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"Forgiving the person that almost killed me, was the greatest thing in my life" by Aren Deu #100

This is my story, a story I promised you all I would deliver for the 100th show. It is about forgiveness and it will connect many dots when go back and listen to my episodes about why I started this podcast, what made me who I am today and why the worst day of my life was actually in hindsight the best. I dont preach about adversity being a gift, for no reason, I truly 100% believe it is or at least can be your biggest gift.

I sincerely hope you enjoy this episode, and if you have the ability to forgive, please do.

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[Notes - My Speech at Toastmasters, the only time I ever shared this story]

Toast master, fellow toast masters most welcome guests.

Today I’m going to share something I have never shared with anyone before.

I am going to tell you Why getting assaulted & left for dead was the greatest thing that ever happened to me…

But first let me take you back to a simpler time.

You see growing up I would never have imagined myself doing the things I now do.

Growing up life was easy, simple and carefree. I didn’t have to overthink things and I could just dream.

And dreaming I did!

Now I don’t know about any of you but as a child I always loved action films and fighting

From Bruce Lee to Jackie Chan to the

Karate Kid to Van Damme...

I loved it and wanted to be like them.

But my favourite of all action stars was the Italian stallion Rocky Balboa and my first ever real life goal was to become the world heavy weight champion of the world.

But sadly, I was unable to participate in Boxing due to suffering with convulsions as a child so it wasn’t allowed.

Plus I had to get a degree for my parents to make them proud.

However fast forward 25 years, with a degree under my belt It was now my time to go and pursue my dreams.

I spent the next 2 years training 3 x a day 7 days a week.

I lost 42lbs in my first 7 weeks of training

I went from being unable to run 50m, to running 7 miles straight at 6 minutes a mile.

I was ready!

And to confirm this my trainer told me I was too!

He called me in one day and spoke about the novice nationals I could attend. I remember the feeling of finally being able to achieve my dreams even though I was told I was 15 years too late to the scene.

I also remember looking to the left and seeing past champions and imagining my photo on the wall right next to them. Of course id have to move a few of them across but there was room for me, I just knew it!

However, as I departed the gym that night full of happiness, relief, excitement and just an overwhelm of emotion I was oblivious to the fact that it would be the last time I was to ever step foot into the ring again.

You see on the September of that same year 2 months before nationals, I went out for my bday reluctantly. I had a very strict diet but as 60 of my friends graced me with their presence and presents, I found myself getting rather drunk!

Fast forward 3 hours of laughing and catching up with people I had hardly seen due to my boxing commitments I found myself in true Aren style falling asleep.

You see most people when they get tipsy fall over, dance, or do crazy things. Me? Well I just fall asleep.

Only this time I had gone out for air and fallen asleep on the pavement outside.

My sleep was disrupted and short-lived, as I was woken up by my neck and head jolting back violently.

You know how they say alcohol numbs pain?

Well this was the most painful 3.5 minutes of my life, physically and mentally.

I could taste blood in my mouth, see it stream into my eyes but unable to wipe it away due to my hands not moving.

Why wasn’t they moving.

I was paralysed.

I had no idea if it was the alcohol or the concessions from the shot but I was met with fists, elbows, knees, running kicks and continuous laughter from the two guys who assaulted me, one more than the other.

I pleaded and asked why I was being assaulted, I had no real idea as to what was happening and then I remember my last few words as I believed in that time, I am going to die here.

“I cried for my mom, and within seconds I was passed out, only this time from an unprovoked assault”

I was woken up in a pool of blood and doctors told me I had sustained remarkable injuries but somehow nothing life threatening. Despite the 60+ cuts and bruises I was ok!

Or at least they thought.

You see I then struggled for the next 2 years living a life of resentment and fear. I had nightmares daily and went to bed bitter and angry at the world, the police for never really helping me, my friends for being too busy drinking inside and myself for getting into that state.

I spent these years being someone I was ashamed off, a victim, in a victims mentality.

However fast forward 2 years from the incident, I made a life changing decision. You see prior to that I had listened to a podcast that changed my life.

Do you ever get that feeling when you watch or listen to something that they are speaking directly to you?

Well this guy was. In fact his story was so similar it was unreal. The funny thing is I can’t recall the episode now and sometimes question myself as to whether it was real or I simply imagined it.

