Find Your Voice

"5 Ways to Live With Integrity" #50 by Aren Deu

Tagline: "If you don't find what's important to you, you will find yourself doing what is important for others"

Hopefully these 5 steps will at least get you thinking about what Integrity means to you. It is important, that your inner dialogue and mind is in sync with your external words, actions and feelings. The full transcript is shown below for anyone who needs it, to help them.

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So before I BEGIN I want to explain why I believe integrity is important for finding your voice. Now used as a metaphor for finding you way in life, doing you, finding you and writing your own story: through all the conversations, research, interviews and self development I have personally done, we will only ever become truly successful when we act out of integrity.

Yes you can make short term gains, or wins trying to pull the wool over peoples eyes behind captions, smart articulated words or clever manipulative tactics.

But on the whole LIKE the great quote states:

“You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can not fool all of the people all of the time.”

So for me its better to just do act with integrity from the onset right? Because success, true success should enviably lead you to happiness and fulfilment and that is the underlying theme and goal of this show right?

By the way I mean happiness and fulfilment meant on the inside, not on Instagram, when we act out of integrity

So just incase someone is thinking what the hell is integrity - as we don’t know what we don’t know a quick google definition explains it as the following:

Integrity

Definition:

1. the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles.

2. The state of being whole and undivided

So very quickly integrity for me, stands as 1 of my core values. For me it means following my moral and ethical beliefs through & being true to myself at all times.

Now, if anyone doesn’t know me and this is the 1st interview they have stumbled across, I am not, I repeat NOT, sitting here pretending to be all righteous and holier than anyone else.

I am simply trying to live by my best code of practice and always do the right thing.

Of course the right thing can always be led to interpretation, but basic things like:

1. Being kind

2. Sticking to your word

3. Following through with your actions

4. Helping people whenever you can help people

5. Making a positive contribution to society etc etc are all some things I genuinely try my best to do.

Do I always master it? Hell no, but I try!

So it kind of brings me onto this brain dump short fire episode.

What does integrity mean to you?

I urge you to have a true think about It & irrespective of your moral and ethics code, see if you are aligned and congruent with that.

You see I think Integrity falls short if:

What you say OR

What you feel OR

What you do

Are never in sync.

For example:

1. If you say you are an honest individual, but then feel deceitful due to some of your actions, that screams alarm bells.

2. Another example is that if you feel a certain type of way but say and do things differently externally, that screams a lack of congruency and doesn’t show integrity.

So this is just some thoughts that ran through my head as the more people I meet on this journey o find your voice, the more purposeful I am about finding people with sincere honest integrity.

“After all, you’ve probably seen the famous quote:

Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody's going to know whether you did it or not.”

So again, conscious of not just making this a sound dump lets give some quick takeaways on how to live with integrity:

1. Stick to your word. Actions speak louder than words. I always say this. What we say is one thing, whether that is to somebody else or even ourselves. What we need to do is follow through on those actions.

2. Understand your core values, from a moral and ethical perspective. If you don’t know what is important to you, you may find yourself doing what is important for others. Only when you truly understand yourself, who you are, and who you are not can you find your purpose and of course, find your voice!

3. Do the right thing off social media. The reason I SAY this, is because it’ll form a positive habit of adding value and contribution without the need for external applause or validation. Plus doing the right thing is the right thing! Period.

4. Know your bigger picture. Now what I mean by this, is and its very closely linked actually to point 2. Is to know your price and limits. When you have a future vision of yourself, the person you truly want to become that will come at a sacrifice. It will require, sacrificing sleep, recreational times, money, nights out etc. But it should never come at the expense of your integrity. So often I have seen people chase quick money and sell their soul. Or lie about things to get a few followers. This to me, alongside being deceitful, inauthentic and damn right annoying also screams a lost soul. Someone who doesn’t know themselves. Learn to know yourself!

5. Find people similar to yourself. I tweeted something a few days ago actually that this year is about removing people from my table. The quote wasn’t mine, before anyone goes all Jay Shetty on me, but it resonated with me. I am probably the most trustworthy person. Even after I have been lied too, cheated on, stolen from and taken a ride for on many occasions. But I live in good spirits that people do the best with what they can, and deep down most of us, as I cant guarantee all of us do, are nice people just lost. So to avoid heartache and not make the same mistakes over and over, I find myself simply upgrading my network and removing the issues wherever I can!

And there we have it!

So hopefully this adds some value to you all, as I always whole heartedly appreciate your time and value it too.

Let’s try just for this week at the very least, to follow one of these and live with Integrity!

Thanks for listening

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"Truth Seeker" by Cynthia Thurlow #49

Tagline: "She endeavoured to educate, inspire & empower a generation"

Cynthia Thurlow, is a lady of many talents. Having surpassed 4,000,000 views for her TedX talk on Intermittent fasting, it is fair to say she has had an educational, impact already! But eager to ensure her legacy lives on she continues to try to educate people in her topics of interest.

