Fire Up Your Moxie with Debra Trappen

This week’s topic is “Nurturing Your Self-Talk”!

Before we dig in, Molly leads us in a guided breathing session 

During our talk, Debra shares some shocking self-talk stats and offers a free guide to help design your own custom affirmations: debratrappen.com/affirmation-guide

As we end, Molly leads us this guided meditation:

Want to watch the replay over on Facebook?

https://www.facebook.com/d11fireup/videos/253547585685878

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What is Spill the Tea?

One of the many fun collaborations between Molly McKinley and Debra Trappen!

Molly is the CEO of Intentionaliteas and host of the Afternoon Tea podcast, so in honor of our shared love of tea – pull out your sassiest teacup, brew your favorite tea blend, snuggle into your coziest spot and listen in on this hour of togetherness.

Get ready to hear us sharing ideas to, best practices around, and (of course) highlighting our favorite people, brands, and initiatives positively serving humanity and sprinkling JOY over their slice of the galaxy!

It is our heart’s desire to provide a lens for focus, a place to uncover the opportunities that abound. and create a moment to embrace grace and gratitude as we celebrate the beauty that is swirling around us. 

Let’s all go forth and lead with love, trust, and faith.  

Learn more about MoxieOnFire.com – one of our other exciting collaborations!

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She is a native of East Texas for over 30 years who graduated from LeTourneau University with a degree in Business Administration. She has been a licensed Realtor since 2007 and obtained her Broker’s License in March of 2016. 

In her spare time, she enjoys volunteering, mentoring, and giving back to her community. 

During our chat, we talk about the power of connecting with other women, how important mentoring is, and how she is learning to ask for what she needs.

Without further ado, here is Cherika!

When you are at peace with the efforts you put forward and the obstacles you overcome in order to live out your passion.

Driven, Determined, Loyal. 

Driven describes me because I don’t wait for things to happen in my business, I work hard to make them happen because I am passionate about what I do. I am determined because I aim to succeed in a field where people don’t make me feel I belong maybe because I don’t fit the description of what their idea of what a successful Realtor/Broker looks like. I am loyal to my family and my friends. I am a big cheerleader for all things dealing with my family and friends. 

Get outside of your comfort zone. The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek

Growing up, kids would call me ugly, so for years I was afraid to look in the mirror at myself. If I passed a mirror, I could not look in it, especially in public.

NETWORK! NETWORK! NETWORK!

In this business, I understand the importance of videos for marketing and I would like to get in the habit of doing videos for marketing. (The reason I probably can’t get in the habit just yet, lies in the answer to question #4)

Being told “NO” or told you can’t, but you do what it takes to do it anyway, and in heels!

The perfect day for me is any time spent with my husband and family doing what we want to do. I have a son playing college baseball, and my youngest son does theatre locally, so when I’m attending whatever event they love doing or playing, I am in my happy place!

Connections! Since comfort zone is two words and I couldn’t use it, Connections is something I need to make more of while I’m outside of my comfort zone. Last month, I met so many new connections at the Woman UP! conference who have reached out to me since I have been home, and have given me advise I wouldn’t have considered had I not met them. I never knew the importance of connecting with other Realtors because no one had mentored me to tell the importance of doing things like joining Realtor affiliate organizations. I have since joined WCR since attending that conference and hearing from the ladies at the conference how important it is!

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This week’s topic is “Working From Home With Your Partner/Spouse”!

We share breathing techniques and cover these 5 points and more:

Name and embrace the change. Ask for what you need… don’t expect your partner to read your mind. Darlings, this isn’t going to be easy and there is no way to get around it.

Being together now 24/7 can be very disruptive to one of both of you.

My best advice: Create separate workspaces. Make sure your partner knows exactly when it’s OK to enter that space and when it’s not.  In my home, it is as easy as 1-2-3.

OPEN DOOR: Come on in, ask me anything, anytime.

CLOSED DOOR:  Please don’t disturb me, but IF IT CAN’T WAIT, knock on my door, wait for my welcome in, and then ask/share efficiently and clearly. 

FLASHING CUBE: Signals I am recording or on a call and can’t be disturbed. Knock on this door and I will be upset – unless it is an emergency and the house is on fire.

This helps everyone with engagement expectations and created something for the super social spouse to look forward to each day!

Please do not depend on one person for everything you need. 

If you haven’t already, start to schedule video chats with others. 

Extroverts, please hear me/us – if you live with an introvert, please tread lightly here. Especially if they have been working from your home solo before the SIP.

Any relationship, no matter how solid, can be strained if you’re spending all day every day together under one roof. 

