What if the biggest thing holding you back isn’t your circumstances, but the story you’ve been telling yourself about them? We all experience setbacks—failure, rejection, trauma, or just plain bad luck. But instead of seeing these moments as chapters in a bigger story, we often let them define us. We replay the past, reinforce limiting beliefs, and convince ourselves that nothing will ever change. The problem isn’t just what happened—it’s the meaning we attach to it. And sometimes, that meaning is completely wrong.

In this episode, Dr. Bray dives into the science of learned helplessness, brain predictions, and the power of rewriting our stories. From Martin Seligman’s research on why we stop trying to Viktor Frankl’s powerful insights from the Holocaust, Dr. Bray will explore how adversity shapes our minds—and how we can reshape them. Most importantly, we’ll uncover practical tools to shift from victimhood to resilience, from feeling trapped to taking control. Because while we can’t change the past, we can change the meaning we give it. And that changes everything. Tune in and learn how to break free from the mental loops keeping you stuck.

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY "While your past will never change, you can." “‘WHY’ questions trap us in our past. ‘What’ questions can help us create a better future."