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In Part Three of our ongoing series, Mike and Angie dive into one of the most foundational — and misunderstood — forces shaping relationships: the nervous system. This episode explores why so many relationships become survival-based, how unconscious emotional “APPs” get installed in the body, and what it actually takes to move into a conscious, sovereign partnership. This conversation is not about fixing your partner or avoiding triggers — it’s about learning how to regulate your own internal world so connection no longer feels like a threat.

Key Takeaways

1. The nervous system is always trying to keep you alive, not happy.
   Much of relationship conflict comes from the body’s instinct to seek familiarity and avoid past pain, not from what’s actually happening in the present moment.
2. Most emotional reactions are markers of the past, not indicators of truth.
   Triggers reveal stored emotional energy from earlier experiences that are still running in the background.
3. Unconscious relationships outsource emotional regulation to the partner.
   When someone doesn’t know how to work with their own nervous system, they try to get the other person to change so they can feel safe.
4. Conscious relationships require nervous system regulation, not control.
   Learning how to process emotions internally removes the need to manipulate, demand, or fix the other person.
5. Triggers are invitations for growth, not signs of failure.
   When met with awareness and tools, emotional reactions become gateways to deeper freedom and sovereignty.

Noteable Quotes

• “When there’s two people like us that were unregulated in our nervous system, then we’re just fighting for survival.” 
• “All emotion is our markers of the past. They have nothing to do with the present moment.” 
• “You’re trying to rearrange the external world so that your nervous system can be okay.” 
• “Nobody can take that feeling away.” 
• “If your mind and your emotions go up and down with your bank account, you are money’s bitch.” 

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In this episode, Mike and Angie continue their ten-part series by moving deeper into the heart of their transformation — the shift from a survival-based relationship to a conscious one. After laying the foundation of their childhoods and early conditioning in Part One, this conversation explores how unconscious patterns, nervous system wiring, and unresolved inner conflicts shaped sixteen years of toxicity, volatility, and emotional harm.

They walk through the moment everything collapsed, the decision to rebuild rather than repeat, and the painful truths required to move from fear, control, and projection into responsibility, ownership, and growth. This episode draws a clear line between relationships driven by survival and those rooted in consciousness — and why nothing truly changes until each person takes full responsibility for what’s happening inside their own body and nervous system.

Key Takeaways

1. There Is Never Only One Toxic Person in a Toxic Relationship
   Survival-based dynamics are mutual, even when the pain expresses differently for each partner.
2. The Nervous System Prioritizes Familiarity Over Safety
   People repeat unhealthy relationships not because they want pain — but because their nervous system knows how to survive there.
3. Unspoken Expectations Create Hidden Resentments
   When internal conflicts are outsourced to a partner, the relationship becomes a battleground instead of a bond.
4. Triggers Reveal What Needs Healing
   External events don’t create emotional reactions — they expose what’s already stored beneath the surface.
5. Conscious Relationships Are Built on Ownership, Not Control
   Growth happens when each person cleans up their own triggers instead of demanding the other person change.

Notable Quotes

• “There’s never only one toxic person in a toxic relationship.”
• “The nervous system has one job and one job only — to keep you alive.”
• “Nothing on the outside of you can solve internal conflicts inside.”
• “When you expect the external world to solve internal conflicts, this is when you’re in survival mode.”
• “A conscious relationship is built on an unbreakable commitment to work on everything together without guilt, shame, anger, threats, and blame.”

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In this episode, Mike and Angie slow everything down and begin telling the story that lives underneath their work, their marriage, and their mission. Before the breakthroughs, before the rebuilding, before Inner Wealth, there was conditioning, trauma, and survival. This conversation sets the foundation for a ten-part series by going back to childhood, early relationship dynamics, and the patterns that quietly shaped sixteen years of volatility. This isn’t about resolution yet. It’s about truth, context, and understanding what had to break before anything could be rebuilt.

Key Takeaways

1. The Relationship Was Built on Unconscious Survival
Both Mike and Angie entered the relationship carrying unexamined trauma that shaped how they loved, fought, and stayed.

2. Childhood Conditioning Never Stays in the Past
What isn’t healed early gets reenacted later, especially inside intimate partnerships.

3. Toxic Patterns Can Look Like Love
Control, volatility, fixing, and emotional intensity often masquerade as connection when safety is missing.

4. The Collapse Was Inevitable — and Necessary
The unraveling wasn’t failure. It was the interruption that made healing possible.

5. Awareness Is the First Real Shift
Nothing changed until responsibility replaced blame and curiosity replaced defense.

Notable Quotes

• “We officially begin today, but that we introduced last week, talking about our life together, our collapse, our rebirth, the cleanup, the mess.”
• “That toxicity kept building over the course of sixteen years.”
• “We just carry that forward. It’s all conditioning and programming.”
• “It felt like my entire life was being ripped away from me. I just wanted to die.”
• “It’s not Mike against Angie anymore. It’s Mike and Angie against the problem.”