We are HUMAN. We need grace.  Give it to yourself if you get sassy with your partner, to your partner if they get snarky with you, and shower each other if one of you has the BLG’s . (Bored, lonely, grumpy’s)

Recognize your triggers.

Define ways to have fun together while you are SAFE AT HOME TOGETHER. 

You’re in this together and giving each other grace along the way is how all of us will get to the other side.

Pretend your boss or God is standing in the room with you. Seriously. This really helps you treat each other with a higher level of respect during this tenaciously trying times.

How are you surviving and thriving in this season together?

Want to watch the replay over on Facebook?

https://www.facebook.com/d11fireup/videos/876663862795931

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What is Spill the Tea?

One of the many fun collaborations between Molly McKinley and Debra Trappen!

Molly is the CEO of Intentionaliteas and host of the Afternoon Tea podcast, so in honor of our shared love of tea – pull out your sassiest teacup, brew your favorite tea blend, snuggle into your coziest spot and listen in on this hour of togetherness.

Get ready to hear us sharing ideas to, best practices around, and (of course) highlighting our favorite people, brands, and initiatives positively serving humanity and sprinkling JOY over their slice of the galaxy!

It is our heart’s desire to provide a lens for focus, a place to uncover the opportunities that abound. and create a moment to embrace grace and gratitude as we celebrate the beauty that is swirling around us. 

Let’s all go forth and lead with love, trust, and faith.  

Learn more about MoxieOnFire.com – one of our other exciting collaborations!

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She is one of my all-time favorite fierce, fascinating fiery redheads!  We have gotten to know each other the last few years and I am so fired up for you all to meet her!

Tami is the CEO of EXIT Realty. She is an internationally renowned leader in the real estate industry!

Tami has been a featured speaker at the NATIONAL ASSOCIATION OF REALTOR’S® convention, National Women’s Council of REALTORS®, Inman News Connect Conference and the RIS Media’s Leadership Conference to name a handful… and has shared her vision at WomanUP! Events online and in person.  She truly creates ripples of change with each keynote talk!!

She is a wife, mother of three and grandmother of three. In her spare time, she is a martial artist, coach, and referee.

During our chat, we talk about uncovering your True North, how focusing on the feelings you want is so important, and how taking 120 seconds to do this every morning will change your life.

Without further ado, here is Tami.

xxoo

I feel successful when I impact people in a positive way 

Disciplined.

Compassionate.

Authentic.

Do more than what’s asked of you 

I am a homebody

You don’t have to see the whole picture, just keep going forward

Meditation

John F Kennedy, Martin Luther King, and my Mom, ( she passed very young)

Having the courage to be true to yourself!

Being home with my family, by the fire, playing a game or just connecting

Impact: I want to have a positive impact on everyone I touch.

Oh, Tami. You do, my friend.  YOU DO!

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Join Molly McKinley + me for conversations about being intentional and confident in uncertain times and beyond!

Distractions are inevitable with everyone in the house together… In this chat, we share our favorite ways to find our focus while working from home. Molly shares breathing and meditation techniques you can use to bounce back from distraction, I share an app to help with focus and another one I use to see the constellations… and so much more.

You can watch the replay and see all of the extra links and chatter in the comments. Grab your tea and click the image below!

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What is Spill the Tea?

One of the many fun collaborations between Molly McKinley and Debra Trappen!

Molly is the CEO of Intentionaliteas and host of the Afternoon Tea podcast, so in honor of our shared love of tea – pull out your sassiest teacup, brew your favorite tea blend, snuggle into your coziest spot and listen in on this hour of togetherness.

Get ready to hear us sharing ideas to, best practices around, and (of course) highlighting our favorite people, brands, and initiatives positively serving humanity and sprinkling JOY over their slice of the galaxy!

It is our heart’s desire to provide a lens for focus, a place to uncover the opportunities that abound. and create a moment to embrace grace and gratitude as we celebrate the beauty that is swirling around us. 

Let’s all go forth and lead with love, trust, and faith.  

Learn more about MoxieOnFire.com – one of our other exciting collaborations!

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Today’s episode contains a special #MoxieAffirmation for this time of sheltering in place with our beloveds during the Covid-19 pandemic.

Are you ready? Repeat after me:

I intentionally bring and breathe life into every room I enter.

Friends, I believe it is always the season to embrace faith, gratitude, and hope.

And right now, more than ever – we need to embrace all of it boldly and bravely.

There is a feeling of uncertainty in the air inspiring us to slip into fear, worry, and anxiety… let’s feel those feeling and promise each other we won’t stay in them.

