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In this episode, Mike shares a raw and personal reflection on how the belief that we have to earn or deserve love, success, and connection can quietly sabotage what we want most. When business slowed down and pressure mounted, Mike found himself pulling away — not just from his mission, but from the woman who’s stood by him the entire time.

Through the lens of a powerful conversation with his wife, he unpacks the shame, the old conditioning, and the realization that he was withholding affection and intimacy because deep down, he didn’t feel worthy.

This episode invites you to look at where you’re still proving, performing, or waiting to feel “enough” — and offers a path back to wholeness, power, and presence.

If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re worthy of the life you want… listen in.

Key Takeaways

1. You Already Deserve What You’re Waiting For
   Love and abundance aren’t earned — they’re received when we decide we’re ready.
2. Vulnerability Builds Trust and Resonance
   Your people don’t want your polish. They want your presence.
3. Comparison Creates Illusions
   You’re not behind. You’re just comparing your back office to someone else’s front stage.
4. We Teach What We Need to Heal
   Even teachers carry blind spots. That’s why we all need mirrors.
5. Letting Go Creates New Power
   The minute you stop needing to prove yourself, you unlock a new level of freedom and connection.

Notable Quotes

• “I started making a living by telling the truth about my pain.”
• “I was coaching people not to earn their worth… while secretly still believing I had to.”
• “She didn’t want me to change. She just wanted to feel me again.”
• “Coaching is just reading the instructions written outside the box.”
• “When you believe you have to earn love… you forget it’s been yours the whole time.”

Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

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Mike Kitko is an executive self-mastery coach, speaker and author. He found external success through powerful titles, incomes, and material possessions. He ultimately fell into depression, toxic abuse of alcohol, and the near collapse of his family before he began a journey of internal happiness and success.