Financial Feminist

If paying off debt is starting to feel like it's swallowing your whole life–– this episode is for you. Today I’m getting honest with you about something the personal finance world doesn't say enough: debt payoff isn't just a numbers problem, it's an emotional one. The mental load of tracking balances, watching interest undo your progress, and feeling like you have to earn joy before you've hit zero is exhausting, and it's not what sustainable financial freedom looks like. In this episode, I'm giving you the pep talk you actually need, breaking down why hyper-vigilance around debt isn't discipline, what to do when debt payoff has consumed your entire personality, and four practical ways to protect your energy so you can keep going without burning out.

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00:00 Intro

00:23 The Pep Talk You Need

01:16 Debt as Cognitive Labor

01:50 Why Debt Payoff Feels So Hard

02:28 Shame & Moral Failure Around Debt

03:02 The Invisible, Unpaid Work of Debt

03:52 Hyper-Vigilance Is Not Discipline

04:15 When Debt Becomes Your Whole Identity

05:22 You Don't Have to Suffer to Be Responsible

08:02 4 Ways to Protect Your Energy

08:09 #1 – Automate Everything

09:00 #2 – Stop Checking Your Accounts Daily

10:52 #3 – Give Yourself Permission to Have a Personality

11:24 #4 – Slow Progress Beats Burnout

11:33 Closing Thoughts

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If there's one episode I need every woman in your life to hear, it's this one — because what Erin and I unpack together has the power to completely transform the way you show up for yourself and the women around you. Erin Gallagher is the CEO and founder of Hype Women, an inclusive network unlocking women's access to human, social, and financial capital, and the author of the book Hype Women. In this episode, we get into the real reason women are conditioned to put everyone else first, how to tell the difference between anxiety and intuition, and why you cannot build real wealth, real friendships, or a real life until you stop abandoning yourself. We walk through the three stages of metamorphosis, and break down the spectrum from mean girl to hype woman so you can finally audit the women in your life (and the woman inside your head). This episode is the pep talk you didn't know you needed.

Erin’s links:

Website: www.hypewomen.com 

Visit ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ to see the show notes and read the transcript of this episode!

00:00 Intro

01:08 The Phrase That Changed Everything

02:55 Why Women Abandon Themselves

06:40 The Constant Threat Assessment

09:45 Remembering Who You Are

13:30 The Difference Between Intuition and Anxiety

17:40 Is It Still Working?

21:00 The Three Stages: Caterpillar, Cocoon, Monarch

25:10 Looking Around at 40

29:30 Renegotiating Your Life

33:15 The Mean Girl Inside of Us

37:00 You Can't Hype Others Until You Hype Yourself

41:45 Recognizing Your Conditioning

46:00 The Five Types on the Spectrum

51:00 Learning to Hype Yourself

56:00 Building Your A-Team

60:00 The Power of Women's Communities

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If you’ve been doing everything "right" financially and still feel like you’re failing, this episode is for you. In this third installment of the millionaire mindset series, I'm talking about one of the most transformative (and underrated) wealth skills there is: parenting yourself. I'm breaking down why self-discipline without self-care is just self-abandonment, how your unmet basic needs are quietly costing you money and momentum, and the practical, tactical ways you can start treating yourself like someone worth taking care of––starting right now. Because you can't out-hustle a dysregulated nervous system, and the most successful people I know aren't bullying themselves into success. They're parenting themselves into it.

Mentioned in this episode:

millionaire mindset: taking risks - https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/millionaire-mindset-taking-risks/ 

millionaire mindset: time wealth - https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/millionaire-mindset-time-wealth/ 

Amanda Goetz episode - https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/earn-more-money-without-hustle/ 

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00:00 Intro

00:23 What Millionaire Mindset series is about

02:08 Taking care of yourself like a child

03:35 Seeing future you as someone to take care of

06:16 Becoming someone you can rely on

07:37 Self-discipline without self-care is self abandonment

13:09 Create a bedtime routine

16:16 Building transitions into your day

17:58 Talking to yourself

19:21 Creating safety within your own brain and body

21:21 When feeling emotionally overwhelmed

23:19 Self-talk scripts to try

25:41 Finding joy and play again

28:42 Free daily reset sheet

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If you want to land a job you actually love and make more money in 2026, this episode is one you’ll come back to again and again. I’m joined by Claire Wasserman––bestselling author, founder of Ladies Get Paid, and one of the smartest people I know when it comes to navigating the job market, negotiating pay, and owning your worth at work. We break down how to position yourself for higher compensation, why everything is a negotiation, and how to stop sabotaging your own success with guilt, fear, or hustle culture. From negotiating raises and reframing your value to job searching smarter, building relationships, and redefining success on your own terms, this conversation will change how you think about your career.

Claire’s links:

Website: https://www.coachmeclaire.com/ 
Ladies Get Paid: https://ladiesgetpaid.com/

Visit ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ to see the show notes and read the transcript of this episode!

