Find Your Voice

Why Positive Thinking Doesn't Work #60 - By Aren Deu

So as we embark on our personal development journey, we often recognise that Positive thinking, although is great, doesn't always work.

Sadly, positive thoughts alone won't necessarily single handedly change your circumstances. If you listened to Episode 59, with Dr Linda Williams or follow one of my favourite neuroscientists Dr Joe Dispensa, you would have likely heard positive thinking doesn't always work.

There is science behind it & hopefully I articulate that well enough in this episode to add some value and help you really take control & start to slowly change your life.

Key quotes:

"Practice makes permanent" - Unknown

"To change your personal reality, you need to change your personality" - Dr Joe Dispensa

"“Neurons that fire together, wire together.” - Unknown

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"She did it anyway" by Dr Linda F. Williams #59

Don't believe the lie that fear is the end of your story.

"It's not what other people think about us, its what we think about ourselves that keeps us back" - Dr Linda F. Williams

So, Dr. Linda F. Williams, DSW is a Certified Executive Coach is a lady who I now hold dear to my heart. Our conversation went via many directions but her messages, were all so sincere and authentic. A lady who has had to overcome horrific moments of adversity such as: Domestic violence and Rape now teaches us the importance of Sharing Your Story & Finding Your Voice.

The trauma she has been on, has seen her develop a resilience mindset but more importantly than that a heart willing to forgive. Now a trained psychotherapist, nationally recognized behaviourist, and Emotional Intelligence Consultant Linda wants to ensure others are able to overcome their adversities.

Some time stamps of some key topics:

[04:40] The Problem with Ignoring Your Trauma

[09:40] Why You Need to Share Your Story

[15:25] Linda's Voice

[33:00] The Power of Forgiveness

[42:40] Why Positive Affirmations Don't Always Work

I urge you all to follow her amazing journey, share this episode with anyone you think it will help and go out there and Find Your Voice.

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"Do Not Feel Guilty, For Prioritising Your Mental & Physical Health" by Aren Deu #58

So having these funky days, where everything seems grim, gloomy and life seems a little bleurgh!

Motivation is low, excitement is non-existent and you just sit there thinking what the hell is going on in my head?

Why am I feeling this way?

Why have I suddenly started feeling bad, or low when yesterday was perfect?

Why have I suddenly started feeling low when I have so much to look forward too.

So what I did on this very spontaneous episode, was to speak about what I actually did on my last "funky" / "low" day. Because let's be honest we can all preach over and over what we should do. But saying and doing are the 2 completely different things. So for that reason, I have given a 100% transparent account of what I did on my last "funky" day!

Yes it could be better, but it could have been worse too. What I want this episode and previous episodes to show you, is that there is no blueprint for this. But there are many ways to mitigate the adverse effects and try and move the needle back to a happier you!

I hope you find this useful, and if you are ever feeling low please do reach out!

PS for those of you have listened to my podcasts for a while, you have seen some of these short fire episodes to give you tangible takeaways. If you are new however, please check out the episodes on Self Love & Self Awareness tips previously. These are Episode #52 & #54 which I believe will massively help you move forward in life, and maintain a more positive mental state.

5 Tips recommended in this Podcast:

1. Make sure you take time out for you
2. Treat yourself
3. Know it will never lasts forever
4. Be compassionate to yourself
5. Speak to someone you love/trust

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"I Am Ant Bennett" by Anthony Bennett #57

The Inspirational Speaker Anthony Bennett shares his incredible journey on Find Your Voice this week. A recommendation from our previous guest Winston Clements Anthony shares one of the most amazing insights into his mind, story and current journey.

It is rarely an episode goes over 40 minutes but here we have so so many nuggets of takeaways that you can implement today to help you change your voice. As a result of that I felt I couldn't cut any of his interview out. His self reflection, his story, his resilience, his behaviour with himself and thought processes are something we can all take gratitude and lessons from.

Some time stamps of some key topics:

[03:00] A little about the Miracle man

[12:20] Recognising how ill he was

[18:30] Shout out to the Medical Professions

[25:00] Self awareness & Understanding Your Body

[33:40] Anthony's biggest fear & Routine

[43:50] Anthony's approach to meeting Role Models & Learn

[44:20] Knowing your self worth

[59:00] Importance of sharing your story

[61:00] Skeptas 3 parts of life

[72:00] Fun Part of the show

[78:00] The most important conversation you can have

I urge you all to follow his amazing journey, share this episode with anyone you think it will help and go out there and Find Your Voice.

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The Power of Sharing Your Story To Combat Mental Health by Aren Deu #56

Sharing your story could change lives, no matter how mundane you think it is. This is why I encourage everyone who ever listens, or comes onto Find Your Voice to do the same. But this very short episode features the beautiful review that a young man told me about how it changed the narrative of discussion between him and his male friends. This ripple effect and acknowledgement meant the whole world to me but it also proved that even myself, who doubted my own words, could have an impact.

We forget our stories for their strength, growth and wisdom. We forget the lessons they teach us, or the lessons they can teach others. But I encourage you to not do that. I encourage you to believe in your own ability to find your voice and recognise their is beauty in your struggles, gifts in your adversities and tales that can teach a generation.

This was not a planned episode, but I thank you all for tuning in and taking something from this. It is a milestone for me personally, so I am grateful you have tuned in to share it with me.

