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Why are romance readers (and publishers) obsessed with curses?
Meg and Nikki trace curse-breaking romance from Beauty and the Beast and other fairy-tale retellings through A Court of Thorns and Roses and The Ex Hex, as well as exploring curses within cozy fantasy, witchy romance, and modern romantasy.
Along the way, Meg breaks curse stories into three-and-a-half major types and introduces a seven-step curse-breaking framework: the origin wound, the rule, the false solution, escalation, the loophole, the sacrifice, and the break.
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Listen to our last episode on Practical Magic 2
What we coverSpoiler warning: we spoil the entire movie.
Practical Magic 2 is here, and Nikki and Meg have a lot of feelings about it. Meg saw it with three girlfriends (a certified First Dates & Soulmates date: tickets, popcorn, margaritas after). Nikki has script-level complaints but still had a great time. Together they break down this adaptation of Alice Hoffman's The Book of Magic, the last book in the Owens sisters series, and ask the question at the heart of every curse-breaking romance: is your romance curse cursed?
Sally's second husband Gary has died, and to protect her daughters Kylie and Antonia, she casts a spell that wipes their memories of magic. When Aunt Jet dies, Kylie's boyfriend Gideon lands in a coma right after she says "I love you," and the family heads to England to break the curse for good. Spoiler: it takes a sacrifice, and Nikki and Meg have thoughts about whose.
"Love is the reason for, evidence of, and the only way out of a curse." — NikkiGet the full show notes
Listen to our episode about the original Practical Magic (1998)
Five signs your romance curse is cursedNext week we continue Spooky Scary Bookie Month with a deep dive into the cursed romance trope. If you liked "Is Your Romance Curse Cursed?", come back for more.
Support the showFollowing last week's werewolf archetype deep dive, Meg and Nikki pick a readalong book to test the framework against — deliberately skipping the genre's most obvious picks (no Nalini Singh, no Kresley Cole) in favor of a queer werewolf romance.
They land on Wolfsong, the first book in TJ Klune's Green Creek series.
Spoiler warning: this episode discusses the full plot of Wolfsong in detail.
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Story Summary (Spoiler-Free)
Ox Matheson is a human teenager in the small Oregon town of Green Creek, still reeling from his father's abandonment, when the Bennett family moves in next door — and turns out to be a family of werewolves. Ox is drawn into their world first through friendship, then through a bond with the youngest son, Joe, destined to lead the pack one day. As Ox grows from an awkward, self-doubting kid into someone the pack relies on, the story follows found family, loyalty, and the cost of protecting the people you love. It's the first of four Green Creek novels, plus two novella-length companion pieces, each shifting POV to a different pack member.
Content Warning
Discussed on the episode: violence, off-page torture, parental death, and abandonment as a throughline theme. Both hosts flag this as an emotionally heavy read — "This is a five out of five. This is a, um, render." — on their angst scale.
"If Joe had never left, then Ox would never have taken a leadership role. He would've just been the consort to the alpha." — Meg"I love that all of these things are seeded so we, again, as the reader, are being given signals... trust in your audience enough that they will understand the hints you are dropping." — Nikki"This particular book is very subversive in that it chooses a human character and elevates them to a higher status than most werewolves who are born werewolves." — Meg"I liked how it was not just fixed immediately by the fact that Joe is back... Shouldn't have left. Fuck you." — Nikki, on Ox's (correctly) prolonged anger at JoeBooks & Media Mentioned
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Kicking off spooky October, Meg and Nikki tackle the second installment in their paranormal-archetype series (following last year's vampire deep dive). Nikki mapped werewolf and wolf-shifter romance onto three central archetypes — the Cursed Creature, the Big Bad Wolf, and the Alpha — plus two structural tropes that cut across all of them: Fated Mate and Pack/Found Family. Along the way: why werewolves keep winning the genre's search-volume war against vampires, the true (and very messy) origin story of the Omegaverse, and why "alpha" reads as a red flag in real life but a fantasy on the page.
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"The real alpha is a family man. Romance got that part right by accident." — Nikki"Why does alpha read as hot in romance, but is the ultimate red flag in real life?" — Nikki"The wolf is basically a very large, very hot dog... cuddly little werewolf becomes something that will protect us and sleep at the foot of our bed with extra benefits." — Meg, paraphrasing Nikki's research"It's the internet. Everybody's got a laptop with access to LiveJournal, to Fanfic.net... that also made a big difference in the speed at which this was adopted." — MegBooks & Media MentionedWhere We've Discussed This
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Meg and Nikki come back from a summer hiatus to dig into the film adaptation of Ali Hazelwood's The Love Hypothesis, starring Lili Reinhart as Olive and Tom Bateman as Dr. Adam Carlson. Both hosts loved it as a movie (Nikki: 9/10) while grading it more critically as an adaptation (Nikki: 8/10) — faithful through roughly the first half, then increasingly divergent in the back third, especially around the Tom subplot and how the story resolves it.
