“There is one skill that lies at the heart of any healthy person, family, school, community organization, or society: the ability to see someone else deeply and make them feel seen—to accurately know another person, to let them feel valued, heard, and understood.”

In working with clients, they often wonder why they:

- Didn't get promoted - Don't have friends at work - Have bad relationships at work and at home - Don't feel understood or heard by others

In today's podcast, Dr. Bray discusses how to engage with others, which we, as humans, don’t do well. All around us are people who feel invisible, unseen, and misunderstood. Dr. Bray recently read How to Know a Person, by David Brooks and wanted to share insights, tools, and knowledge to help us do better at connecting with others.

The act of seeing and understanding another person, Brooks argues, is profoundly creative: How can we look somebody in the eye and see something large in them and, in turn, see something larger in ourselves?

Dr. Bray highly recommends this as a 2024 read: How to Know a Person by David Brooks. 

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “Attention is an all-or-nothing thing.” “Everyone in a conversation is facing a conflict of self-expression and inhibition.”