You’ll hear Matt & Alona flip the script on “feedback” — turning unmet needs into a loving gift that deepens trust instead of detonating connection. They walk through real moments at home, show you how to receive a “gift” with genuine excitement (yes, even when it stings), and model the exact words to repair without defensiveness. You’ll also hear Alona’s raw confession about a parenting moment that cut against her core values — and how her daughter’s “I have a gift” became the bridge back to closeness.

Challenging highlights you’ll want to hear:

• “The Gift” mindset: share unmet needs without blame so the other person actually feels invited to love you better — and you stay out of the shame/defense spiral. 
• Why apologies often backfire (too early = about you), and the step-by-step repair that lands: receive, reflect feelings/needs, express regret, then share your intentions last. 
• Gamifying receptivity so kids feel safe giving feedback (hello, $10 rule or special privileges) — because silence ≠ happiness. 

Moments that will challenge you (and are worth leaning into):

1. Alona’s “I let her out of the car” story — a 5-second decision that violated her deepest value of “I will not abandon you,” and the brave repair that followed. 😳❤️‍🩹 
2. Translating attacks into needs: hearing “You’re always late” as a plea for reliability, predictability, and mattering — then responding without excuses. 🧭 
3. Teaching teens to bring you the hard stuff: if you’re not getting “gifts,” they’re probably suppressing — and distance grows in that silence. 🧠➡️💬 

Have a Kinectin Account? Explore these Nudges to see how they apply to your own life — in a way only Amari can.

Nudge: “When my kid challenges me or uses a harsh tone, I react with defensiveness or control. I want to try ‘The Gift’ instead. Help me translate what I’m hearing into their feelings/needs and coach me to respond with empathy before I explain myself.”

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