Find Your Voice

"Tales of broken chains" by Sarah Davis #80

A courageous woman who gives a platform for others to share their stories and her own, unapologetically Sarah Davis brings some joy into this episode. Having been in an abusive relationship Sarah found it difficult to find herself and voice due to the trauma it caused her. But now, an aspiring entrepreneur who hosts the Broken Chains Podcast Sarah is enjoying herself, loving herself and finding her voice.

An infectious personality as you will see from the YouTube version of this podcast, Sarah has come out the other side of adversity but as she states early on in this episode, you have to do it for you. You have to take control of your life, because nobody else can do it for you.

Let us know your thoughts and reach out to Sarah and follow her journey as I am sure you will find huge value from her.

Some Key Time stamps:

[06:15] Overcoming Abusive Relationships

[10:30] Finding your voice & purpose

[16:30] School systems are failing us

[23:20] Journaling is key

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"Don't compare yourself to 1 area of someone elses life" by Aren Deu #79

Putting people on a pedestal is a dangerous game that will not serve you. It simply has no benefit to your happiness or mental health. Furthermore, it will cause you to behave and act in a manner that actually adds very little to your own progress. Now I am not sitting here preaching about this, like I haven't done it. I have. I have put people on a pedestal many times in the past. But since I stopped doing that, my world started to change. Since I started to recognise my own powers, traits and strengths I became much happier in my own skin. I want this for you too.

So there’s a few reasons we need to stop this

1. Yes the first is comparison is the thief of joy, but if you are comparing yourself with an influencer or a rich person because you don’t have many followers or much money, the chances are you will begin to feel low and almost indirectly subconsciously conform to that persons narrative. You will Be more likely to believe or listen to them on their own matters and personal opinions irrespective of what the truth actually is. Why is this a problem?

2. Well the second point is it forces you to not think. It forces you to hold someone in such high esteem based off 1 or 2 traits you then loosely accept their views and don't give yourself the chance to conjure and manifest your own thoughts that's a dangerous place! You will just simply become a sheep and for what? Is it because you have a few less pounds in your account You are so worth more than that.

3. What about their other values and characteristics? Listen I am all for people creating wealth and earning shit loads of money. It'll eradicate many of your daily stresses and struggles, it’ll teach you money isn’t the be and end all and it’ll also hopefully, if you're a good person which I know you are if you made it this far or listen to these types of podcasts do more good in the world. But what about their integrity? Their values? Their charitable nature? Are they treating their spouse right? Do they treat the janitor at the local store the same way they treat investors or show themselves on social media? How do they speak to their parents, or their children? I could go on. But so often we look at what we are lacking, and try to find that in others.

4. Now this moves me onto point 4. We need to look at what we find inspiring in others and leave it there. We need to not compare, or down value ourselves and recognise that we all have our own journeys. You may have excelled far greater in compassion and kindness than financial gain. So now all you need to do is work out how to level up your finances, or social status or physique depending on what you need or desire. We need to move the conversation back to ourselves and work on masking our potential out so that we can in turn, be proud of ourselves. Progression is key in this and although I encourage looking t people for the blueprint or who have it as a reason why its possible for you, I never want it to be a reason why you disregard your own voice, your own skills and ability to do and become much more.

So I just wanted to leave it there as this is something I've done too. I've been doing work of service most my life. I've always tried to be as kind as possible, I've always remained loyal to my spouse, my friends and family. Yet I have too been in situations where I've held people in high regard because they’ve had more influential stance than me or more money. But now I don't. You see I recognised very quickly, my relationships and thoughts are the key to my own happiness. I have amazing relationships and as I progress I'm slowly having more empowering and greater thoughts. These thoughts in turn lead to better decisions and actions and my life is pretty kick ass right now!

Had I stayed in comparison mode, who knows how id feel about myself? Who knows how far id push myself or think for myself.

I do not want you to just be a drifter through your life, a term I took from an incredible book ill be filling you all in very soon!

