Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox

Episode 224: Finding Happiness in Others' Joy


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Imagine feeling a burst of joy every time someone else wins. A friend gets a promotion, your sister finds love, a stranger shares good news, and you feel happiness with them. That spark of delight is the heart of sympathetic joy, or mudita, a Buddhist practice that flips the script on comparison and jeaousy. It turns the happiness of others into a source of our own happiness. It's not magic, but it feels like it.

When sympathetic joy is practiced with the bodhicitta intention to become a Buddha for the benefit of all beings, it becomes "Immeasurable Joy." Immeasurable Joy is a trained capacity, a state of mind you can cultivate until it becomes natural and limitless.

When we learn to genuinely rejoice in others' good fortune, our own heart becomes lighter. Life feels less like a competition and more like a shared celebration.

Science-backed Benefits of Sympathetic Joy:

  • Greater life satisfaction and happiness

  • Better relationships

  • More willingness to help others

  • Better health outcomes and lower stress (Smith, 2022)

Ways to practice sympathetic joy:

  1. Use meditation:

  • Start with a loved one: Begin by focusing on someone you care about and genuinely rejoicing in their happiness.

  • Expand the feeling: Gradually extend this feeling to others you are neutral toward, and then to those you find difficult.

  1. Change your mindset: Instead of feeling that happiness is scarce, recognize the interconnectedness of all beings and cultivate an appreciation for what you have.

  2. Practice gratitude: Cultivating a sense of gratitude for your own life can help you rejoice in the good fortune of others without feeling like there is less for you.

Sympathetic joy is one of the Four Immeasurables in Mahayana Buddhism:

  • Immeasurable Love

  • Immeasurable Compassion

  • Immeasurable Joy

  • Immeasurable Equanimity

"One day, a Brahmin man asked the Buddha, 'What can I do to be sure that I will be with Brahma after I die?'

The Buddha replied,'As Brahma is the source of Love, to dwell with him you must practice the Brahma-viharas [Four Immeasurables]—love, compassion, joy, and equanimity. (Hahn, 1997)"

References with links:

Smith, Jeremy Adam (March, 2022). What Is Sympathetic Joy and How Can You Feel More of It? Greater Good: The Science of a Meaningful Life. Retrieved from: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_is_sympathetic_joy_and_how_can_you_feel_more_of_it

Hahn, Thich Naht (1997). Dharma Talk: The Four Immeasurable Minds. Parallax Press. Retrieved from: https://www.parallax.org/mindfulnessbell/article/dharma-talk-the-four-immeasurable-minds-2/

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