In this episode of the Flourish Academy podcast, host Heather Lahtinen discusses the concept of the Second Arrow, a Buddhist parable about dealing with suffering more skillfully. She explains that anytime we suffer misfortune, two arrows fly our way. The first arrow represents the actual bad event or circumstance, which can cause pain, but the second arrow represents our reaction to the bad event. The second arrow is optional, and it's the manner in which we choose to respond emotionally.

Heather shares a personal experience where she was presented with the opportunity to practice these new skills. Her son's school was locked down because of a call reporting an active shooter, which turned out to be a hoax. Heather processed her emotions and avoided the second arrow by refraining from letting her thoughts get away from her.

She shares that we can avoid the second arrow by noticing our emotional reaction, catching ourselves adding more pain and suffering, and giving ourselves credit for recognizing and avoiding the second arrow. Finally, Heather encourages listeners to apply the concept of the Second Arrow to situations in their own lives and to avoid dwelling on things that aren't worthy of their attention or focus.

This is the article referenced: https://grandrapidstherapygroup.com/second-arrow-of-suffering/

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In this conversation with my good friend Nicole Begley, I am sharing a recent breakthrough that I had when working with my business coach. She asked me one question that shifted everything for me.  Check out my private coaching options here: https://flourishacademy.mykajabi.com/ff

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In this episode of the Flourish Academy podcast, host Heather Lahtinen shares her unique perspective on procrastination and offers practical strategies to overcome it. As a photographer, educator, and entrepreneur, Heather founded the Flourish Academy as a resource for photographers of all levels and focuses on creating breakthroughs with mindset to help listeners pursue their passion on their own terms. Drawing from her experience leading an all-day live retreat for members of her community, Heather explains that procrastination is the action of delaying or postponing something via inaction, and that it is often triggered by stress. She encourages listeners to avoid labeling themselves as procrastinators and instead focus on changing the habit of procrastinating.

Throughout the episode, Heather shares tips on how to develop self-awareness, manage stress, and identify underlying reasons for procrastination. She offers three questions to ask oneself about tasks that are being avoided, including where more clarity is needed, where decisions need to be made, and what skills need to be acquired. Heather also recommends forgiveness, identifying the root cause of stress, and using the five-second rule to take action as practical ways to overcome procrastination.

Whether you're a photographer, entrepreneur, or just someone looking to overcome procrastination, this episode is packed with valuable insights and strategies to help you take action and achieve your goals.

Show Notes:

Definition of procrastination as the action of delaying or postponing via inaction (2:30) Avoiding labeling oneself as a procrastinator and focusing on changing the habit of procrastinating (4:00) Questions to ask oneself about tasks that are being avoided, including where more clarity is needed, where decisions need to be made, and what skills need to be acquired (7:00) The role of stress in triggering procrastination (10:30) Developing self-awareness and managing stress to overcome procrastination (14:00) Practical tips for overcoming procrastination, including forgiveness, identifying the root cause of stress, and using the five-second rule (16:00) Conclusion and encouragement to take action and achieve goals (22:00)

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Personally, I've never understood the expression "hot mess." In this episode, I'm sharing my (strong) feelings around this identity that people seem to love to talk about. Check out this episode on how to shed the identity: https://staceyboehman.com/shedding-hot-mess-identity/

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What would it look like to take 100% responsibility for your thoughts and feelings? In this episode, I'm contrasting emotional adulthood with emotional childhood, a concept a recently learned through my certification with The Life Coach School.

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What if I told you that it wasn't possible to offend someone? In this episode, we are talking about understanding how our thoughts create our feelings. Which also means that we can't control someone else's reaction because we can't control their thoughts.

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In this episode, I'm talking about knowing and understanding your limits. What if you are capable of more? What would that look like?

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Ever reach a goal only to feel disappointed? In this episode, we are talking about the importance of the journey vs reaching the milestone. Also revisiting the fact that life is 50/50, which means somedays it's great and other times, it's terrible.

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I am proud to announce that I am a certified professional life coach with The Life Coach School! In this episode, I'm sharing the one thought that shifted everything for me.

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I'm sharing a story about my son in this episode that was originally delivered in the Flourish Academy Elevate program. Did your parents fill your brain with good things regarding your intelligence and capabilities? What would it look like to create belief in yourself?

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