Instead, let’s encourage each other to slip into other things like into our cozy slippers, and comfy pj’s. Let’s hop on video chats to sip hot tea or divine wine together… snuggled on our couches or cuddled by our fires to reflect upon all we are grateful for in our lives – right now.

There is ALWAYS something to be grateful for – in every single season.

Today, I want to share some ways to take care of yourself and keep your soultank full while you do your best to remain calm in the chaos of uncertainty.

Who are you talking to or texting with every day? Are they focused on doom and gloom or sharing best practices for thriving in this uncertain season? Do they honor or share your values and support you in your values-aligned decisions?

What are you reading and listening to every day?  Are you focused on only reading the news or your manic, uncontrollable social media feed?

Your feelings are manifested and nurtured in your environment. If you want to feel more focused, more passionate, and more driven, or more grateful, more positive… surround yourself with conversations, quotes, podcasts, and books that inspire those feelings.

You’re here with me, so we are connected – that means you’re getting a weekly shot of positivity and moxie. Do some binging of the weekly affirmation podcasts… those are sure to shift your mindset! 

How about other podcasts you’re listening to?

A few not on that list yet:

Super Soul Conversations w/ Oprah

Free Cookies w/ Kate Fagan and Kathryn Budig

If you have a fave, let me know in the comments below!

Books I am currently reading, listening to, or have recently finished:

Untamed by Glennon Doyle

2021 update:

Slow down.

Right now, release the need to plan or control every minute.

Let the pillow and blanket forts stay up overnight…all week long.

Let it go. Let it go.

If YOU need an organized space for your sanity – rally your family and tell them what you need. Don’t expect them to read your mind. Ask them to help you keep your shared living spaces tidy and give everyone (who can walk while carrying one) a box or laundry basket to collect their things before bed and then don’t worry about their rooms being perfectly tidy – for now.

Also, put down your phone and experience life.  Not everything needs to be recorded – especially not all of the bed heads that haven’t showered for a few days during the quarantine! Well, a few pics of those won’t hurt anyone and they will make great shots for the wedding slideshows in the future. 

If you haven’t taken the time – please take a moment to identify and manage YOUR stress points.

Is there constant news playing on your TV or Alexa? 

Consider implementing the NewsSquad idea I shared in the last podcast. 

Are you impacted by all of the NOISE in your home all day?

Create quiet time sessions and a reward system to say thank you when they keep it to a low roar. This Nurture and Thrive blog post shares great ideas on how and why to start quiet time in your home!

Are you exhausted by making ALL of the meals?

Again, ask for help. Tell people what you need. Set new standards.

Consider sitting down with your family and/or quarantine partners and discussing these questions:

Also, think about having a place (a shelf, a basket, a drawer) where HEALTHY snacks are easily accessible and kids can grab and go without asking you! Also, make a rewards drawer, too. A place you can send them for a treat when they rocked an assignment or picked up their mess. It could be their favorite foods, coupons that allow them to choose the next movie, be the next leader of the family walk, extra screen time, stay up late, choose dinner, spend time alone with you, pick the next game for game night, and so on.

Give each other grace. Now is the time for rewarding the behavior you WANT TO SEE, not punishing the naughtiness.  You are stressed with the perspective that this too shall pass. Kiddos are stressed out AND they don’t have the perspective you have on what is happening… keep this in mind when you get frustrated.

One of my favorite collaboration partners and Lioness sister, Molly McKinley, shared a couple of amazing breathing techniques in our FB Live “Spill the Tea” episode on March 25th.  Head to 29:00 in and breathe with us! If we aren’t connected on FB yet – here is the link:

https://www.facebook.com/debra11/videos/10159299341793765/

Breathing helps you slow down your mind and calm your nerves.

If you have a hard time slowing down your mind, try this fun technique. 

Kick-off those cozy slippers and start wiggling your toes – really concentrating on scrunching them up, moving your big toe only, etc…  

When you do this – you don’t think about anything else. 

Try it… it is an awesome way to slow your mind down and BE in the moment.

(Are you trying it right now, too?)

Do this with your kiddos… and get ready to hear the cutest giggles! :)

Oh… and now that those slippers are off – how about painting those cute piggies a fun new color?

Spreading joy is free. 

A few things to consider:

I would love to hear how you are bringing and breathing life into your rooms and sprinkling gratitude and moxie-filled glitter wherever you “safely” go. 

xxoo,

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Join Molly McKinley + me for conversations about being intentional and confident in uncertain times and beyond!