Spoiler warning: this episode discusses the full plot of both the book and the film adaptation in detail.
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The film adaptation of Ali Hazelwood's The Love Hypothesis follows Olive, a PhD student at Stanford, who fake-dates standoffish professor Dr. Adam Carlson to convince her best friend Anh that she's moved on and isn't standing in the way of Anh dating Olive's ex. What starts as a mutually beneficial arrangement — negotiated, timelined, and initially very stiff — slowly becomes real, complicated by lab politics, a predatory colleague, and two people who are both much better at hiding their feelings than showing them.
"It wasn't arrogance, it was just a fact. Arrogance would require a level of pride... but it wasn't. It was competence, not arrogance." — Meg, on Adam Carlson"What is it about Adam that Olive likes? Yes, he's gorgeous. Yes, he's helpful. Yes, he's kind of funny in a snarky way. But what about him as a human makes her go, 'I do actually wanna spend time with him'?" — Nikki"We live in the real world where we know nothing will fucking happen to Tom... We need evidence. We need irrefutable evidence." — Nikki, on the film's choice to remove the audio recording of Tom's misconduct"The solution was in the source material, and that's where it fell apart." — MegBooks & Media ReferencedMedia we mentioned:
"Newfoundland is an Island" video: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTyfMutnK/
We're pulling this one out of the vault because the movie's almost here — The Love Hypothesis hits Prime Video on September 23, with Lili Reinhart as Olive and Tom Bateman as Adam. Consider this your reread assignment before the adaptation drops.
In this episode of First Dates and Soulmates, Nikki and Meg dive into The Love Hypothesis by Ali Hazelwood—a fan-favorite academic rom-com that sparked an entire wave of STEM heroines.
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And if you loved the fake dating premise & you're looking for more like The Love Hypothesis, check out our 20+ favorite fake relationship books and our list of professional-student romances that don't feel gross.
Books & Media We Mention
* The Love Hypothesis by Ali Hazelwood
* Deep End by Ali Hazelwood
* Reacher (tv show)
* To Love a Psycho series by CF White (Dream a Little Dream, Kiss me Honey Honey)
* The Kiss Quotient by Helen Hoang
* The 12 stages of sexual intimacy
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Strap in. We’re going deep. This week on First Dates & Soulmates, it’s a trope episode! And we’re dissecting every glorious and absurd nuance of fake dating.
Nikki may think this trope is the Chardonnay of romance (she’ll drink it if you serve it), while Meg is out here creating full frameworks while waiting in line at Disneyland.
In This Episode:
* Why so many fake dating books fall apart if the initial premise isn’t strong
* Why romantic vulnerability matters more than jellybeans
* The difference between fake dating for good vs fake dating for damage control
* The role of the designated extroverted friend and why we all need one
* When fake dating turns into real cheerleading, and why that’s hot
This episode developed the FAKING IT Framework — First Dates & Soulmates' analytical guide to fake dating romance, built around the eight structural elements every fake dating story needs.
Meg loves a third-act breakup. Nikki wants to be your fake date and your designated hype woman.
Leave a review, comment on Substack, tell us your favourite fake dating books, or ask Nikki to be your designated fake fiance so you can get that promotion!
View the full show notes at: https://firstdatesandsoulmates.com/episode/fake-dating-trope
Get our full list of our top 20 favorite fake dating romance books!
Fake Dating Movies:
* How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days
* The Proposal
* 10 Things I Hate About You
* The Bachelor (Chris O’Donnell movie)
* Purple Hearts
* The Firm
* Sleepless in Seattle
* Bridgerton
* Sex and the City
* Just Go With It
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October starts with a bite as Nikki and Meg dive fang-first into the many flavours of vampire romance. From broody immortals to leather-pants predators, they trace the evolution of the undead in pop culture and argue over who deserves to be booped on the nose.
What you’ll hear:
This episode developed the Vampire Archetype Framework — First Dates & Soulmates' guide to the four faces of the vampire romance hero and the cultural history of which type dominates in each era.
