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In this episode, Mike and Angie explore what it really means to “go to your neutral corners” during conflict. Rather than trying to resolve emotional tension in the heat of the moment, they explain why true resolution begins with individual self-regulation. Conflict isn’t solved in the center of the ring — it’s resolved in the corners, where each person takes responsibility for their own nervous system.

They unpack how projection, financial fear, old wounds, and emotional triggers play out inside relationships — and why nothing outside of you can fix what’s stored inside your body. This conversation draws a powerful line between unconscious survival-based reactions and conscious self-mastery, revealing how emotional regulation — not control — creates an unbreakable bond.

Key Takeaways

1. Conflict Is Resolved in the Corners, Not the Center of the Ring
Emotional regulation happens individually before resolution can happen together.

2. Your Partner Cannot Clean Up What Lives in Your Nervous System
Triggers reveal stored emotional energy — they are not created by the other person.

3. Financial Fear, Scarcity, and Emotional Volatility Are Nervous System Patterns
External changes do not resolve internal dysregulation.

4. You Attract Partners Who Expose What Needs Healing
Soul-level relationships trigger growth — not comfort.

5. As One Person Evolves, the Relationship Must Evolve Too
If consciousness levels diverge, the gap either closes through growth or widens toward separation.

Notable Quotes

• “Everybody thinks that conflict is going to be resolved in the center of the ring. But in reality, conflict is resolved in the corners.”
• “There is not a damn thing that I can do in that moment to release your anxiety, the anger, the fear, whatever’s in there.”
• “The knife didn’t create the juice. The juice was already there. The knife just revealed the juice.”
• “The only job of the nervous system is to keep you alive.”
• “It’s not always about comfort. It’s about growth and growing together.”

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Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

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