English Talk — Speaking up in English at work for introverts with Louise Jefferies

What happens when you realise you don't actually know what you want?

In this episode, I talk to Tanja Fauti about self-awareness, confidence, self-trust and finding your inner compass.

We explore what happens when we become disconnected from our values, our bodies and our sense of what feels right, and why confidence is much more than something we can learn to perform.

We talk about the physical experience of confidence and anxiety, the old inner voices and patterns that can still influence us years later, the difference between self-confidence and self-trust, and why quick confidence hacks may help in the moment but don't necessarily create lasting change.

We also discuss the connection between identity and our roles, particularly for people working in high-pressure environments or communicating in a language that isn't their own.

Tanja shares her perspective as a scientist, coach and advocate for reconnecting with yourself, while we both explore how our work can help people become less dependent on external validation and more able to trust their own judgement.

A conversation about knowing yourself, listening to what your body is telling you, and discovering that self-trust doesn't require certainty. It requires trusting yourself to handle whatever comes next.

The techniques I talk about can be found in my book Enough and How to get out the door - The reluctant networkers workbook

If you're interested in finding out more about working with me you can book a free consultation call here

You can read more about me on my website or connect with me on LinkedIn

You can contact Tanja via her website at: https://www.coaching.fauti.ch

What if trying to sound confident is actually getting in the way of confidence?

In this episode, I talk to communications and vocal coach Helen von Dadelszen about finding your authentic voice rather than trying to perform confidence. We explore voice, nerves, accents, identity and the small courageous actions that help us speak up before we feel ready.

A conversation about sounding like yourself, trusting your voice and communicating with greater confidence and impact.

You can Connect with Louise here: https://www.louisejefferies.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/louise-jefferies-8495a274/

https://www.youtube.com/@Louisejeffferiescoaching

Louise's book Enough: https://preview.mailerlite.io/forms/475403/190876035828418299/share

And with Helen here:

 https://www.linkedin.com/in/helen-von-dadelszen

How many talented people stay invisible simply because they've been taught not to "show off"?

In this inspiring conversation, Louise and communication specialist Susan Heaton-Wright explore why so many capable professionals hold themselves back, especially women, introverts and multilingual leaders.

Susan shares her remarkable journey from being told as a child to stay in the background to becoming an award-winning opera singer, TEDx speaker and international communication expert. Together, Louise and Susan discuss how our early beliefs shape our confidence, why leadership presence has nothing to do with being the loudest person in the room, and how communication is a skill that can be learned rather than a personality trait.

They also explore:

• Why meetings are a performance, but never an act
• The hidden strengths introverts bring to leadership
• Why multilingual professionals often underestimate themselves
• How to stop dismissing compliments and own your achievements
• Practical strategies for speaking up in meetings with confidence
• The importance of preparation, posture and purpose
• How to build authentic executive presence without pretending to be someone you're not

Whether you lead a global team, present your ideas to senior stakeholders or simply want to communicate with greater confidence, this episode offers practical tools and a refreshing reminder that your voice deserves to be heard.

As Susan says: "Don't be the world's best-kept secret. The world needs you."

Watch Susan's TED talk on your tube here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mQ-0Z8v9gMg

In this episode, I sit down with executive coach and former medical doctor Madeleine de Hauke for an honest conversation about fear, confidence and what really stops talented people from reaching their potential.

Madeleine shares the deeply personal story behind leaving medicine after qualifying as a doctor, revealing how fear and self-doubt shaped one of the biggest decisions of her career. Together, we explore how fear often disguises itself as perfectionism, overthinking, procrastination or "logical" decision making, preventing us from speaking up and becoming visible.

We discuss why high-achieving leaders, particularly multilingual professionals and introverts, often struggle with confidence despite years of experience. We also look at the role of trauma, the nervous system, and why small, consistent steps are often more effective than trying to eliminate fear altogether.

Other topics include:

• Why fear is a normal biological response rather than a weakness
• The connection between perfectionism, shame and self-worth
• Supporting multilingual leaders who work across languages and cultures
• Why senior leaders still experience imposter feelings after promotions
• The importance of preparing for high-stakes conversations
• How coaching accelerates confidence and leadership development
• Madeleine's concept of "Owning Your Awesome"
• Why understanding yourself is the first step towards authentic leadership

Whether you're an introvert, a multilingual professional, or someone who's ever questioned whether you're good enough, this conversation offers practical insights and reassurance that confidence isn't about eliminating fear. It's about learning to work with it.

Why do so many capable professionals replay conversations long after they've ended?

In this episode, I'm joined once again by coach Linda Terry to explore the overthinking, rumination and self-doubt that many scientists, leaders and high achievers experience, especially when working in a second language.