0:00 Intro

01:15 Knowing Your Worth Changes Everything

03:30 Being Underpaid and Taking Action

06:40 Why This Work Matters for Women

09:45 Negotiating with Yourself First

13:30 Getting Data to Confirm You're Underpaid

17:40 The LLC of Me Framework

21:00 Translating Your Value to Dollars

25:10 Mistakes Women Make in Negotiations

29:30 Beyond Your Job Description

33:15 Building Relationships at Work

37:00 Navigating a Tough Job Market

41:45 Fractional Work as an Alternative

46:00 Managing the Job Search While Working

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If you’re thinking about quitting your job in 2026 and finally starting your own business, this episode is your practical roadmap. I’m joined by lawyer-turned-entrepreneur Sam Vander Wielen, who left corporate law with multi-six-figure student loans, built a multi-seven-figure digital products company, and learned firsthand what entrepreneurship can and cannot do for your happiness. We’re talking about how to financially plan your exit from a 9-to-5, what legal steps you need (LLC, contracts, trademarks), and how to stop tying your worth to income, vanity metrics, or job titles. If you want a sustainable, smart plan for quitting your job and building a profitable business in 2026, this conversation will show you how to do it without burning your life down in the process.

Sam’s links:

Get Sam’s book: https://www.samvanderwielen.com/book/ Listen to Sam’s podcast: https://www.samvanderwielen.com/podcast 

Sign up for Sam’s newsletter: https://www.samvanderwielen.com/easy-emails 

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0:00 Intro

01:15 The Happiness Myth

04:30 Why We Tie Happiness to Milestones

07:30 What a Business Can (and Can’t) Give You

11:00 Money as a Tool for Safety and Choice

15:00 Sam’s Corporate Law Wake-Up Call

20:00 The Stability Myth of Corporate Jobs

25:30 Planning a Real Exit From Your 9–5

30:30  Legal Basics for Starting a Business

36:00 Why Entrepreneurship Doesn’t Fix Your Life

41:30 Redefining Success Before You Leap

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Millionaires don’t just buy things––they buy time. And if you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly busy but somehow never getting closer to the life you actually want, this episode is for you. In our second installment of the millionaire mindset series, I’m breaking down what I call time wealth. The idea that real wealth isn’t just about how much money you make, but how much of your life you get to keep. I’m sharing exactly how millionaires think about time, the sneaky ways you’re leaking it without realizing, and the small but powerful shifts you can start making right now to buy back your evenings, your energy, and your future—even if you’re not rich yet.

Catch up on episode 1 of millionaire mindset: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/millionaire-mindset-taking-risks/

To get more resources including any freebies mentioned in this episode, head to ⁠⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠⁠

00:00 Intro

00:44 What the millionaire mindset series is about

01:22 Time wealth: buying back your time

02:11 Time is your greatest asset, not money

05:15 Time leaks: where you're wasting time

05:36 Decision fatigue - spending too much time deciding

10:00 Doing $10 tasks with $100 goals

12:43 Reactive living - letting others' urgency dictate your day

14:26 Unpaid emotional labor

15:50 How millionaires audit their time ruthlessly

19:58 Delegating before you're ready

25:23 Habit stacking to maximize your time

30:17 Saying no early and often

33:25 Time wealth is self-respect

35:14 This week's wealth move

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If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the “right” money things on paper but still feel anxious, stuck, or behind, this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, I’m joined once again by Mimi Bouchard––trailblazing entrepreneur, motivational speaker, and author––to break down how to shift your money mindset in 2026 by changing your identity, your beliefs, and the way you relate to yourself long before the numbers change. We talk about the psychology of money, why not all of your thoughts are true, how to stop bracing for financial disaster, and how small, daily mindset shifts can completely transform your financial behavior. Tune in to learn how to rewire your brain to see opportunity, rebuild trust, and start showing up like your future wealthy self so you can create lasting financial security and freedom this year.

00:00 Intro 

01:40 How your brain filters opportunity

03:50 Why mindset matters more than being good at math

06:10 How beliefs drive behavior before numbers ever do

08:30 Not all of your thoughts are true

11:50 The "why not me?" mindset shift

17:30 Women and the fear of wanting more

20:50 Identifying limiting beliefs in everyday moments

28:20 Bracing for impact - the low-grade money anxiety trap

35:10 The bounce back rate vs. perfectionism

42:50 Building trust with yourself around money

47:30 Adding positive habits instead of restricting

50:30 Getting comfortable with having more money

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If you’re making good money and still feel broke, stressed, or behind, something is off and it’s not you. Today, I’m joined by my friend Vivian Tu, former Wall Street trader, CEO and founder of Your Rich BFF, and New York Times bestselling author of Well Endowed, to talk about what it really takes to get rich and stay rich. We’re calling out why paying your bills and saving is not the finish line, how optimization culture keeps high earners trapped in a constant game of “never enough,” and how to start using your money as a tool to buy time, freedom, and real security instead of status symbols. This episode is about ditching performative wealth, building systems that quietly grow your money, and finally feeling powerful, calm, and in control of your financial life.

