On this #SurvivorStories series episode, our guest is "Ashley" a survivor of intimate partner violence and coercive control and a protective mom. Ashley is here to speak with us today about the dangers of technology in domestic violence. In particular, Ashley believes that her husband, from whom she is currently separated, had been cyberstalking her through her computer, We address the impact the surveillance has had on her and review her Order of Protection court proceedings to examine the ways courts view abuse and cyberstalking, uncover myths, and explore ways that our systems and players need to be updated and trained to provide appropriate responses to keep survivors and children safe. Throughout our conversation, Ashley uses pseudonyms for both herself and the other members of her family. We also reference #signsofabuse, #abusertactics, and #upstandertips. To prepare for this interview, we read and reviewed thoroughly Ashley's transcripts from her family court Protection Order hearings.

During our conversation, Ashley and I referenced the following:

• Our interview with Rachel Louise Snyder on her book, No Visible Bruises, and the discussion on how leaving is a process
• How Apple and Google Lets Domestic Abusers Stalk Victims
• The inadequate use of the violence model as a basis for the definition of abuse and how coercive control is more appropriate

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