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In this episode, Mike delves into the transformative power of emotional intelligence and self-mastery, key pillars for living authentically and leading effectively. He shares a coaching session with a new leader struggling to hold her team accountable, revealing how people-pleasing often masks a deeper emotional sensitivity tied to the solar plexus chakra. With his background in corporate leadership and personal development, Mike blends practical advice with mystical frameworks like the chakra system and human design to unpack why we avoid tough conversations. He argues that true mastery—over mind, emotions, and life—requires emotional courage, not just external skills, and challenges listeners to stop being “wagged” by feelings and step into sovereignty.

Key Takeaways

1. Self-Mastery is the Foundation of an Inspired Life
   • Controlling mind and emotions prevents a compromised, fear-driven life.
2. People-Pleasing Reflects Emotional Sensitivity, Not Weakness
   • Deep feelers avoid others’ emotions to protect themselves, not to please.
3. Emotional Intelligence Fuels Effective Leadership
   • Leadership hinges on emotional courage, not just external skills.
4. Emotions Are Energy in Motion—And Harmless When Mastered
   • Emotions are manageable energy; courage lets you feel without fear.
5. The Inner Game Outweighs External Skills
   • True growth comes from internal awareness, not just outward tactics.

Notable Quotes

“Self-mastery, it’s about understanding what’s happening in your mind and being able to be the master of your mind instead of mastered by your mind.”

“When you are on the receiving end and being wagged by your mind and emotions, it’s very easy to give up all your personal power, all your personal authority, all your sovereignty over yourself and over life.”

“It has nothing to do with their emotions or their feelings. It has everything to do with you can’t handle feeling their emotions.”

“Emotion stands for energy in motion. And when you don’t, when you are a deep feeler, when you have that empathy center that’s wide open… you’re ultimately gonna say things that allow you to feel what you can handle.”

“A lot of leadership training isn’t just building skills outside. It’s building healthier mindsets. It’s building healthier heartsets. It’s building healthier emotional intelligence.”

Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

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Mike Kitko is an executive self-mastery coach, speaker and author. He found external success through powerful titles, incomes, and material possessions. He ultimately fell into depression, toxic abuse of alcohol, and the near collapse of his family before he began a journey of internal happiness and success.