In this chat, we talk about how we are finding ways to identify and manage stress points, create new routines that bring us joy, Molly teaches us how to breathe again, and so much more!

What is Spill the Tea?

One of the many fun collaborations between Molly McKinley and Debra Trappen!

Molly is the CEO of Intentionaliteas and host of the Afternoon Tea podcast, so in honor of our shared love of tea – pull out your sassiest teacup, brew your favorite tea blend, snuggle into your coziest spot and listen in on this hour of togetherness.

Get ready to hear us sharing ideas to, best practices around, and (of course) highlighting our favorite people, brands, and initiatives positively serving humanity and sprinkling JOY over their slice of the galaxy!

It is our heart’s desire to provide a lens for focus, a place to uncover the opportunities that abound. and create a moment to embrace grace and gratitude as we celebrate the beauty that is swirling around us. 

Let’s all go forth and lead with love, trust, and faith.  

Learn more about MoxieOnFire.com – one of our other exciting collaborations!

The post Spill the Tea: Reducing Stress + Relearning To Breathe appeared first on Debra Trappen.

Join Molly McKinley + me for conversations about being intentional and confident in uncertain times and beyond!

In this chat, we talk about all of the content we are seeing being created.

1. What are the favorite things you’ve seen so far?

2. What are you seeing that you will continue to do –  long after this is over?

~Virtual dinners with family? Online happy hours? 

~ What part of your business are you happy to be doing virtually?

What is Spill the Tea?

One of the many fun collaborations between Molly McKinley and Debra Trappen!

Molly is the CEO of Intentionaliteas and host of the Afternoon Tea podcast, so in honor of our shared love of tea – pull out your sassiest teacup, brew your favorite tea blend, snuggle into your coziest spot and listen in on this hour of togetherness.

Get ready to hear us sharing ideas to, best practices around, and (of course) highlighting our favorite people, brands, and initiatives positively serving humanity and sprinkling JOY over their slice of the galaxy!

It is our heart’s desire to provide a lens for focus, a place to uncover the opportunities that abound. and create a moment to embrace grace and gratitude as we celebrate the beauty that is swirling around us. 

Let’s all go forth and lead with love, trust, and faith.  

Learn more about MoxieOnFire.com – one of our other exciting collaborations!

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Join Molly McKinley + me for a conversation about being intentional and confident in uncertain times and beyond!

Questions we cover in this episode:

1: What are we doing to lower stress and anxiety right now?

2: There is so much focus on negativity! What are ways to focus on the positives? What are the positives?

3: Let’s talk about content! What are we consuming, creating and repurposing -and how?

4: How do we put our podcasts together?

Molly is the CEO of Intentionaliteas and host of the Afternoon Tea podcast, so in honor of our shared love of tea – pull out your sassiest teacup, brew your favorite tea blend, snuggle into your coziest spot and listen in on this hour of togetherness.

Get ready to hear us sharing ideas to, best practices around, and (of course) highlighting our favorite people, brands, and initiatives positively serving humanity and sprinkling JOY over their slice of the galaxy!

It is our heart’s desire to provide a lens for focus, a place to uncover the opportunities that abound. and create a moment to embrace grace and gratitude as we celebrate the beauty that is swirling around us. 

Let’s all go forth and lead with love, trust, and faith.  

Don’t miss the comments and links we shared over on the Facebook post!

https://www.facebook.com/debra11/videos/10159294654608765/

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Hello, Friend. 

How are you?

I want to talk about something with you. I have been getting ooooooodles of calls and notes sharing how hard it is to stay positive right now.  Watching everything happening in our world and not giving in to the fear is an ART FORM. It is hard to separate fact from fluff… I get it. Not to mention the new set of questions in my life that inadvertently plant seeds of fear – if I let them.

Am I scared of living in the vortex of the virus? (I am 5 miles from Kirkland, WA!)

Am I practicing “social distancing”? 

How am I dealing with having to postpone the WomanUP! event in Boston next week? 

And a multitude of bizarre questions around…

Yes. These are just some of the new conversations starters that seem to be on repeat these days for me.  I’m not going to pretend that I have not experienced moments of worry or concern or fear. I do. It’s natural.

Like these friends, you may be looking for tips and resources on how to pull yourself out of the fear-filled thoughts swirling around in your head.  I want to share what happens when I get those questions and encourage you to do the same.

I start by answering each question as best I can and then, in true moxie style, I flip the conversation to what I have gained and what I am looking forward to – in this season. Do you see what I see on this list?