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"I believe that love is action" by Wendy Adamson #78

Wendy Adamson, has a story that sounds like it is from a Hollywood movie. Almost so morbid and depressive, when we signal the events but one that has a bright light at the end of the tunnel. Distraught and riddled with adversity, Wendy has seen her own mother who was diagnosed Schizophrenic commit suicide. She has seen first hand the problems drugs and alcohol can have on a family. Yet during her early years she was unable to change her circumstances and her choices led to her having a psychotic breakdown and following the footsteps of her mom.

To make things worse, Wendy then ended up shooting at the mistress of her husband and found her life spiralling out of control straight into country jail. Needing to now take action, and accountable for her decisions and choices Wendy started with forgiveness. She began to show her sons the love of a mother through her actions. Now a women of service Wendy shares her stories of adversity and experience to help others. Someone who is an author, a motivational speaker and activity. Wendy is such a courageous women who speaks her truth to inspire and help others.

A truly incredible story, and having experienced the effects of alcohol in my own family, I ordered her book straight after this show to hopefully give hope to my family who are struggling with addiction. it always helps having a blueprint, of someone who has overcome the trauma, ptsd and problems we have experienced in our lives.

Some Key Time stamps:

[01:15] Wendy's story

[06:45] Psychotic break

[08:00] Shooting her husbands mistress

[22:20] Wendys book - Mother Load her experiences and story

[29:00] Importance of being of value

[40:00] Inspite of adversity we can become and do more

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"Perfect doesn't exist" - Aren Deu #77

Perfectionism is nothing to be proud of. Trust me, I used to wear it as a badge of honour daily. However, I have since realised it was just an excuse to not take action, to procrastinate and just delay my goals. So having had some recent feedback from listeners, who believed I had it all figured out, I felt it necessary to share the truth. (YouTube video, will be out tomorrow)

Also it is my goal, to ensure the listeners of find your voice aren't just talkers. Instead, I want you to be doers, to be action takers and be about it!! Finding your voice is about taking control of your life, overcoming your struggles and adversity and yes Finding Your Voice.

So off the back of a few listeners, one in particular, thinking I had my anxiety shyness conquered, oh you are so wrong!

Remember I am about as normal as you can get and just like you all. I get stressed, worried, nervous and anxious. I get frustrated, angry

overwhelmed too. To make matters worse, I know how to conquer many of these emotions, or at least control them. I have so much wisdom from my guests that I sometimes know the right thing to do, but even then I don't always do it.

So listen, it's okay to feel crappy, act crappy and be crappy on the odd occasion. Just remember not to make it a habit. The point is we just need to move forward from that, and we just need to try better next time. I guess that comes down to the right habits and discipline, executing and course correcting.

So whatever you have in your heart, feel it.

Whatever you have in your mind, speak it.

Whatever you want to do, just go out and do it please.

If one thing I learned this week is that life its just too bloody fragile.

I want to send my thoughts and condolences to the friends and family of those who lost someone in the tragic helicopter crash.

RIP (apologies if I pronounce this wrong):

Ara Zobayan

Sarah Chester

Payton Chester

Christina Mauser

Keri Altobelli

John Altobelli

Alyssa Altobelli

GigI Bryant

‘& Kobe Bryant

I want to also leave you on a quote that I saw from twitter that I just hope will stop you procrastinating and take note of the important things in your life, cherish them and make the most of every single second you have in this beautiful world.

“Leaving your home and getting back safely is such an underrated blessing”

#blackmamba

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"Blast Your Past" by Nick Davies #76

Nick Davies joins us on Find Your Voice to discuss; Panic attacks, Narcissism, Gaslighting, NLP & much more in this amazing episode.

An episode that I wanted to bring all you amazing listeners to really you take control of your lives. Nick Davies shares his 2 incredible protocols to help manage stress, overwhelm and anxiety within 5-10 minutes. These two protocols are called: The Lima Protocol and also the Tapping Protocol.

The Lima and Tapping Protocol are put onto a separate video for you all to gain access too:

https://youtu.be/q1YHHgPnuy8

Alongside this, we also discuss narcissist people and their cognitive blind spots, dissonance and the way they can harm people in society. Furthermore, the use of NLP to manipulate people is also discussed with Nick explaining certain things you should all be aware off.