We also used this episode to build our Vampire Romance Books & Series Recommendations.
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This week Nikki and Meg sit down with author Jessica Topper to dive into the world of rock star romance.
A librarian-turned-romance-writer, Jessica shares how her real-life concert experiences and love of music shape her stories — including her beloved Love & Steel series.
They explore:
* What makes musicians such compelling romantic leads
* Why found family dynamics hit differently in fictional bands
* The behind-the-stage drama of redemption arcs, messy characters, and their thoughts on bodyguard and manager relationships
Don’t worry, there’s enough fictional eyeliner to last you a lifetime.
(For more details about the recent changes in Rockstar Romance, check out our essay: From Fantasy to Trauma: How Rockstar Romance Learned to Tell the Truth About Fame)
About Our Guest
Jessica Topper has been in love with the beauty of the written word ever since she memorized Maurice Sendak's Chicken Soup with Rice at the age of three.
After earning a B.A. in English Literature and her Master's Degree in Library Science, Jessica went on to work as a librarian in New York City before trading in the books for bookkeeping. For seventeen years, she worked in the production office of an international touring rock band.
Jessica broke the rock romance mold with her 2013 debut novel LOUDER THAN LOVE. Her follow-up romantic comedy, DICTATORSHIP OF THE DRESS, was named one of Publishers Weekly's Best Books of 2015.
She lives in Western New York with her family - including two cats that love to walk across her keyboard.
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Website: www.jessicatopper.com
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BookBub - www.bookbub.com/profile/jessica-topper
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Ever fall in love on vacation? Nikki hasn't — but she's got a cautionary tale about a family friend who did, and it did NOT end well. Meg's convinced the only version that actually works is the friends-to-lovers group trip. This week, Nikki and Meg unpack the logistics (and the impractical magic) of the "love on vacation" trope — from beach house hookups to European cruises to why a grand romantic gesture at the airport is a logistical nightmare and disrespectful to TSA lines.
Listen in for:
— Tropes like friends-to-lovers-on-holiday, destination wedding mix-ups, and stranded road trip partners
— Nikki's campaign against cruise ships, always
— A pitch for a merch line that will definitely get banned
— The emotional difference between "honeymoon with your ex's sibling" and "strangers in Venice"
— When Meg turned into a Scottish bar singer on a dare (it worked)
— Why a grand gesture at the airport falls apart the second you think about the logistics
Also covered: runaway grooms, coconuts and questionable toppings.
Full show notes: https://firstdatesandsoulmates.com/episode/love-on-vacation/
Nikki, on why forced-proximity vacation romance works:
"I think it can be a factor, but most good stories have some sort of ticking clock so that way you get some urgency and some stakes raised."Meg, on the real rule underneath every vacation romance:
"It can start as something that happens by chance, but it has to end with a choice."Nikki, on why the honeymoon-gone-wrong trope works for her:
"I think when it does become a little bit more hard won, you're like, no, they're already putting in the effort. This was not just because of proximity."Get our full list of beach read recommendations: http://firstdatesandsoulmates.com/beach-reads-romance-books
Books & Media We Mention & Recommend
* Only One Beach House by K.M. Neuhold
* Waiting for You by Cora Rose
* Unhoneymooners by Christina Lauren
* People We Meet on Vacation by Emily Henry
* Every Summer After by Carley Fortune
* Wild Seasons series by Christina Lauren
* Up in Flames by Eden Finley & Saxon James
* Beat Me Next Christmas by Lindy Bell
* Love on Vacation by Keira Andrews
* Cruising by Sean Ashcroft
* Married to My Best Friend by Riley Hart
* Three’s Company by NR Walker
* Up in Flames by Eden Finley and Saxon James
* Time Out by Vinni George
* Cuckoo’s Call by Lily Morton
* Thick as Thieves by Lucy Lennox
* How to Say I Do by Tal Bauer
* Gaycation in Paradise by Ariella Zoelle
* Private Charter by NR Walker
* KM Neuhold’s Palm Island series
* Snow Way In Hell by Charlie Novak
* Shore thing series by Jaclyn Osborn
* California Crush series by Mia Monroe
* Waiting for you by Cora Rose
* The Holiday (2006)
* Letters to Juliet (2010)
* How Stella Got Her Groove Back (1998)
* Poseidon Adventure (1972)
* Forgetting Sarah Marshall (2008)
* The Philadelphia Story (1940)
* Palm Springs (2020)
* To Catch a Thief
* Love Actually
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