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"Overcome" #55 by Andy Audate

Tagline: "You can do some crazy things in life...There is no reason to accept fear, if you have already accepted your death"

Raised in a city of impoverishment and a college dropout with little formal education; Andy took a path of entrepreneurship, forcing a course of endless self-education that has amounted to his successes. A story of breaking the stereotype and overcoming all the odds Andy is a proving that if we act, irrespective of fear we can achieve our wildest dreams.

Andy turned his hunger, into entrepreneurship starting his first businesses of eBay and never looked back since. He is now a professional speaker, author (No More Average) and serial entrepreneur changing the game for all those he works with. Having benefited from the mentorship of Les Brown, Andy is now on a path to achieve his dreams of being a billionaire and helping a billion people.

I urge you all to follow his amazing journey, share this episode with anyone you think it will help and go out there and Find Your Voice.

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"We need to know why we do what we do" by Aren Deu #54

5 ways to become more self aware. Self awareness has become one of the biggest areas of personal development for me and has helped me massively create the life I want. So as a result, I feel obligated once more to share this with you. I don't just share the importance of self awareness however, I also provide 5 ways you can literally start to become self aware starting today!

This is where I hope you take action and really start controlling your life. Sooner or later, if you incorporate just some of these measures you will see very swiftly how different your life is. It has been a catalyst in my journey and something I deliberately focus on as much as possible.

The 5 ways discussed in this episode to become more self aware are:

1. Know who you are & who you are not.

2. Have an accountability partner

3. Travel

4. Meditate

5. Document

I hope you all have an amazing end to the week, or start of the week if you are listening to this late and if you have any comments or feedback on this episode give me a shout, id love to learn more or hear if they helped you!

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"Adapt #53 by James Roberts

Tagline: "At times I wanted to be anything but disabled"

James Roberts is the host of the Mindset Athlete Podcast, a speaker, a coach and also a Paralympian who has represented his country in 2008/2012.

In this particular episode I wanted to extract the mindset of someone who has operated at the top level. I wanted to see how easy it was, or difficult to transfer the lessons of being a top athlete into other aspects and arenas in your life. I wanted to also delve into James mindset and extract his doubts, fears and see how we could dehumanise him, in the most respectful way to show us, as non-elite athletes that we too could achieve anything we truly want.

This was a fascinating discussion as James shared some of his major vulnerabilities about 75% through the show but also spoke about how he grew up as a teenager, wanting to be anything but disabled. This made my heart sink, hearing those words. Yet disciplined, consistent and persistence in his pursuit of being more and doing more James continued to achieve his dreams.

I enjoyed everything he stood for. From playing the long game, to his approach towards fat loss. His ethical, sustainable approach to helping people lose weight mirrors that of which I have taught for 8+ years. He is someone who has fought battles not just in the arena, but also within his own mind, conquering them to great success.

Some key topics discussed:

[07:00] Viewing competition as a positive

[10:00] Fad diets & Fat loss

[18:15] Questioning one's identity

[28:50] Failure is not bad

[35:08] James vulnerability of not working enough

[44:05] The importance of playing the long game

I urge you all to follow his amazing journey, share this episode with anyone you think it will help and go out there and Find Your Voice.

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"Don't let the past define you, instead let it refine you" #52 by Aren Deu

Tagline: "You have to be selfish first, to be truly selfless"

This episode focuses on 10 tips you should implement for Self Love.

So YES, in a nutshell, I am telling you to be selfish, in order to truly be selfless.

Sounds a bit of a contradiction right?

Well I assure you it's not, and I say this from experience from seeing those who never put themselves first, suffer ill health.

Top 10 Tips for Self Love explained in this episode:

1. Say nice things about yourself daily.

2. Talk to yourself, how you would talk to your child.

3. Write down 3 things you have achieved this week, month or even this year.

4. Feed your mind & body daily.

5. Ask the people you love what they love about you.

6. Do something you love each day.

7. Affirmations.

8. Think about being their for those you love in the future.

9. Remove toxic people!

10. Write your own story.

I sincerely hope these short episodes give you value and even if you just take 3 or 4 of these I am 100% confident you will feel happier and more fulfilled.

Your deserve it!

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So in a true shameless plug style, if you review the podcast it will be shared on social media handles and anyone who engages or shares any of the posts and tags us in on Instagram or Facebook I will personally reshare and send you some DM love!

And on that note, I just want to thank you again for taking time out of your day, and hope you have a brilliant week ahead and I look forward to seeing you next week!

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"Simply Sandahl" #51 by Sandahl Taylor

Tagline: "Be a pineapple, stand tall wear a crown and be sweet on the inside"

An inspiring story of a woman who has been a victim of domestic violence, homelessness and seen those close to her suffer major health conditions Her vision now, is to inspire and empower people to find their voice. Through finding her own voice and being able to transfer her message via pageantry, for married women, Sandahl hopes that her message will encourage people to realise their own beauty inside and out.

A huge advocate for living with kindness and having the gift of her voice and platform she is now pursuing her vision to become Miss World. Already racking up accolades like: Mrs World Germany 2020, Mrs Pennsylvania 2018 and now doing public speaking, I am confident you will see the beauty within Sandahl's story, herself and that of which she shines towards others around her.

Some key timestamps:

[03:55] Advocating for those who have no voice

[10:10] Tips to control your own life

[16:10] Camel back adventures

[28:35] Embrace your struggle

[34:35] Sandahls message to the listeners

I urge you all to follow her amazing journey, share this episode with anyone you think it will help and go out there and Find Your Voice.

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