However it worked. The podcast spoke about forgiveness and how this individual, who I believed was me at the time went on to change his life once he forgave the person who assaulted him.

So with that I did the same. I sent a message to the person forgiving them and explaining everything that was in my thoughts. I forgave them for me, not them.

That was the most liberating thing I have ever truly done you see,

Since then I regained control of my life living a victor mentality!

You see since then I have:

- Trained 1000+ clients from a health and fitness benefit having learnt so much during my boxing years.

- Married my best friend and soul mate, someone who I never had time for during my boxing years. What a mistake that would have been.

- Ive conquered my biggest fears of public speaking as I deliver this to you all today.

- Learned the power of forgiveness and practice this daily.

- Dived into the property world and became financially free to allow me to live a life of passion and purpose and work on my own terms.

- I also have my very own podcast which has been listened to in 20 countries and downloaded over 2000+ times in less than a month.

You see In hindsight I would never go back and erase that night from my life, as it taught me so much about myself and the person I have grown into today.

It has made me stronger, more compassionate, more forgiving and overall a better servant to the world.

Maybe I could have done this through boxing, who knows but for now I am truly fulfilled and in the best place I could possibly be in.

Night crushed my dreams but I created buffers ones

My name is Aren Deu and I thank you all for listening to me today.

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"Support, encourage & challenge" by Rock Thomas

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As featured on mind valley, goalcast, EoFIRE, Tony Robbins, Wheelbarrow profits, the Gazette and the Bigger Pockets! Rock Thomas joins us on find your voice to share his incredible story and help you all on your journey of finding your voice and moving forward towards achieving your goals.

The way we see ourselves can massively determine our success in life and Rock Thomas speaks about the importance of this, along with all the incredible mindset that he has developed throughout his life of figuring out the next steps in the midst of adversity. This is a true story of someone who had two choices. To become a victim, or to become a victor and thankfully for us here on find your voice and the world Rock Thomas chose to become the latter and really make everyday an opportunity to better himself, serve the world and deliver his great teachings and wisdom.

Some key timestamps:

[03:10] Finding your path

[06:20] Support encourage and challenge model

[14:10] Life is about growth

[19:00] Feed and energise yourself to change yourself

[24:45] Exposing your weakness

[30:14] Choose how you see yourself

[35:25] Feeling like he did not belong

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"Live fully, love wholeheartedly and rest intentionally" By Dr Saundra Dalton-Smith

An incredible episode with an expert in her field helping people all over the world recover their best selves and live a happier and healthier life. There are some tanigible takeaways to restoring our energy and selves to really become our best selves once again.

Who would have also thought there were so many types of restorative habits that we all have. Yet having them and knowing we have them are not always the case, which often leads to burnout amongst many people. Saundra shares her wisdom in this episode to ensure none of us go through burnout, or none of us leave this isolation period in a worse mental and physical state. We want you to leave this isolation period fully restored and ready to manage your overall health in all aspects such as:

• Physical
• mental
• spiritual
• Emotional
• social
• sensory
• creativity

Key timestamps:

[03:10] Recognising burnout in her career

[10:15] The struggles of burnout and impact on family

[11:00] Passive and Active rest

[15:25] Habits Dr Saundra uses to help with burnout and social rest deficit

[20:10] Dr Saundras biggest fear today

[25:35] Choose your best life

I urge you to check her materials and resources out and follow her amazing jouney!

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How to stop feeling guilty, even when we know we have so many things to be grateful for.

Remember you are not alone if this is you! I promise you. Try and use this 4 step process to help you stop feeling that guilt when it arises and know those emotions will pass:

Transcript:

So if your anything like me, sometimes you have those days where things are just off!

Now "feeling off", I do believe is a technical term used to convey disinterest or enthusiasm.

But even then it can get even worse, where you feel low, sad, grumpy, angry, dissatisfied, anxious, frustrated, unhappy etc..

Now if I told you this was normal and its okay, you’d think I’m just being nice.

