Fire Up Your Moxie with Debra Trappen

This week’s affirmation is about flourishing with focus.

Are you ready? Repeat after me:

What I focus on flourishes.

Finding your focus when you are defining and refining your very best life can feel overwhelming, I get it. I battle this, too, Lioness.

It is easy to get overwhelmed by it all and think you have to magically morph into a magnificent, magnetic multitasking machine! (Wow! Say that 11 times fast!)

Let’s try something together.

1: Take a deep breath, cleansing breath… in for 4 seconds.

As you repeat this process, make yourself a promise to stop multitasking and living a hurried, harried life…. In this hustle and hurried world.

Centering and focusing your thoughts takes time. Building a life and business that makes you joyfully leap out of bed is something so many of us seek… and that takes time, too. This entire process has many luscious layers, including slowing down, finding your focus, and serving those around you with a joyful heart.

Start this week by encouraging yourself to center your thoughts on others and focus on the best and highest for each person you encounter.

Smile at each person you meet… use your eyes, too – regardless of if. you have a mask on right now.

Who and what are you going to focus on in the next season?

Lioness, make each choice count… and, as always, choose wisely.

xxoo,

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Hooray!

This is part two of my moxie chat with Valerie Alexander. If you didn’t catch our first chat, be sure to hop on over there first, hear her full bio and our “part one” conversation.

Valerie is a tech CEO, author, publisher, screenwriter, wife, German Shepard Mama, and – the role we will focus on today – A SPEAKER!

Pour yourself a cup of one of my dearest Lioness sister’s Intentionaliteas and settle in to listen to her fierce, fiery soultank filling wisdom flows on in this continuation.

During this chat, we dig into what it is like being a female on the male-dominated speaking circuit, how to pick topics, where we find business, and she slays the rapid-fire questions at the end!

Here is part 2 of my Moxie Chat with Valerie Alexander… 

Enjoy my friends!

xxoo

1: When did you know you wanted to be a speaker?

2: How did you start?

3: How did you choose your first talk topic?

4: Where do you find most of your business?

5: What’s your favorite topic to present?

6: What advice do you have for women considering getting into speaking?

7: What is your dream stage?

8: What’s next for you?

Listen in to hear her RAPID FIRE answers! :)

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This week’s affirmation is about glitter and gratitude.

Are you ready? Repeat after me:

I breathe life into every room I enter and

I believe it is always the season to embrace an attitude of gratitude, but there is something special about the weeks leading up to and into the Holidays.  There is a feeling in the air inspiring us to slip into our cozy slippers, sip hot cocoa or pour bolder reds in our stems, and cuddle by the fire to reflect upon all we are grateful for in our lives..

Here are three ways to help you ignite, inspire, and infuse a grateful spirit – every single day:

1. Surround Yourself With Positive Words 

What are you reading and listening to every day?  

Are you focused on only reading the news or your manic, uncontrollable social media feed?

Your feelings of gratitude are manifested in your environment. If you want to feel more focused, more passionate, and more driven, or more grateful, surround yourself with quotes, podcasts, and books that inspire those feelings.

You’re here, so you’re getting a weekly shot of moxie. 

To help get you started, you can find over a dozen of my favorite podcasts by Lionesses in our community: debratrappen.com/fave-lioness-podcasts

2. Be Present.

Slow down.

Ditch the senseless hustle mantras and soak in life.

Stop planning your life all the time and start living it.

Put down your phone and experience life.  Not everything needs to be recorded.

I read somewhere that when you wiggle your toes – really concentrating on scrunching them up, moving your big toe only, etc… you don’t think about anything else. 

Try it… it is an awesome way to slow your mind down and BE in the moment.

(Are you trying it right now, too?)

3. Say THANK YOU more often.

Lioness, gratitude is a conscious decision. 

You have to practice it consistently. 

Speak it out loud. 

Write it in a thank you note. 

Pop on Facebook and post a gratitude note on a friend’s wall.

SPREAD THANKFULNESS!

Also, take this for a spin and consider switching out the tired “I’m sorry I’m late…” to

Lioness, I would love to hear how you sprinkle gratitude and moxie-filled glitter wherever I go.  Share this episode on your fave social channel and tag me – @debra11!

xxoo,

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In today’s episode, I am talking with a fierce, feisty, and fabulous woman, Sabrina Brown.

