You love your kid and want the best—yet your “help” keeps landing as control. In this episode, Matt & Alona flip the script with Values in the Mirror, a tool that swaps power plays for collaboration so your child learns to steer with their own compass. Expect honest letters from real parents, zero judgment, and practical language you can use tonight. 🧭🤝

Challenging highlights you’ll want to hear:

1. 🍩 The 6 a.m. donut before a race—how one parent turned “Put that down” into a values check that ended with a banana now, donut later.
2. 🎮 The gaming fog—why banning screens backfires, and how a teen co‑created a boundary (weekly long-play + 9 p.m. text stop) that actually stuck.
3. 🥣 Natural consequences at dinner—holding the line without shaming, and prepping in advance for the “I’m hungry at 9 p.m.” moment so connection survives the night.
4. Letters that push buttons (in the best way): What if they “use our language against us”? What if they never learn without us steering? How to name protective use of force for safety—then return to collaboration.
5. Big takeaways you’ll repeat: Presence over power. Softness isn’t weakness. Resentment from “help” can leak into the whole relationship. When kids test limits, they’re not scheming—they’re building identity. 🧠💚

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Nudge: When I try to guide my kids all they hear is control. How do I turn that around?

Nudge: "You said you trusted me!" How do I build agreements for my child to understand protective limits? 

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