But this is, just some of the amazing takeaways in this episode, as Nick also shares his work ethic, passion and tells a wonderful story of persistence and graft. An authentic individual, who overcame panic attacks, a stab wound to the heart and being dead for almost 25 minutes!

Miracles do happen, and with some of these techniques you wouldn't be far off thinking they are miracles too. As an anxious person myself, the use of these techniques have massively helped me personally, so I felt it my duty to share it with yourselves.

https://ndhypnotherapy.wordpress.com/

Some Key Time stamps:

Key timestamps:

[04:40] Nicks introduction to NLP in 1996

[07:00] The difference between Anxiety & Panic attacks

[07:55] Being stabbed in the heart

[11:40] The LIMA Protocol - To help you with your anxiety (available on separate YouTube Video} https://youtu.be/q1YHHgPnuy8

[17:40] The Tapping Protocol - To help you with stress, frustration or lower mood (available on separate YouTube Video} https://youtu.be/q1YHHgPnuy8

[23:45] NLP being used the wrong way

[36:00] Nick analysing my own body language

[43:30] Narcissist Traits explored - They think their right

[49:30] A Powerful Lesson of Perseverance & Hard work

Key Quotes by Nick:

On anxiety:

"Anxiety, is a fear of the future. A future based emotion"

"If you got anxiety, this is a precursor to panic"

On why Affirmations won't work:

Affirmations do not work, unless your in the alpha state"

"Your brain won't accept suggestions unless your in that alpha state"

On narcissists

"A narcissistic type of person, has to have an outrageous type of personality. When you analyse them, these people are very insecure"

"Whether there a murderer, burglar or narcissist, they don't know their that person. What they think their doing, they think their right."

"Cognitive blind spots are things where your unaware that your doing bad things"

On everyone moving forward:

"Trust yourself"

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"I was once the king of failing" - Aren Deu #75

We will all fail at things in our life. Or how I now like to say, we will all have many opportunities in our life to learn and grow from things that didn't quite go according to plan. These opportunities are moments that we must acknowledge as important timestamps in our life that will help us level up. They will help us become wiser, gain invaluable experience and teach us so much about ourselves. It is for this reason alone, I want to encourage you all to stretch your comfort zone and begin to embrace 'failure'. Give yourselves the opportunities to become better by learning in the midst of obstacles and challenges that life will throw your way. The 3 points I discuss in this episode are shown below and I sincerely hope they add value.

1. Get a reward from your failures as Eric Thomas says
2. It gets easier next time
3. It builds character

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"Making a difference matters at any scale" by Chris Bello #74

An incredible story from a wonderful guy. Chris Bello echoes a life so similar to my own. Giving up work without a backup plan, jumping into real estate and also having a podcast to help impact and empower people. Also alongside this, Chris has gone on a similar personal development journey where he now sees himself as someone able to advise and help people overcome their mindset issues and improve their productivity hacks.

A conversation I thoroughly enjoyed and one I guess that made me feel better about some decisions in my life I often roll my eyes up at. Yet the one thing we both have in common more than just our job titles, is our true desire to serve and impact more people. Making a difference matters at any scale, regardless of whether its 1 person or 1 million and this is a mantra we both live by. A great individual who I highly recommend you follow post this show and if you are interested in freebies, check his links out below & subscribe to his podcast:

Some Key Time stamps:

Key timestamps:

[03:35] Chris' Story with no back up plan

[07:10] Importance of consistency in Podcasting

[13:15] Some daily habits Chris uses

[20:00] The benefits of failures / mistakes

[27:00] Chris legacy

Key Quotes by Chris:

"Making a difference matters at any scale, regardless of whether its 1 person or 1 million".

"Consistency over time and continuing to plant seeds, that will result in improving the world overall"

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"Comparison is the thief of Joy" - Theodore Roosevelt #73

This is part 2, so if you haven't heard part 1 I recommend you go and check that out first by clicking -->here<--

So having interviewed almost a 70 people now, from all over the world, I wanted to share some important success habits they shared on their episodes. Now if you are a true Find Your Voice fan, you will recognise all of these, but even then I hope it will jog your memory and come as an important reminder of habits you may not be implementing that you potentially could.