Sabrina has been a REALTOR for over 12 years. She currently serves as 2019 District Vice President for The Women’s Council of Realtors California and will be the 2020 State Treasurer! Go Sabrina!

Early in her career, she served as a mentor for new agents at one of the larger brokerages in Fresno where she discovered her passion for helping new agents to become successful Realtors. This passion led Sabrina to open Brown and Brown Real Estate, a boutique brokerage geared towards empowering and engaging newly licensed agents… and it is also one of the many reasons she is one of our WomanUP! WaveMakers, as well

In addition to her passion for helping others achieve their goals, she also loves contributing to her community and spending time with her six children and supportive husband.

During our chat we talk about her passion for real estate, her love of teaching, her affinity for something that MOST PEOPLE are scared to death of… and, of course, she shares her fabulous definition of MOXIE!

Ready to meet Sabrina?

Here we go!

I define success as being able to do what I love to do on a daily basis with people that I enjoy working with.

Positive, Upbeat and Driven

I believe is to short to dwell on the negative.

I believe that what you put out is what the universe gives back to you.

I believe if you want something you need to make sure your actions reflect what you want to achieve.

Don’t overthink it. Just do it.

I love reptiles! (Oh my goodness – wait until you hear this story!!)

Start sooner..Follow your dreams

Self-care.

I make a difference by ensuring that their best interests are in the forefront of my business.

Moxie means being my true self and shining bright

My perfect day would be time with my family…handing out keys and spending time with the agents in my office planning world domination.

Determined.

I am determined to conquer my fears, to reach my goals, form great relationships, to give back, and to grow personally and professionally!

Listen in to hear her RAPID FIRE answers! :)

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This week’s affirmation is about how truly worthy you are!

Are you ready? Repeat after me:

I consult with magnificent leaders every single day.

Some run small, mighty companies, others lead Fortune 500’s, but they all have one thing in common. Every one of them, at some point, asks me “Was that (answer, email, video, post, etc) good enough?”

No matter who they are or what their experience has been – imposter syndrome sneaks in and they ask if their work/response was good enough.

They wonder if they worthy of being at the table or even in the room!

I ask them a series of questions (I know, shocking) to get them to answer their own questions and see their greatness.

This week, I want you to explore one of them:

Do you believe you possess the knowledge and experience you need to be at the table?

In other words, do you have the knowledge and experience you need to do the job you are doing that earned you the seat at the table where you now sit?

If you are unsure and stuck, try this:

Write out the training, education, and certifications you have earned, books you have read, podcasts you listen to, mentors you meet with to sharpen your skill, problems you have solved, people you have mentored, etc. – so you can SEE IT ALL.

It’s mind-blowing for most people. We underestimate ourselves, our knowledge, our experience, and our connections.

Remembering all you have accomplished will help you see, you EARNED your place at that table.

Yes, when you are at the table – you deserve to be at the table and most definitely in the room!

For those instances you STILL feel you lack knowledge or experience – do something about it.

Take a class.

Now, kick that imposter syndrome to the curb… be bold, speak up and share your magnificent self with the others (thinking the same thing) at the table with you.

xxoo,

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Today’s guest, Deidre Woollard, is here to share her fierce, fiery soultank filling wisdom.

UPDATE! Deidre has a new bio!!

Deidre is the co-founder of Lion & Orb, a real estate public relations company. Previously she was part of the marketing team at realtor.com, publicist at Rodeo Realty, and head of communications for Partners Trust in Los Angeles. 

To shake things up, I am adding in her Twitter Bio – don’t you love those? She describes herself with these 130 characters: Email addict, magazine aficionado, and word nerd focused on real estate and investing. RE editor at https://inside.com/real-estate

During our chat with talk about the power of empathy, PR and leveraging HARO… and she drops some serious wisdom around OWNING and BELIEVING your own story!

Are you ready to meet her? Let’s do this!

Success is about delivering the goods. Success is when I help a client achieve their public relations goals. Success is when I write an article that makes someone think or inspires them or exposes them to something they wouldn’t have found otherwise.   

Writer — Writing is the primary way I’ve always communicated with the world

The leader of my MFA program, author Sena Jeter Naslund always said to her students that their competition wasn’t in the room with them, it was in the library. I believe we don’t compete against each other, we compete against a standard of excellence.   