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In this episode, Mike and Angie come in hot with the hard launch of Angie Kitko. After a year that stripped everything down to the studs — financially, emotionally, spiritually — they’re stepping into 2026 with clarity, courage, and co-leadership. This conversation marks the first in a ten-part series documenting their collapse, rebirth, and return to power. If you’ve ever lost everything and wondered what’s next, this series is your mirror.

Key Takeaways

1. 2025 Was a Spiritual Battleground
   It was a year of contraction, endings, and ego death — personally and collectively.
2. 2026 Is the Year of the Fire Horse
   It’s a 1-year in numerology — a fresh start, a new beginning, and the perfect energy to rise.
3. Angie’s Voice Is No Longer Optional
   What used to be whispers behind the scenes is now full-on leadership. The lid’s off.
4. Depth Over Reach Is the New Metric
   They’re not here to scale — they’re here to transform, one soul at a time.
5. This Podcast Series Is a Rebirth
   This is part 1 of a 10-part journey through collapse, repair, awakening, and emergence.

Notable Quotes

• “2025 was a battleground… she curb-stomped a bunch of bitches.”
• “We’re teaching on a much smaller scale — but we’re teaching more deeply and more powerfully.”
• “You’re the only person I’ve ever felt the kind of love from that I feel from animals.”
• “If money controls your nervous system, you're money’s bitch.”
• “This is the hard launch of Angie Kitko.”

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In this episode, Mike and Angie record their first official Christmas Day episode — not to perform holiday cheer, but to honor what’s actually real. They reflect on their years of tradition, deconstruction, growth, and how this Christmas season looks and feels unlike any before. This isn’t a checklist Christmas… it’s a raw and honest reflection on how to stop forcing the feeling, and let peace come naturally.

Key Takeaways

1. This Year, There’s No Forcing the Feeling
   Instead of trying to manufacture holiday spirit, Mike and Angie chose to honor the stillness that showed up.
2. Tradition Isn’t the Problem — Forced Obligation Is
   Releasing what’s not inspired allows space for what is.
3. Gift Guilt, Present Anxiety, and the Pressure to Perform
   This episode explores the subtle stress so many people carry during the holidays — and how to release it.
4. Love Languages, Childhood Trauma, and Holiday Expectations
   Why we often create pressure for others without knowing it — and how to break the cycle.
5. Let the Season Be What It Is
   Whether you're jolly or neutral, festive or flat — there's nothing wrong with how you feel.

Notable Quotes

• “Tradition is simply peer pressure from dead people.”
• “Are you inspired to do something, or are you doing it out of obligation?”
• “I always tried to force myself to feel Christmassy… and this year, there was no force.”
• “This Christmas season has all been about allowing the season to be what it is and allowing us to be what we are within the season.”
• “There’s nothing wrong with tradition. We’re not knocking it — we’re just saying it should come from inspiration, not expectation.”

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In this episode, Mike reflects on the final stretch of 2025 — a year marked by intensity, and now, exhaustion. After running hot from August through early November, the season shifted, and life asked him to slow down, recover, and honor the deeper rhythms at play. This episode is an invitation to listen to your body, feel the energetic cycles, and stop trying to turn winter into summer.

Key Takeaways

1. You Are Always in a Season — Whether You Realize It or Not
   When you learn to live in tune with the energy around you, resistance disappears.
2. Most of Us Try to Force Summer in the Middle of Winter
   The grind mindset disconnects you from your body, your truth, and your spiritual rhythm.
3. Each Season Has a Role: Spring Plants, Summer Grows, Fall Harvests, Winter Rests
   Your business, body, and soul follow the same cycles — when you let them.
4. Burnout Happens When You Ignore the Season You’re In
   Pain and sickness are often messages from the body that you're out of sync.
5. Goal Setting Isn’t One-Size-Fits-All
   If goals light you up, great. If they drain you, there's another way to move forward.

Notable Quotes

• “The only decision that I had to make was do I honor the natural cycles and seasons of life and allow kind of winter to set in? Or do I try to fight it and turn winter back into summer?”
• “Nature has cycles and nature has seasons.”
• “Most people try to fight life. They try to force life. They try to wrestle life to the ground. They try to dominate life.”
• “Whatever feels aligned for you, do it. Whatever feels unaligned for you, let it go and release it.”
• “Once you find that, you can let go of all the grind and the hustle and align with your soul's natural instincts and intuition.”

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In this episode, Mike shares a soul-rattling insight that dropped in during a moment of sacred silence with his dogs and cat: “We are awareness wearing an animal.” He breaks open the truth of spiritual identity, conditioning, and why most people are still being run by their nervous system instead of their higher self. If you’re done letting fear, survival, and programming lead your life — this episode is the next step into your spiritual evolution.

Key Takeaways

1. You Are Not the Animal — You’re the Awareness Inside It
   Your body isn’t your identity. It’s the vehicle for your soul. And it’s time you take back the driver’s seat.
2. Your Nervous System Has Been Conditioned by Pain
   Most people are letting old survival-based programming decide their future.
3. You Were Born for More Than Fear and Avoidance
   The discomfort is your path forward — not a reason to stop.
4. Your Soul Has a Purpose — But You Can’t Reach It Identified as the Animal
   The more you release the conditioning, the louder your soul becomes.
5. You’re Wearing a Unique Animal, Designed for a Unique Destiny
   Your design is not random. It was chosen for the purpose your soul came here to fulfill.