Vivian’s links:

Website: https://www.yourrichbff.com/

Grab your copy of Well Endowed: http://richbffbook.com/ 

Visit ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ to stay up to date and find any resources mentioned on our show!

00:00 Intro 

00:51 Money traumas from childhood & the Chinese buffet story

03:17 How money narratives dictate everyday decisions

06:16 Knowing the price of everything but the value of nothing

08:14 Money as a tool to buy your best life

10:47 What comes after financial basics (Finance 2.0)

13:01 Building infrastructure vs. working harder

15:38 Strategic spending: "Do I want this or do I want people to know I have it?"

18:33 The sleep investment story

24:48 Why HENRYs (High Earners Not Rich Yet) feel stressed

28:21 The B-plus life trap & lifestyle inflation

31:24 Wasted opportunity, potential, and time

33:20 Kids will make you poorer - childcare costs

36:10 The prenup with built-in raises for childcare

37:34 Unpaid labor & the "good mom" trap

38:53 Cooking as unpaid labor vs. celebrity chef art

40:06 Speaking kindly to yourself about money

42:31 Making peace with your own financial timeline

45:07 The all-or-nothing mindset is killing progress

49:56 15 minutes is better than no minutes

50:17 Book takeaway: Chase security, stability & freedom

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If you’re over 35 and constantly feeling like you’re behind financially, you’re not alone. In today’s episode, I’m joined by Jean Chatzky––longtime financial journalist, bestselling author, and founder of HerMoney––whose work has shaped generations of women’s financial literacy, including my own. Jean opens up about starting over at 40 after divorce, job loss, and losing a parent. She shares exactly what she learned about saving, investing, and rebuilding confidence when time feels limited. We talk about why so many women feel behind no matter their age, the biggest money mistakes women 35+ make, how to course-correct without panic, and how to use tools like retirement accounts, HSAs, and investing strategies to build a future that still works, even if you didn’t start early.

Jean’s links:

Investing Club: https://join.investingfixx.com/ 

Website: https://hermoney.com/ 

HerMoney Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hermoney-with-jean-chatzky/id1098802558

How She Does It Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-she-does-it/id1691787429 

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00:00 Intro: Never too late to save

00:42 What "owning your money" means

02:00 Jean's story: Starting over at 40

03:49 What to prepare for & do differently

06:36 Biggest mistake: Too much cash, not enough invested

10:56 Why Gen X women feel behind

16:32 Financial boundaries with aging parents & adult children

21:06 HSAs as investing vehicles

27:15 Why "feeling behind" is universal

34:20 Quick-fire Q&A

42:29 Advice for women feeling paralyzed

45:51 Where to find Jean

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If money conversations keep turning into fights, it’s not because you’re bad with money, it’s because you were never taught how to talk about it together. In today’s episode I’m joined by Andy Hill, award-winning family finance coach, host of Marriage, Kids & Money, and author of Own Your Time, to talk about why money fights are rarely about money, how invisible labor and emotional labor quietly erode relationships, and what it actually takes to build a life that feels aligned instead of exhausting. We unpack how to stop repeating the same financial arguments, how to communicate more equitably with your partner, and how to redefine success so time (not just money) becomes your most valuable currency. Whether you’re partnered, parenting, or just rethinking what “having it all” really means, this conversation will help you build a life you don’t need to escape from. 

Andy’s links:

Website: https://marriagekidsandmoney.com 

Book: https://marriagekidsandmoney.com/book/ 

Visit ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ to stay up to date and find any resources mentioned on our show!

00:00 Intro

00:47 Why You Need to Dream About Your Time

01:49 The Mailbox Exercise: What Would You Stop Doing?

03:09 The FaceTime Birthday That Changed Everything

05:15 Karaoke Duets & Life Priorities

06:03 Debunking "Keep Your Head Down Until 65"

08:53 When Money Becomes Your Currency vs. Time

11:45 The Identity Crisis of Leaving Corporate

14:27 How to Know When a Role Isn't Working

16:30 Emotional Labor & Equity in Marriage

20:30 The Volcano Fight: When Money Arguments Aren't About Money

33:10 Financial Abuse & Protecting Yourself as a Stay-at-Home Parent

38:27 Prenups, Postnups & Why You Need One

41:27 The Expense That Saved Thousands Without Changing Happiness

43:38 Why Traditional FIRE Didn't Work for Our Family

48:36 The Power of Pivoting & Financial Confidence

50:26 First Steps Toward Time Freedom

55:03 Small Steps to Reclaim Your Life

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