I had a side gig as an astrologer in my 20s and still believe in the birth chart as a way to gain insights into personal development       

Be clear about your worth and what you bring to the table.        

Getting on the phone with people and not relying on email 

I help agents better define what is special about them and their listings

Moxie is having the confidence and spirit to step outside of what is traditionally expected.  

My perfect day would involve a mix of both solitude and togetherness. It would include a workout, a walk in nature, a great meal with friends and my husband and time to read and write.        

Confidence — I’m a warrior for clients but I’m learning to be a warrior for myself. 

Listen in to hear her RAPID FIRE answers! :)

Want to get in touch with Deidre?

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This week’s affirmation is about the importance of embracing self-care.

Are you ready? Repeat after me:

Self-care is strategic, not selfish.

Last week, I shared some of my amazing adventures in Minnesota with my bestie, our hubbies, and their kiddos… and how I focused on soaking it all in while we were there.

What I didn’t share was that I was beyond stressed before that trip. BIG STRESSED. The signs I needed a break were EVERYWHERE. I was having a hard time sleeping. My fuse was short. I was being a martyr… avoiding things, I loved doing and working instead. The simplest of requests were irritating me. My smiles and solid advice were being replaced by obnoxious eye rolls and snappy retorts like – WHAT! (mostly inside my head, but STILL!). Even though I knew time away was so needed – I was feeling guilty about it.

Does this sound familiar?

Lioness, the cranky pants I describe during my keynote talks about firing up your moxie, was staring back at me in the mirror. If it weren’t for my morning devotion time and evening yoga practice – I am sure there would have been heads rolling somewhere!

While away, I was still fighting thoughts like: I am falling short, letting someone down, taking too much time away, or a spicy combo of the myriad of other thoughts that resemble these. They came and went quickly, but the sting of each thought lingered. That part really irritated me. My brilliant, bold brain knew I needed the time away, so why couldn’t the rest of me simply fall in line and enjoy each moment? My self-talk was filled with –> I KNOW BETTER.

Half-way through my trip, I was sitting by the fireplace, sipping a mug of hot cider, when that Still Small Voice whispered in my ear. These are the words I scribbled down in that very moment:

It’s time to embrace self-care.

That last line struck me.

It is so beautifully Biblical… Matthew 6:34 has been telling me to “let tomorrow worry about itself” my ENTIRE LIFE. At that moment, I finally let it go. I felt a shift inside me that created true space for reveling in the moments and enjoying my quiet time ahead – like never before.

I know there is more to learn about truly slowing down and sweetly serving myself. As I look through all of the photos I snapped during this adventure it is clear this trip truly helped me level UP those skills and for that, I am eternally grateful.

Today, my heart’s desire is to encourage you to embrace your downtime.

Revel in each moment. Soak it in.

My dearest, YOU are in control of how full or empty your tank is and when it is refilled.

Want to fire up your soultank time?

I PAINTED PUMPKINS.

Now, it’s your turn, Lioness.

xxoo,

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Today’s guest, Alissa Harper, is here to share her fierce, fiery soultank filling wisdom with you.

Let me tell you a bit about her:

Alissa is a real estate tech industry vet with over 15 years’ experience, including 3 acquisitions, at some of the fastest-growing tech companies in the space. With roots in residential real estate and a passion for driving growth through strategic partnerships, Alissa has helped create and execute enterprise deals with the nation’s largest brokers and franchise brands at companies like: RealtyGenerator, Market Leader, Trulia and Zillow Group.

Alissa currently serves as SVP, Strategic Growth at Inside Real Estate.

(This is a NEW ROLE since we recorded our chat… congrats, Alissa!)

Things she loves? Being outdoors in nature, horseback riding, sharing quality time with her loved ones, and making a positive impact on someone’s day.

I loved our conversation about bringing more women and diverse voices to our stages and leadership tables in the real estate industry!

Without further ado, here’s Alissa!

Success to me is living a BIG, FULL, MEANINGFUL life.

Driven – I have ambitious goals in life and feel the most true to myself when I’m actively making strides forward towards achieving them.

Adventurous – Part of success to me is living a BIG and full life so I am always open and eager to try new things (food, travel, experiences, etc)

Caring – One of my favorite quotes is “people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”. Choosing compassion, choosing to help people even when they may not deserve it – that’s incredibly important to me.