Now depending on where you fall on the self awareness spectrum, a spectrum I have just created right this second

You would either be:

1. Oblivious to those off days

2. Feeling guilty about having those days

Now I really want to focus on the second point here! Because many of us who are aware of these days, have no idea where they start, why they happen and why they ruin our mood! Many of us then feel extremely guilty for feeling bad, or moaning because we know deep down that if you are able to listen to this podcast, our life in the grand scheme of things is pretty good! You see, we can easily compare ourselves with those, who are less fortunate, possess less, have less or see less. Yet still sometimes writing that down and being grateful just isn’t enough! You still want to moan, feel lousy, eat chocolate, drink a beer and just wallowing self-pity.

Now although I don’t advocate this, especially for a consistent period, I will say 2 things:

1. Its 100% okay to have those days, where you know your life is great, but you still feel shitty. You are allowed to feel shitty or experience such emotions.

2. Your pain, or what you are experiencing is still real to you.

Yes I understand emotions come and go, just like seasons and night and day. But sometimes its very difficult to shake it off and just go back to the super version of yourself.

So here're some recommendations I think can massively help you:

1. Acknowledge it! Once you acknowledge it, you now get at least be self aware enough to recognise that this has happened before and is happening now. It may also happen again next week. Now what do you want to do about it? Do nothing? Do it! Do your favourite things? Do them! Not do the things you want to do ? Don't do them! This is your time to just have a sulk!

2. Allocate a stop loss. So as much as I urge you to vent or wallow in step 1, I also need you to put a stop loss on this moment. It can not go on forever. This is not the podcast for that, this is the podcast for us going on a journey of self discovery and improvement each one of my words reach your ears. So set it. It can be 5 minutes, 5 hours, but please lets not do 5 days! Less than 24 hours please!

3. Acceptance. Sometimes we have to forgive ourselves when this happens. If we knew it was going to happen, and prepared we wouldn’t feel bad. But sadly it comes at the time we least expect it and really causes a stir. On top of that the aftermath is where we beat ourselves up on how we shouldn’t feel guilty and how we should be super perfect! Nobody is perfect, sorry.

4. Assessment. Maybe once this happens a few times, you start to recognise why? Was it every time you drank perhaps? The high extremes of joy and dancing, to the lows of a hangover and a lack of energy with a storming headache. Or perhaps every time you’re around someone, who just doesn’t add to your life? Could that be it? Perhaps. Either way the more you understand yourself, your triggers, your habits the better chance you have at being better equipped next time around.

So that’s just 4 swift ways I waned to share with you because a lot of people funnily enough have messaged me feeling guilty for feeling the way that they are.

Listen, until we know better and can do better, we are all just learning this thing called life. There is no-one out there so in tune with their self that they never have these days.

We all have bad days. We all have days, when everything in our life regardless of how well it is going still feel completely off. There is nothing wrong with you, or about the way you think. Please know that.

I hope you are all staying safe and urge you all to check the https://www.youtube/c/findyourvoicepodcast out too :)

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"Alcohol saved my life" - Nancy Legere #96

Healing from trauma, being compassionate to others and forgiving ourselves are just some of the incredible points we tackle in this episode. Nancy bravely shares her story of childhood abuse and speaks about the things so many of us, who have gone through adversity need to know and do. We all need to heal, we all need to forgive ourselves and we all need to continue to shine our light on the world and find our voice.

From reading her forward in her book, I myself was in tears. Unable to comprehend how people can openly abuse or hurt others is still beyond me, but one thing I know is, that is on them! For anyone who may feel they are the fault, of any abuse or trauma, you are not. Nobody has the right to make you feel any less a person or to abuse your boundaries. I am also so grateful to have met Nancy as she is such a beautiful person who I felt a deep connection with via our talk.

I urge you all to check her book out and to use the lessons we bravely discuss in this episode to help yourselves move forward and heal from this trauma too.

Important time stamps:

[07:10] The importance of speaking about trauma (finding your voice)

[20:11] What to do if you are going through trauma

[29:30] Finding the silver lining in our adversity

[36:00] Would life be easier with adversity?

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"Join up dots" by David Ralph #95

David Ralph is living life on his own terms. Doing the things he loves & avoiding those he don't. But it wasn't always this way. David like many of us has gone through the motions of life, often neglecting his health. Spinning his wheels for things that don't light him up, fill him up with joy and just to get a pay cheque. But this all changed when David took a plunge and jumped into the entrepreneurial space.

