Have you ever stopped and looked at your life and thought, Why do I feel poorer than I am?
I know I have. On paper, things are going well. I've written books, worked with big companies, and my little company continues to grow. I’ve built a career that I’m proud of, and I work hard to live within my means, especially with six kids who are always wanting lessons in everything! From the outside, it looks like it is all going really well.. But when I pause to reflect, there’s still this feeling of being... poorer than I’d like to be.
And no, I’m not talking about the literal kind of poverty, the kind that keeps people awake at night, wondering how they’re going to make ends meet. I’m not talking about the kind of struggle that comes with scarcity. What I’m talking about is something deeper. A kind of poverty that can’t be solved with money, no matter how much you have in the bank.
Ryan Holiday recently wrote about this in an article titled “These Are All the Ways I Feel Poorer Than I Am.” In it, he talks about a conversation he had with Sahil Bloom about the different kinds of wealth, wealth that doesn’t show up on your paycheck. Time wealth, emotional wealth, social wealth, mental wealth, and physical wealth. These are the kinds of wealth we often overlook, even though they shape our happiness far more than any amount of money ever will.
Today, I want to dive into this idea. I want to explore how, even though my life is going well, I still deal with anxiety and stress, worrying about things that haven’t happened, missing out on present moments because my mind is too busy. I want to talk about how I’ve neglected my social wealth and how I don’t have enough close friends anymore because I’m too wrapped up in work and family.
But here’s the thing: The more I think about it, the more I realize that true wealth isn’t about the size of your bank account, it’s about the balance in your life. It's about the freedom to live on your terms, the relationships you build, and the moments you enjoy, fully present.
So, if you’ve ever felt like you have everything, but still feel like something’s missing, this episode is for you. We’ll explore how to stop chasing the wrong kinds of wealth and start focusing on the ones that really matter. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll discover that you’ve had everything you need all along.
**From Ryan Holiday's website: "These Are All The Ways I Feel Poorer Than I Am." (It is a great read!)
QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
"Worry and stress are a real cost—they have stolen hours of sleep, moments of joy, and precious time with family."
"We spend so much time worrying about imaginary problems that we create real ones."
"True wealth is measured not by the balance of your bank account, but by the balance in your life."