Don’t take anything personally. Peoples views and opinions of you are more about them than you – and really none of your business :)

I was a total tomboy growing up!

To be more intentional about my time – it goes by fast!

Consistency in my morning routine (reading, meditating, exercising).

By making sh*t happen :) I’m pretty relentless in identifying big picture opportunities and then putting in the work to bring them to life.

Courage. Courage to be authentically and unapologetically YOU!

Being outdoors in nature.

Horseback riding.

Quality time with my loved ones.

Making a positive impact on someones day.

Conquering a new milestone in my business.

Gratitude. Looking at the world through a lens of gratitude puts everything in perspective and opens you up to new opportunities you may not have seen.

Listen in to hear her RAPID FIRE answers! :)

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This week’s affirmation is about living in the moment.

Are you ready? Repeat after me:

I am going to seize and savor each and every experience today.

Are you living in the moment or planning out the next one?

Lioness, you know a major part of my purpose is to remind you to care for yourself, to take time and slow down… Confession – I still find it painful to step away sometimes, too.

The struggle is REAL. However, as I grow older, I have learned to stop listening to those voices (sooner) and BOOK IT – whether it is a mani/pedi date or a vacation with my hubby, besties, or both!

On my last road trip with Drew, I was thinking back over the last couple of years and was reminded of one of my favorite trips – of all time. The trip was to visit some of our best friends who had moved to Minnesota. Drew was able to join me on this adventure and it included some amazing, soultank-filling moments… we intentionally created and took to 11!

First, I walked a llama (yes, a LLAMA, named Mizz Alaska!), painted pumpkins, rescued bugs from imminent death, built a fort, watched countless episodes of Fancy Nancy, and introduced my dear, divine God-nieces to The NeverEnding Story!

I enjoyed a Dairy Queen cone in 35° weather while driving through my family’s farm country with my Grammy and amazing hubby, nibbled homemade pumpkin bread paired with delish coffee and magnificent conversation, saw my Minnesota childhood home, enjoyed a candlelight dinner with live violin music (thank you, Miss Elie!), kissed boo-boos, raked LOTS leaves, bought and wrangled unicorns, brought home fairies, covered eyes during the scary parts of movies, introduced my awesome brother and incredible niece to framily, and so sooooo much more.

I took photos and waited until I got home to review them, edit them, and post them.

I soaked it all in.  Every single second possible.

What moments or experiences are on your calendar that you look forward to?

Make yourself a note – put it on your calendar – to BE PRESENT there.  Snap a few pix for posterity and then soak each divine moment in, my friend.

You will be so very happy you did.

Next week, I will share more about this adventure and another moxie-filled moment I experienced! 

xxoo,

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Today’s guest, Sandra Miller, is here to share her fierce, fiery soultank filling wisdom.

Let me tell you a bit about Sandra:

Sandra is the principal broker leading Engel & Völkers’ thriving Santa Monica shop, which was the first Engel & Völkers shop to open in California. With numerous prestigious real estate awards and accolades to her name, Sandra is also notably one of only a small number of Engel & Völkers brokers to achieve a Private Office Advisor designation.

Sandra’s success is due in part to her years in the corporate realm prior to moving into real estate. That serves her particularly well for the Santa Monica and West Los Angeles marketplace, where residential real estate demands keen negotiating and decision-making skills.  In short, she is magnificent.

Sandra and I met through the WomanUP!® movement.

She was a speaker in 2018… our first sponsor for 2019… and volunteered to be a WaveMaker this year!

We talk about her love of travel, she introduced me to Hoptomists (I AM IN LOVE!), podcast hacks, the art of active listening, and so much more!

Without further ado – here’s Sandra!

Success to me is about living my life in service of others and having absolutely no monetary concerns ever.

Driven. Competitive. Successful.

Failure is not an option.

I was a semi-pro, inline speed skater!  (Whaaaaaattttt?!?!)

Leave corporate sales and go into Real Estate sooner!

I have really good habits – the one thing iIneed to improve on is networking with meaning.

By being their first resource for anything house related they need.

Going after what you want!

Wow – loaded question!

Happiness- because I haven’t been enjoying the process as much as I should, so I am focusing on being happy.

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