Managing his own online businesses and running and hosting the successful Join Up Dots podcast, with over 2,000 episodes of GOLD, David now works on his own terms.. at least for the majority of the week.

We discuss the 4 hour week and how books can change your life, minimalism, finding your joy and just enjoying the process along the way. So often we spend too long on the noise of the world, and we must instead look at the things that keep us thriving and wanting to put those long hours in.

With a week away from uploading any episodes we are now back and ready to bring you some incredible episodes to help you move forward to find your voice & write your own story.

If you enjoyed it or found it useful, let me know! Also drop by the YouTube channel as we have content everyday going out now to help you.

Audio versions of the Find Your Voice episodes, video recordings of some episodes, animations telling stories, giving tips and much much more!

Also do not forget to check out our new sponsor coming soon: https://www.healthxcel.co.uk

Covid19, Covid-19, Coronavirus is just a phase of adversity we are all capable of overcoming and prospering from.

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Motivation comes in dribs & drabs! In fact, it seems to elude us when we need it most & appear when we can't use it as effectively. Ever get that moment of motivation after a few beers but know deep down you won't execute there and then and even less likely too, in the morning with hangover? Then on the flip side you know you need to work out but it's becoming increasingly difficult to get your body and mind to adhere to your wishes and instead you excuse yourself, let yourself off the hook and tell yourself, you will do better tomorrow?

Well this is why I hope this short bite sized episode will help you at least find another resource to add to your tool kit and get yourself doing things, to execute your goals, overcome your adversity and be happier!

So as I wrote these shownotes, I recognised my Morbid motivation videos are only on my Instagram profile. However I will be uploaded a YouTube version in the upcoming weeks if you want more clarrity on this. I spoke about this at Toastmasters too and it helped me win an award for the best speech.

If you enjoyed it or found it useful, let me know! Also drop by the YouTube channel as we have content everyday going out now to help you.

Audio versions of the Find Your Voice episodes, video recordings of some episodes, animations telling stories, giving tips and much much more!

Also do not forget to check out our new sponsor coming soon: https://www.healthxcel.co.uk

Covid19, Covid-19, Coronavirus is just a phase of adversity we are all capable of overcoming and prospering from.

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As we are raising awareness for domestic violence week, this episode could not have come at a more important time. Teaira has only known adversity for the majority of her life, but due to her mindset, resilience and experience she has become an expert at overcoming it. Putting this down to her perspective and persistence Teaira does not just share an emotive sad story. There is a huge underlying theme of hope.

She has proven that regardless of the hands, you are dealt, the decision to change the rest of your life is still yours. The choice, that power, that decision should never be taken for granted. Teaira is now operating from such a higher place of self-worth and consciousness she is helping others overcome their adversities too.

I know you will enjoy this, trademark Find Your Voice style episode & I encourage you all to let me know your feedback after listening.

Thanks for stopping by.

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I sympathise with anyone at this time. Noone is unaffected but and as I always state about our problems not being exclusive to ourselves, there is no truer realisation for us all that, that is the case.

However, conscious that loneliness and self-isolation can increase the pressures on our mental health during this period of corona virus (Covid-19) I want to try to help you with 10 things you can do that will massively help you during these testing times.

Prior to listening to this, you may want to check the last episode out which has a further 10 hacks, that will help you during this pandemic too. My goal is to ensure you do not lose momentum or suffer alone in these times. So I sincerely hope these help you.

Check out Thursdays episode: https://shows.acast.com/findyourvoice/episodes/control-the-controllables-how-to-survive-during-corona-isola

10 things everyone can do during isolation - social distancing for your mental health

1. Get help from your local governments. Money along with health is the most feared concept for all people. For its not a concern, but for many it is. So in these times, reach out to your local governments as they will have many ways they can help you. Direct debits etc can also be reduced or stalled from car finance companies etc to really help you during this moment of uncertainty.

2. Start with gratitude, isolation is not the end. Isolation is protecting ourselves, but just as importantly protecting those who are vulnerable. I believe with all of my heart if you listen to my podcast, you are like me. You care just as much for others as you do for yourself. If you didn’t, I wouldn’t imagine you’d be sticking around for long. So gratitude for us is a must. We should be grateful we are in a position to help others (even through technically doing nothing). We should be grateful for having a roof over our heads, access to water and toilets/showers. The ability to connect via FaceTime, Skype, WhatsApp or mobiles to all our loved ones too.

