In this episode, Jackie continues to work through the book The Tao of Fully Feeling.  The author has reminded us throughout the book of our society's need to rush forgiveness as a bypass for feeling and operating in reality.  In this episode, we look at extenuating circumstances that our parents may have been dealing with.  We aren't exploring these circumstances as a way of "letting them off the hook" because that would mean the shame resides with us.  It is a way of taking a step back from what we experienced and getting a larger view of what life was like for our parents.  This can actually help reduce shame as it begins to dawn on us that this was never about us.  It wasn't about us being too much, or not enough or us just being a child.