Welcome back to Finding Joy in the Hard. I'm your host, Suzanne Andora Barron

 So my thought for you today comes from Letting Go by David Hawkins ─ It's the difference between I won't and I can't. 

Both are based in fear, but he writes, "I won't do something is quite a different feeling than to think that I'm a victim and I can't."

Think about all the times you say, I can't, and how it makes you feel. ─── I'll give you an  example. I can't sing. How many of us have said that? Of course we can sing. Others may not want to be around us when we sing. But, I won't sing.

Because, and then you fill in the blank. ───── You can take this in so many different directions. ─

I won't, gives us choice. 

I can't keeps us stuck. 

My healing tip for you today is to hold the outside of your wrist, the pinky side. This helps calm the nervous system. 

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Welcome back to Finding Joy in the Hard. I'm your host, Suzanne Andora Barron. I'm a yoga instructor, a meditation and mindfulness coach and a Jin Shin Jyutsu practitioner. 

How do you feel about failure? Do you see it as an opportunity to grow and learn or do you get that sick feeling in your stomach that you did something poorly. I get it. I'm definitely the latter. 

In this episode I share with you an excerpt about Sarah Blakely's take on failure that James Clear shared in a recent newsletter. 

And I suggest how we can shift our mindset to see failure as an opportunity. 

My healing tip is to hold the ring finger. Holding the ring finger helps us to build confidence and to let go. 

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Welcome back to Finding Joy in the Hard. I'm your host, Suzanne Andorra Baron. So midweek, I like to offer a thought, a teaching, or an aha. So my, my thought to you today is How does anxiety show up in your life?

This thought is inspired by Cecilia Manila's episode on Anxiety exposed, understanding its tactics and taking back control. (To listen to Cecilia's episode links are below).  Cecilia's podcast is Mental Makeover Radio. You might recognize Cecilia's name if you've been listening to my podcast for a while. She shared the Gifts of Grief in episode 14. 

My question for you is how does anxiety show up in your life? 

Cecilia shares that anxiety shows up in five ways or patterns:

1) Anxiety is a mind reader
2) Anxiety is a fortune teller
3. Anxiety is a record keeper
4) Anxiety is a bully
5) Anxiety is a word master - it uses should statements.

You can listen to Cecilia's episode: Anxiety exposed, understanding its tactics and taking back control. It's definitely worth a listen - if offers so much depth, examples and tactics to support you.  On Apple / On Spotify

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Are your beliefs of what's possible holding you back. 

If so, listen up: You may have heard about a 4th tier football (soccer) team in Sweden—Ostersunds FK—who had little hopes of winning until their coach, Graham Porter, a Brit who never coached a team before noticed that all the teams trained the same, organized the same and played the same. So he mixed things up. In addition to practicing, he had his team step outside of their comfort zone and try something new. He required his players to perform Swan Lake for their community; write a book; stage a rock concert; mentor a team of refugees in Darfur and more.

Can you imagine soccer players performing a ballet? It doesn't seem possible, right?

Not only did they do it, this little known team went from fourth-tier players to first-tier. In 2017, they wont the Swedish Cup and went on to play in the Europa League. Their mindset: "We win every game even if the scoreboard shows differently."

Ostersunds FK accomplished the impossible by changing their mindset.

What can you do by changing your mindset?

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This is a simple practice to help you connect to your courage and calm those feelings of fear. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. 

Simply hold your index finger. If you're new to me and to Jin Shin Jyutsu, it will sound crazy. But each finger calms a different emotion, opens a different part of the body, and connects you mentally, emotionally and physically. 

In this episode, I tell you what else the index finger can help with. Now remember when you practice Jin Shin Jyutsu, you might twitch, hear rumbling in your belly or feel sensation elsewhere in the body. It's your energy pathways beginning to balance. 

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Are living,  really living this precious life that you've been given?  Or are you simply going through the motions?

Do you act without abandon?  Or do you hold back  because of what if?  What if you get hurt?  What if it doesn't work out?

A former podcast guest, Desiree Probolsky, episode 20, whose youngest child has severe autism, is nonverbal and has a significant heart defect, said,  you think the opposite of living is dying,  but it's not. The opposite of living is surviving  because you're no longer present.  You're just going through the motions."  

So you, are you only surviving  waiting for someday?  Are you waiting to figure out what you really want? 

In this episode, I give some tips to find your way back to living this amazing life that you have, no matter the circumstances. 

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Do you obsess about things you've said or done, afraid of what other people will think?

 We think we said or did something dumb that others are still talking about or thinking about days later.  But they're not because they likely worrying about the dumb thing they said or did. 

There is something called the spotlight effect. It means that  we feel like we have the spotlight on us all the time or a significant amount of the time. We think others are paying attention to us way more than they actually are. 

In this episode, I give two ways to help change that thinking and ease that discomfort in the body and mind. 

The healing tip is Jin Shin Jyutsu, a 3000 year old healing practice in which we use our breath and placement of our hands on specific locations on our body to balance mind, body and spirit, ease pain and discomfort, support ourselves emotionally and so much more. 

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I challenge you to go for a 15 minute walk without your phone. Yes that is the stress reducer. The first time I did that this past summer, I felt like something really important was missing. 

Once I could let go of the fact that I didn't have my phone, I felt like I had to do the walk a certain way. I expected to have huge insights which I wasn't getting in the beginning. So then I convinced myself that I was doing something wrong. 

In time, and it wasn't that much time, I felt the ease of being disconnected. The ease of simply marveling at the trees, flowers, people etc.  

It's so powerful. Give it a try. You'll never know what you discover. 

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Do you notice how you talk to yourself?  I did a newsletter post about this the other day, so if you receive my newsletter, it'll be familiar to you.

I often tell my yoga students that if others spoke to you how you speak to yourself, you wouldn't be friends with them.  You know, I remember when my kids were little and one time I called myself an idiot and my younger son said, "Mommy, please don't say means mean things to yourself."  But we say those things all the time.

In this episode, I share with you tips on how to start speaking kindly to yourself.   

My healing tip to calm fear and ease tooth pain is to hold your index finger. Listen to learn more. 

Over the next 30 days, I am going to release  a short episode daily. I'm making it super easy for myself by not including the intro, the outro or the music. 

My goal is to break through my perfectionist tendencies and share with you great content to help you shift your mindset, to see your potential and to find more ease in your day. 

The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Welcome back to finding Joy in the Hard.  Over the next 30 days, I am going to release   a short episode daily. I'm making it super easy for myself by not including the intro, the outro or the music. 

My goal is to break through my perfectionist tendencies and share with you great content to help you shift your mindset, to see your potential and to find more ease in your day. 

This episode was recorded in my car driving to school where I teach Yoga for Stress Management. The perfectionist in me would have re-recorded it because the sound isn't great. But the message is. So I'm sharing it and hopefully something about it will resonate with you. 

The healing tip is to hold your thumb and breathe. This helps to reduce anxiety, obsession, pre-occupation and calm your mind. 

Have a beautiful day. Until tomorrow. 

The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions.