Ever seen that Snickers Ad - "I'm not myself when I'm hungry"?  Today we introduce a marriage tip called Filters that has been of immense benefit to myself.  To add a living example I introduce one of my coaching clients, Jim, who has applied this to his marriage.

I love to help guys walk away from porn toward a fuller richer live.

If you are looking for some free resources go to the website bandofbrothers.care and click on the Free stuff tab.

To contact me, Vern, you can email me at [email protected]

What if you could write a letter to the younger version of yourself?  What would you say?  In this episode Vern introduces the idea of writng a letter to the future you - towards a specific recovery application.


If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is [email protected]

We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life!


If you are looking for some free resources as well as information on the 52 week video course "Finding Traction" you can check out the website

https://bandofbrothers.care

Remember what it's like to walk out of the final exam of your degree or finish a project you have been working on for years?  Today Vern shares is sense of accomplishment regarding a recovery project he has been laboring over for the last few years.


If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is [email protected]

We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life!


If you are looking for some free resources as well as information on the 52 week video course "Finding Traction" you can check out the website

https://bandofbrothers.care

Many guys express that they have noticed that their acting out tends to be cyclical and regular.  They often feel that they come up to a wall that they cannot get over in terms of days clean.  in this episode Vern talks about how to ovecome these embedded walls that have tripped us up.


If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is [email protected]

We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life!


If you are looking for some free resources as well as information on the 52 week video course "Finding Traction" you can check out the website

https://bandofbrothers.care

Most peoople who struggle with porn actually believe some version of the mistaken belief "I'll die without sex"  In this episode Vern explores how that belief may be closer to home than you care to admit.

If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is [email protected]

We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life!


If you are looking for some free resources as well as information on the 52 week video course "Finding Traction" you can check out the website

https://bandofbrothers.care

In this episode Vern shares a useful tool to be more strategic in how you handle this coming summer.  If you want a copy of this weekly planning tool - as well as a number of other helpful resources  you can access this by joining the bandofbrothers.care learning community.

Create an account using the following link.  If privacy is of concern to you, feel free to use an alias or just your initials...   If you are using a mobile device you will first need to download the circle app - (white C on blue backround)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

One of the biggest strategic challenges in our recovery is dealing with the many transitions we face.  In this episode I look at the challenges of these transitions - both big and small.


If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is [email protected]

We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life!


If you are looking for some free resources as well as informatin on the finding traction podcast you can check out the website

https://bandofbrothers.care

Do you ever feel like the enemy is seeking to push past your borders and take ground that should be rightfully yours.  Today we use the example of the war in Ukraine as an example of the steps we need to take to regain lost territory in our life.

If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is [email protected]

We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life!


If you are looking for some free resources as well as informatin on the finding traction podcast you can check out the website

https://bandofbrothers.care

My favorite recovery practise is actually an ancient spiritual practise that helps me throughout the day ... it actually was best taught by a Catholic dishwasher hundreds of years ago - take a listen...


If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is [email protected]

We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life!


If you are looking for some free resources as well as informatin on the finding traction podcast you can check out the website

https://bandofbrothers.care

When most of us started recovery we thought we needed to just tweak a few things so that stopped our problematic porn patterns.  What we soon find, however, is that recovery is a window into the disfynctional way we have been doing our lives and a springboard into a whole new set into new life patterns!

If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is [email protected]

We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life!


If you are looking for some free resources as well as informatin on the finding traction podcast you can check out the website

https://bandofbrothers.care