Together we discuss why perfectionism can be both a strength and a burden, how cultural and language differences add another layer of complexity to workplace communication, and why anxiety is often misunderstood.

We share some practical insights on recognising when you're caught in a stress response, learning to separate yourself from difficult emotions, and understanding the difference between healthy reflection and unhelpful rumination.

Whether you find yourself replaying meetings at 3am, worrying about how you came across, or struggling to switch off after difficult conversations, this episode offers a compassionate and thought-provoking perspective on what might really be happening beneath the surface.

Key topics in this episode include:

• Why scientists and high achievers are prone to overthinking
• The link between perfectionism and rumination
• Working and leading in a second language
• Anxiety, stress and emotional awareness
• The difference between "I am anxious" and "I feel anxiety"
• How coaching helps uncover blind spots and strengths
• Recognising the early signs of burnout
• Developing greater self-awareness and self-compassion

Why do we keep repeating behaviours that no longer serve us?

In this episode, I’m joined by author and speaker Luke Mathers to explore the hidden habits, labels, and beliefs that quietly shape how we show up in life and at work.

We talk about:

• why many habits are really forms of self-protection
• how labels like “introvert” or “anxious” can become limiting identities
• the difference between confidence and arrogance
• why curiosity is one of the most powerful tools for growth
• how assumptions and miscommunication create stress in workplaces and relationships

We also explore the idea that even our strengths can become defence mechanisms, and how the behaviours that once kept us safe may now be keeping us stuck.

This episode is thoughtful, honest, and full of moments that may make you question the stories you tell yourself about who you are.

If you’ve ever thought:
“That’s just how I am…”

…this conversation is for you.

Ep. 56: Stop Hinting. Start Asking. with Elizabeth Bachmann

You’re doing great work.
But are you actually being heard?

In this episode, I’m joined by Elizabeth Bachmann, former opera director turned executive communication coach, to unpack a pattern that keeps many talented professionals invisible at work.

We explore why hinting doesn’t work, why being “obvious” to you isn’t obvious to others, and how unclear communication quietly blocks opportunities.

You’ll learn:

• Why people don’t respond to hints, only to clear asks
• The hidden gap between what you think you’re saying and what others hear
• How early experiences shape your confidence and communication style
• Why facts alone won’t get you buy-in and what to do instead

If you’ve ever thought, “They know I’m ready”… this episode will challenge that assumption.

🎧 Tune in to learn how to communicate in a way that gets you seen, heard, and taken seriously.

You can connect with Elizabeth at:

 https://elizabethbachman.com

 https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabethbachman/

You can connect with Louise at:

https://www.louisejefferies.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/louise-jefferies-8495a274/

In this episode, I’m joined by Dagmar Albers, who spent over 20 years in pharma and successfully reduced a company’s gender pay gap from 15.9% to 6.6%.

But this conversation isn’t really about pay.

It’s about what actually holds capable professionals back from stepping into more senior roles, especially when working in a second language.

We explore the patterns that quietly limit visibility and progression, even when the expertise is there.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why the gender pay gap is more about progression than pay
• The difference between equal pay and structural imbalance
• Why many professionals wait too long before speaking up or applying
• The hidden cost of downplaying your achievements
• How imposter syndrome shows up at senior levels
• Why language mistakes feel bigger than they are
• The link between visibility, confidence, and career progression
• Cultural differences that can amplify self-doubt at work
• What needs to change in organisations and what needs to change individually

If you’ve ever held back in a meeting, second-guessed your voice, or felt like others are more confident than you, this episode will challenge that assumption.

🎧 Tune in to hear a more honest conversation about confidence, communication, and career progression in international environments.

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This episode communications coach Beverly McCluskey and I challenge common assumptions about leadership, communication, and confidence at work.

We discuss the difference between “hard power” and “soft power” leadership, why resilience is often misunderstood, and how introverts and non-native English speakers can lead effectively without forcing themselves into a more extroverted style.

If you’ve ever felt pressure to speak perfectly or act differently to be taken seriously, this episode will show you a more sustainable and authentic way to build presence and influence.

What if everything you were told about needing to speak up, be more visible, and "put yourself out there" was actually the wrong advice?

In this episode I speak with David Burroughs, retired corporate leader and author of The Extrovert's Guide to Elevating Introvert Leaders in the Workplace, about the hidden personality bias that quietly holds introverted talent back, not because introverts lack ability, but because the system was never designed with them in mind.

We explore:

• Why changing yourself to fit the culture is exhausting and ultimately ineffective
• How well-meaning leaders accidentally shame the very people they're trying to include
• What small but powerful shifts organisations can make to unlock introverted talent
• Why diversity without belonging is meaningless

If you've ever felt like you were performing a version of yourself just to be taken seriously, this episode is for you.