The Best of You

Episode 152: The Anxiety Beneath Perfectionism—Why Trying Harder Won't Set You Free


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Do you feel constantly driven to get everything right—to be the perfect partner, parent, worker, or friend? On this week's solo episode, Dr. Alison explores the hidden relationship between perfectionism and anxiety, revealing how trying to be perfect is often a disguised way of managing deeper fears.

You'll discover:

* Why perfectionism is rarely about actually being perfect.

* The main ways anxiety cleverly disguises itself.

* The surprising question you need to ask yourself when you can’t stop perfecting.

* Practical steps to break free from perfectionistic behaviors.

Today's episode will give you proven strategies to finally break free from perfectionism.


Have a question for Dr. Alison? Leave it here.

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love:

  • Episode 29: Perfectionism and Proving Your Worth: How to Stop Chasing Approval and Start Living the Life You Actually Want
  • Episode 112: Navigating Anxiety—Practical, Compassionate Insights to Recognize and Manage Anxiety

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