She is a nurse practitioner, entrepreneur, functional nutritionist, and a 2 time TEDx speaker. She also has a passion for helping women find wellness through the healing power of nutrition & solving health problems from the inside out. She is also a wife and mother to her boys, and has great knowledge, which we discuss on this episode, around neuroplasticity and mindset.

Some key topics moments in the episode:

[03:20] The importance of scary dreams

[11:15] Imposter syndrome

[18:55] Life changing health scare

[28:00] Fear of not being/doing enough

[38:50] Social media is an illusion

I sincerely hope you found this podcast useful and urge you to follow Winston and share your thoughts on this episode!

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"Keep going, don't give up on your journey" by Roman Prokopchuk #48

Tagline: "He did the most that he could, with what he had"

Roman shares his story on Find Your Voice this week and opens up his life. Not afraid to speak about any of his life, he speaks about the adversity of being an immigrant, moving to the USA. Alongside this, we delve into Roman's journey of finding his passion in his work, becoming an expert in is field and giving back to others. He does the latter through his fostering, where he looks after young children without homes. A great character trait, and one I can resonate personally with, it shows Roman is a man of service. He is about offering true authentic value, not just in his work space, but also in his personal life.

It was a short snappy episode, but I am sure you will agree Roman shows us all that Finding our voice is possible, irrespective of where you start from. He also proves that excuses won't provide us results, and we need to just take action and trust the process.

Some key topics moments in the episode:

[02:02] Roman explains his story

[08:03] The life of a Foster carer

[15:22] How to cope with adversity

[26:45] A lesson to his younger self about listening

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"Delusion" by Winston Clements #46

Tagline: "The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do."

Winston Clements is inspiring people all across the world as we speak, to truly break through their own limitations and what a perfect guest for a show with a similar ethos. Now unlike many of us who struggle with adversity in our life, Winston had a rare form of brittle bone disease that sadly caused him to break over 150 bones just by the age of 12!!

Yes, painful! However despite going through struggles and questioning whether he would ever be able to live a normal life, what Winston was doing throughout this journey was building an incredible amount of resilience to help him battle any adversity life would throw at him. He swiftly found a turning point in life that transformed him into the person he is today, moving onto TedX stages, inspiring 1,000s and soon 1,000,000s of people across the globe.

He is also a specialist in building resilience, diversity and overcoming adversity. Yet the beautiful thing about Winston's story is there is no sense of self pity, only a purpose driven goal to just help others with his story. I have a lot of admiration for Winston and everything that he stands for and urge you all to follow his journey! You will only be inspired!

Some key topics moments in the episode:

[02:30] Winston's condition

[13:30] Winston's mission

[20:00] How Winston builds resilience

[32:18] 3 - step process to deal with adversity

I sincerely hope you found this podcast useful and urge you to follow Winston and share your thoughts on this episode!

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"A drug named hope" #46 by Gurinder Mann

A story of "One womens courageous journey, through the majestic minefield we call life. From overcoming adversity to finding her voice & discovering her true calling. Gurinder now shows us that absolutely anything is possible when we live in hope & let our soul lead the way.."

Gurinder Mann shares her incredibly inspiring, emotive, raw and honest story on Find Your Voice this week. It should be noted the 9th October 2019 - 15th October 2019 is also Baby Loss Awareness week. So for that we have uploaded this special episode.

This episode features a woman, who shares her struggle of giving birth to a child and the adversity she had to overcome in experiencing 7 miscarriages. This was the first time I ever struggled to get my words out, after listening to a story and felt deep sorrow at the pain Gurinder and her husband felt through their journey.

As in true Find Your Voice style though, the lessons are in the journey and in the final results. This has a happy ending but it will teach us so so much if we allow it too. A truly inspiring lady, who has touched my heart, and I am sure will touch 1,000,000s of yours too.

For baby loss awareness week, if you have the chance to share this episode & the podcast to friends, families & peers we would truly appreciate it.

I sincerely hope you found this podcast useful and urge you to follow Gurinder's journey & check out his wonderful podcast.

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"Make everyday a WINSday" #45 by Freddy Fri

Tagline: "The Journey of a young man, who rose from 0 to Hero."

Freddy Fri is a famous Hip Hop Motivational Speaker on YouTube, based in Oklahoma. He specializes in the fusion of motivational speaking & hip hop in what he calls – Hip Hop motivation. His true passion & goal in life is to inspire people to “win the day, so that they can win in life".

This was a fascinating conversation with a genuinely talented, humble & wise man. We spoke about Freddy's adversities, experiences, losses & victories that have all made him the person he is today. Now realising that he can't afford to miss another shot, Freddy is determined to do things right this time around and make the most of his opportunities to truly help people put themselves in a position to WIN the day!

I also have to say, this was the best outro I have ever had on my Podcast, which I am sure you will all agree with:

Some key topics moments in the episode:

[04:09] Freddy Fri raps about his story

[15:57] What does success mean to Freddy Fri

[28:35] Freddy's message about taking a leap

[39:30] The pivotal change in Freddy's life

[56:25] The best outro ever on the show!