1. Time to rest.

2. Time to breathe deeply, stretch longer, and meditate more.

3. Time to honor my 2020 word: PERSPECTIVE

4. Time to heal after the loss of my loving furball companion, Niko.

5. Time to take more walks with my husband and our sweet Lizzie pup.

6. Time to write and edit and refine my next book.

7. Time to unpack my travel kits and organize them.

8. Time to unpack my suitcase and give it a well-earned time out.

9. Time to listen to all of those Audible books in my queue!

10. Time to talk on the phone with family and friends.

11. Time to BE STILL.

Please take this time to slow down, reconnect with your family, call or FaceTime your friends and have afternoon tea or wine and catch up, learn to meditate longer, start that workout program you have been putting off, give yourself a facial at home – and get your spouse and kiddos involved – heck, make it a spa night! 

Lioness, simply take the time to sit and drink an entire cup of coffee without having to heat it up because you got lost in work again… can I hear an AMEN?!

What does YOUR list look like?

Friend, I also want to share  five fun ideas that will bring joy to you, your family, and your community:

1: Support Your Local Businesses

If you are not going out to eat right now, still buy gift certificates from your favorite local restaurants. You can order them online or call to buy one to use later. This will help them so much right now AND you have a fantastic future date night in your future.  Many of them have also added a “drive-thru” option where you don’t even need to go inside to get your meal. 

You can also go online and purchase those cooking or yoga classes you have been dreaming of, the belly-dancing class you have always wanted to sign up for, or the pole class JLo inspired you to try during the SuperBowl half-time show!  

What are your ideas here? Please share them in the comments below.

ps.

2: Morning Walks and Game Nights

What are you doing with the daily “commute + prep time” you usually invest?

Are you letting work swallow up those hours? 

If so, please consider slowing down to insert self-care and family time instead.

Instead of missing the hustle, embrace the space.  Instead of looking at what you’re missing at work, reconnect with your kiddos.

I encourage you to replace your normal daily ”commute and prep time” with a fun nature walk with your family! Grab your cameras or mobile devices and head out for a photo tour in your neighborhood. Seeing the beauty in the blossoms of SPRING in the daylight or hearing the frogs at night will bring peace into your home and help quell the fear and anxiety.

Turn your evening commute time into GAME NIGHT TIME! Laughter heals fear.

Two of my current favorites:

Salad Bowl – thank you, Vanessa Bergmark! I have not laughed that hard in a LONG time!

Heads Up! by Ellen (you can use your phone or iPad for this one!)

What are your favorite games? Drop them in the comments!

3: STOP the Non-Stop Listening to the News (you know who you are!) 

Create a #NewsSquad of 7 people. You can each take ONE DAY a week and report back any major news to the group, as needed. Cutting the constant fear-mongering, market-tanking, pandemic-filled news out of your home at least 6 days a week will do you all good!  You already feel better thinking about doing this, don’t you? *wink*

4: Check-in on Your Senior Neighbors

Call them up and ask them if they need anything. If you go grocery shopping for them – wipe it all down and leave it on their doorstep. Mow their lawns. Water their plants. Love on them.  They are scared and need to know someone is looking out for them. 

5: Embrace Gratitude, Not Panic

Take action and focus on what you can control.

Celebrate what you do have, not what you are afraid might be taken from you.

Taking time each day to embrace what you are THANKFUL FOR is an excellent way to shift the fear-filled energy in your life.   If you have always wanted to take the time to create a gratitude jar, start a gratitude journal, or take a gratitude challenge – now is the time. This is another awesome way to invest the time you would normally be traveling to and from work! Doesn’t turning that into gratitude and self-care time sound DIVINE?

My friend, I pray you don’t choose to live in fear. 

Let now be the time we collectively open our eyes and our hearts and live out loud what our spirit has always known… we are in this together. Take the time to uncover the lessons in each moment, live and engage with a compassionate heart, and safely support your community right now. These actions will help us all heal from this and thrive on the other side.

Yes, we are all in this together. Whether you are healthy, carrying the virus, have experienced symptoms, are in the hospital, or have lost a loved one – we are all connected and in this together.

Whether you believe there is a pandemic or not, we are all in this together.

Everything we do right now is for our own health AND the physical and mental health of others around us.

Let me repeat that.

Everything we do right now is for our own health AND the physical and mental health of others around us.

Friend, there is nothing weak or pathetic about staying home and hunkering down with your family right now. 

Work from home.

…and remember, taking time each day to embrace what you are thankful for is an excellent way to shift the fear-filled energy in your life.

Sending prayers, love, and moxie-filled light your way.

xxoo,

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