

 

Our brain scans threats and for many of us imperfection is exactly that.

Becoming aware of this tendency is the first step.

Once you’re aware, you can actively decide to accept the lack of perfection or let things go.

This comes up all day every day.

Practicing letting go again and again

And knowing that perfectionism has nothing to do with our worth.

We are worthy…to exist.  We are worthy of love from ourselves and others.

Regardless of how perfect we are.

Embracing ourselves here.  Here we are.  Imperfect.

That’s not to negate or say that we can’t try out best we can.  But we can also accept B+ work.School is over.  Our parents are no longer monitoring our report cards.

Steps to combatting perfectionism:

Being aware when it comes up

Feeling the resistance to accepting it

Deciding to accept it

Let go anyway

These are 4 steps…you may not be able to practice all of them.  Start with step one, see how far you can get and then proceed to the next steps.

Keep trying and practice…does not make perfect because you will mess up!  But practice the above 4 steps and you will learn to let go…over time…of 80-90% of your perfectionism.

The result will be increased energy and happiness.  Try it and let me know.

Imagine a burnout-free life with more confidence more peace of mind.

That is possible for you because it has been for me and my clients.

With a little work, not much time, you can be out of burnout and enjoying your life again.  Check out my free on demand masterclass 4 Steps to Overcome Burnout, Get Rid of Overwhelm, and Finally Get Your Peace of Mind Back.