Also, I want to make sure that these habits, are explained and that you recognise, that you do not need to do all of these. Trust me that would be so overwhelming and drive you absolutely mad!

But what I do massively encourage is that you at least play around with a few of these and give yourself that hour or 2 a day to really try to put yourself first in order to achieve your goals and achieve excellence in your life.

Enjoy & don't forget to check part 1 -->here<--

10 successful habits part 2

- [1] Surround yourself with successful people

- [2] Believe in yourself

- [3] Turn off your damn phone

- [4] Watch yourself daily

- [5] Increasing your streams of income

- [6] Invest in assets

- [7] Gratitude journal

- [8] Think positively

- [9] Wake up early

- [10] Self love

Further information recommended on the following podcast episodes:

Episode 52 10 Ways to Become Selfless by Being More Selfish: https://shows.acast.com/findyourvoice/episodes/10-self-love-tips

Episode 58 5 Ways to be Kind to Yourself, When You Feel Low: https://shows.acast.com/findyourvoice/episodes/bekindtoyourself

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"Live peacefully doing what you love" by Evan Bradley Johnson #72

Evan Bradley Johnson dropped out of college, when he recognised quickly the corporate life was not for him. He wanted to be an entrepreneur, and that he did. He took over from his mothers business and has not looked back since. A different perspective, for the listeners of find your voice, that I hope you find useful. Finding Your Voice, or your way in life, can come through any avenue. Now I never want to prescribe something so matter of fact to you, without at least giving a balanced argument.

But the one thing I would strongly suggest you all do, moving forward in 2020, is to look at your life and see if its making you truly happy and fulfilled. If it is not, then you may need to reassess and look at where you need to go. Once you have this, I urge you to reverse engineer the process and find a way of becoming that person worthy and capable of living out those dreams.

Some great honest insights from an entrepreneur that aren't often discussed too within this episode that I am sure, those experienced or even newbies embarking on the journey will benefit from. Other topics discussed were finding things that make you happy and the importance of mindset.

Some Key Time stamps:

Key timestamps:

[05:00] Evan's entrepreneurial start

[07:28] The Best & Worst thing about being an entrepreneur

[16:50] Never forget how far you have come

[17:10] Evan's health problems

[25:40] Taking time for the things that you enjoy

Key Quotes by Evan:

"it's okay to have goals and try to achieve, but try to remember to take a step back and remember that there is a life happening to you in this moment, and its okay to take a breathe and enjoy that".

"Nothing is a perfectly great answer"

"Drop out of college"

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"Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence" - Vince Lombardi #71

So having interviewed almost a 70 people now, from all over the world, I wanted to share some important success habits they shared on their episodes. Now if you are a true Find Your Voice fan, you will recognise all of these, but even then I hope it will jog your memory and come as an important reminder of habits you may not be implementing that you potentially could.

Also, I want to make sure that these habits, are explained and that you recognise, that you do not need to do all of these. Trust me that would be so overwhelming and drive you absolutely mad!

But what I do massively encourage is that you at least play around with a few of these and give yourself that hour or 2 a day to really try to put yourself first in order to achieve your goals and achieve excellence in your life.

Enjoy & stay tuned for part 2

10 successful habits

- [1] Planning the next day

- [2] Identify your weaknesses and strengths

- [3] Exercise

- [4] Journaling

- [5] Nutrition + Hydration

- [6] Self reflection / assessment

Further information on episode 54

https://shows.acast.com/findyourvoice/episodes/5-ways-on-how-to-become-more-self-aware

- [7] 30 minutes of self development

- [8] Goal setting - reviewing and visualising

Further information on episode 69

https://shows.acast.com/findyourvoice/episodes/how-to-crush-your-goals-in-2020-69

- [9] Affirmations / Self talk

- [10] Develop a Growth Mindset

Further information on episode 40

https://shows.acast.com/findyourvoice/episodes/3-ways-to-fix-a-broken-mindset

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