Notable Quotes

• “We are awareness wearing an animal.”
• “When the animal has control over you — the discomfort is your path forward.”
• “When you start the process of identifying as the awareness and begin to release the pain, the suffering, the anxiety, the survival, the conditioning, the programming — when you let go of this, the volume of your ego will begin to turn down and the volume of your soul will turn up.”
• “That animal that you're wearing is wrapped around a perfect — and I mean perfect — awareness.”
• “There's 8.22 billion people on the planet. You are one of one.”

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In this episode, Mike breaks down the evolution of the Inner Wealth Mastermind — from its early days rooted in surface-level goal-setting to its current form as a deep, somatic, and spiritual transformation container. He reveals the truth behind the shift, what’s no longer tolerated, and the warriors he’s calling in. This is an unfiltered transmission about the real work, who it’s for, and why it’s more important now than ever.

Key Takeaways

1. The Superficial Game Is Over
   This is no longer a space for hustle, grind, or performance. It’s for those ready to face their internal world.
2. The Creation Process Still Works — But It’s Not Enough Alone
   Without clearing the pain stored in your body, mindset work alone won’t free you.
3. This Is a Somatic, Spiritual, Energetic Path
   Deep nervous system healing, shadow work, and soul alignment are the foundation now.
4. Three Outcomes Drive Everything in Inner Wealth
   Lessen fear and anxiety, deepen soul alignment, and expand your life from the inside out.
5. This Is for the Few, Not the Masses
   The work is real. Most aren’t willing. But for the few who are — freedom lives here.

Notable Quotes

• “The creation process has been proven. And it's worked in my life. It doesn't always work as quickly as you want.”
  
  
• “Shadow work is to me, in my opinion, the most powerful and impactful because it gets to the root of it immediately.”
  
  
• “Most people in this world are playing a very superficial game, playing a very material game.”
  
  
• “If you're not in tune with your soul’s destiny — not your ego's destiny — you're probably going to live a life perfect for somebody else.”
  
  
• “Not many in this world are ready to go deep, and I hope you are — because that's where freedom and inner wealth really live.”
  
  

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In this episode, Mike and Angie record from a cramped, steep, narrow spiral staircase inside a 1920s Baltimore row house. It's weird, it's cozy, and it's perfect for this annual Thanksgiving episode. Together, they reflect on the beauty of imperfection, the power of gratitude, and the truth that sometimes the life you're living — even with its messiness — is the one someone else is praying for.

Key Takeaways

1. Gratitude Doesn’t Need to Be Pretty
   It just needs to be felt. Even in awkward spaces, there’s always something to be thankful for.
2. Your Actual Wealth Isn’t Financial
   Your family, friendships, pets, and peace are your inner wealth — and they matter more than your numbers.
3. Dissatisfaction Kills Joy
   The more you focus on what’s missing, the more you block the joy already present.
4. You’re Probably Living Someone Else’s Dream
   Your ordinary might be someone else’s miracle — honor it.
5. Gratitude Is a Frequency You Can Return To
   You don’t have to hustle for more from lack. You can open to more from fullness.

Notable Quotes

• “This is the weirdest podcast episode we've done.”
• “The idea of the day is more focused on appreciating what you have instead of focusing on what you don't have.”
• “We are highly blessed in ways that aren't financial.”
• “Someone out there is praying for the things that we're complaining about.”
• “The more dissatisfied I am with anything, the less joy I have in my life.”

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In this episode, Mike and Angie drop in from Cancun after the most powerful Choose Your Destiny Live Intensive they’ve ever led. They share the raw truth of what happened, how it didn’t go as expected, and what it means to surrender even when the outcome doesn’t match the energy. This is a behind-the-scenes look at trust, spiritual evolution, and the deep medicine of leadership in uncertain seasons.

Key Takeaways

1. Even the Most Aligned Outcomes Aren’t Always Predictable
   You can serve powerfully, have deep impact — and still experience a different result than expected.
2. Post-Event Stillness Is Non-Negotiable
   After you give fully, your body and nervous system require space to empty and recharge.
3. Surrender Is the Season
   This moment is about trust — not control, force, or hustle. The how and when are not your job.
4. Messiness Over Mastery
   Teaching from uncertainty creates deeper leadership than pretending to have it all together.
5. The Work Is Real and Always Evolving
   No matter how successful, leaders are always growing, learning, releasing, and listening.

Notable Quotes

• “Shadow work will help you do that. You put yourself into the experience that you're trying to avoid. You visualize the experience. You feel the experience. And then as you feel and amplify, you begin to breathe and release all the emotion that you've just dredged up.”
• “Life is not difficult. It's lack of trust in life that makes life so difficult.”
• “If a coach ever teaches from a place like they have it all figured out, run — run as hard and as fast as you can away from them.”
• “When you share your messiness, you gain people in your life who accept that we’re all messy together.”
• “The ego wants to control. The ego wants to make shit happen. The ego wants to be responsible for things happening.”

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