I sincerely hope you found this podcast useful and urge you to follow Freddy's journey & check out his wonderful podcast.

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"5 Keystone Habits To Change Your Life" #44 by Aren Deu

Tagline: "Let's get you living your best days, everyday!"

So changing our habits is difficult. It will usually require a level of resistance. A level of sacrifice & more importantly dedication & consistency.

But let me welcome to you the ultimate type of habit. The keystone habit. The benefits of Keystone habits is explained briefly in this episode, but it will effectively have a positive dominoes effect on the rest of the areas in your life too.

So in this episode I give you 5 that if you just implemented these, you would see a huge shift & change in your life. You would notice your overall wellbeing, happiness & health improve. And isn't that the point?

So if you don't believe me I dare you to try these for 3-4 months. At the very least, youll sleep better, eat better, think better & maybe even look better.

Let me also know how you found it and if you have any other keystone habits to share too, so I can share them with the Find Your Voice community to help more people.

P.s. Any shares of the podcast, this episode or others, on social media (tag me in) I will repost and re share as many of them as possible too!

Have an awesome day!

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"Timeless Wisdom" #43 by Aditya Jaykumar (Aj)

Tagline: "Through his books, projects & media Aditya demonstrated his ability to make timeless wisdom relevant & accessible for the modern mind to help with balancing emotions, thoughts & finding your individual potential & purpose."

Wow, where do we start. Aj is a man of true wisdom, or as he refers to it a teacher of timeless wisdom. He is a chakra coach & healer, a conscious entrepreneur & a top ranked podcaster with now over 3,000,000 downloads! But more fascinating than that, is the way he articulates his knowledge and experience. Having overcome many moments in his life, we can all probably relate to such as adversity and feeling lost Aj went on a transformational journey.

Realising that his surroundings (networks) and lack of control over his thoughts and energy were not suiting him Aj made a conscious shift to alter his life towards a future, greater version of himself. We speak about the importance of controlling our chattering mind & the true benefits of meditation. Alongside side this Aj also gives you all a quick tangible practice we can all incorporate on a daily basis.

But more prominent than anything throughout this episode, was that I realised I have such a long way to go myself as I now practice meditation, from time to time. Yes sometimes I wish I had started earlier, but just like my last podcast, I started! For that reason I urge you all to start too and really start to put the odds in your favour, in this game of life we are all just trying to figure out.

Some key topics moments in the episode:

[05:15] How to balance our thoughts & energy

[10:55] Understanding why we do what we do

[16:05] The 20/20/20 daily habit

[24:00] Changing your network

[38:18] Quick fire round of Q&A

I sincerely hope you found this podcast useful and urge you to follow Ajs journey & check out his wonderful podcast.

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"5 reasons you need to start now" #42 by Aren Deu

Tagline: "This episode is aimed at empowering you all to take control of your lives"

So i've been there too. I have had those dreams and goals plastered on my vision board too and never really moved towards obtaining them. I have also used being a 'perfectionist' as an excuse for never really getting started. But throughout you life, you start to then realise that these are all excuses. These are excuses to stop you from achieving or pursuing your goals and dreams.

Now why we do this, boils down to many factors. Some of which could be, fear of success, fear of failure, overwhelm, other peoples opinions etc But the problem with it is, is that they are still excuses. Now I used to think I had the best excuses in the world. In fact i'd even tap myself on the back once or twice and think wow, nice one Aren.

But who were these excuses really for? Because let's be honest, most people do not care (we are that insignificant in the grand scheme of things) and the only person who suffers is you. Your progress!

So anyway, i have listed 5 quick reasons why starting today, right this second is okay. Why it is necessary. Why you need to do it.

Let me also know how you found it and if you have any others to share too. I will share this with the community if it can help them.

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"Adding Value" #41 by Rob Smallbone

Rob Smallbone, is a property entrepreneur, an amazon best-selling author & an advocate for adding value wherever possible. Having been fortunate enough to have created a success in property, Rob has enjoyed travelling which he thanks for changing his perspective. Realising, how lucky we are to have first world problems, Rob speaks of his pursuit of chasing happiness and fulfilment.

Rob also discusses adversity, and speaks of a relationship that he never quite developed that in hindsight taught him one of his biggest lessons in life. Rob is now an advocate for ticking off his bucket list and leaving nothing to chance or for tomorrow.

Someone who has risen from debt, to success in property, from prioritising materialistic things to finding beauty in the smaller things, Rob has gone on a fascinating transformation journey.

I urge you all to follow his journey and let us both know what you thought about this amazing episode!

Key talking points in this episode:

1. The importance of adding value
2. Ticking off your bucket list
3. Why giving is better than receiving
4. Learning from adversity
5. The benefits and beauty of travelling

I sincerely hope after this episode you gain genuine value. Follow myself and Rob on our links below and let us know your thoughts:)

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