3. Read some books. Or if you’re like me listen to them. This is a time to enhance your mind without the pressures of being somewhere else or having to do anything else. Books allow us to time collapse our journeys, change our perspectives and just develop. If you want recommendations please let me know, although most of my books are non-fiction personal developments. But even if its a fiction book, knock off those slippers kick back and read to your hearts content.

4. Watch this is us. Now I am obviously looking for an endorsement but this show has been incredible. It looks at all the different obstacles and adversities we face in life, from parenting, to racism, to self-image, confidence etc Yet the messages are beautifully scripted and acted out. I literally leave each show with my heart full and head bursting with ideas for blogs and podcast shows to hopefully help you all.

5. Recharge your batteries. So often in life we are on autopilot and rarely take a step back to look at our well-being. This is time to sit back, re assess your life and see if the story you are writing is one you want to continue to writing. Would you be happy doing this for the next 10-15 years? If no, then you have such a huge possibility to change your future by starting today. 5 years ago today I would have believed I had to work till I was 65, yet here I am able to connect with you all and do the things that fill my heart more than anything in the world. It took blood sweat and tears but it started with the decision to do so. You have that power to make the decision now, even if you think you don’t.

6. Clean! If you’re a guy, do some handy work around the house and clean. You will get yourself some brownie points, but you also have a cleaner house & decluttering helps with your mind space.

7. Skype/Zoom people. This is crucial, because although it won’t replace physical social interaction we need to communicate with people, and we do not want to suffer with loneliness. So reach out to your loved ones. Hey reach out to me! I am always active on Instagram and ill try to reach back out to you too.

8. Journal. If you are suffering with anxiety in this time, journaling is my #1 tool for combatting overwhelm and anxious feelings. Just throw anything and everything in your head onto paper and watch your brain feel lighter, mood get brighter and smile get wider over time. Its powerful beyond belief!

9. Start your day with Find Your Voice Podcast!

10. Learn something new. Okay so to date we probably learnt a few celebrities have got coronavirus and that its taking over the world, with people snatching toilet rolls and doing all sorts of crazy habits. Well the time you spend, reading the same information that will only add to your anxiety, perhaps you could randomly research something you’re interested about? How about brain health? How about the benefits of adversity? Or how to cook pad thai? How to exercise at home? It can truly be anything, but time I something we will never got back. Skill sets and new learnings are also things we will always have. So

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"Always try to Control the Controllables" by Aren Deu #91

In a time of huge uncertainty, where fear is upon many of us, and we often feel helpless, defenceless and desperate we need to ensure we regain control of our lives. We need to eliminate our excuses irrespective of how good or true they may be. We need to overcome this adversity and move forward in life. The best way to do this, is to truly control the controllables and recognise that in the midst of this current climate, with Corona (COVID-19) taking its toll on the world, we still have so much control of the rest of our lives. Our thoughts, bodies and minds are still within our control should we recognise this and work towards ensuring we master it.

I urge you all to just listen to this episode or check out the YouTube and really use this time to benefit your life moving forward. If I can help in anyway please do not hesitate to reach out.

1. Your sleep routine is so crucial.

2. Your nutrition, both hydration and the food you consume.

3. How to speak to yourself (especially if your self-isolated). Your thoughts impact your emotions & actions.

4. What you choose to listen and watch (I am all for Netflix, and Amazon) but I am so against things that do not serve my mindset.

5. How you look after your physical body (Exercise at home) ?

6. How you treat others (a dog eat dog world). Let's not act like animals and be kinder and more compassionate and not let desperation take over our values.

7. Future proof yourself, if this happens (Formulate a plan and ensure if you are struggling this does not happen again. We have to learn from our moments of adversity and circumstances)

8. Levels of gratitude more so now than ever.

9. Learn a new skill. Language, online course or something you’ve always wanted to do. Write, blog, podcast do it today!!

Covid19, Covid-19, Corona Virus is just a phase of adversity we are all capable of overcoming and prospering from.

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