What exactly is considered "sexless"? What are we counting as sex? What would cause someone to not want to have sex all of a sudden?

These are all questions I unpacked with Xanet Pailet. She was a successful healthcare lawyer married to an attorney with two children. She lived in a beautiful home in NYC as well as a sexless marriage. At age 45 and no sex for over 15 years, she considered sex as something she was just done with. 

Now she is a full time intimacy educator with a fulfilling sex life. You’ll hear about resentment caused pain, the stuck place of indifference, what men are afraid of, medical procedures that can cause painful sex & listener Q & A from my Facebook group.

This episode originally aired March 11, 2024.

If you liked this episode, you’ll also like episode 214: WHAT ARE THE RULES OF MONOGAMY? THE PSYCHOLOGIST SWINGER

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01:00 — What actually counts as “sexless”

03:00 — The “charcuterie board” of intimacy

06:00 — Separate bedrooms, separate lives

07:00 — Never masturbated… until 48

09:00 — When pleasure and anxiety get wired together

10:00 — Medical trauma no one talks about

13:00 — Circumcision, sensation, and what we lose

14:00 — Are some sexual issues permanent?

16:00 — The emotional root of physical pain

17:00 — Why resentment can make sex hurt

18:00 — When your partner feels like your child

20:00 — Masculine vs feminine energy in relationships

22:00 — Why men stop initiating (and don’t say why)

24:00 — Consent confusion and modern dating fears

26:00 — When no sex is… totally fine

27:00 — The menopause “I don’t care anymore” myth

28:00 — When bad sex kills desire completely

31:00 — The surprise return of desire after divorce

33:00 — The real answer: can it survive?

36:00 — Rebuilding intimacy from zero

40:00 — The hidden reality of sex in Japan

41:00 — Should you open the relationship?

43:00 — Sexless dynamics in same-sex couples

45:00 — Porn, gaming, and disconnection

48:00 — Rethinking sex after physical limitations

53:00 — Outercourse, body mapping, and new pathways

55:00 — Menopause, pain, and what actually helps

57:00 — Why “working on it” feels overwhelming

59:00 — The missing piece: non-sexual intimacy

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