Fostering Voices Podcast

This week we are so pleased to have Dr. Dayna Harris - a Child Psychologist, with us on the podcast! She has an Educational Specialist Degree and a Doctor of Education Degree, and she truly loves to work with kids. In fact we met because she was the Child Psychologist at our kids' school! And her son is one of my son's best friends! Dr. Harris shares with us how to help our kids to think about what they are thinking about, and encourages us as parents to do the same!

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

2:39 - Dr. Dayna's Background

4:19 - Good Word Of The Day!!!

6:21 - Functioning in Dysfunction

13:38 - Tailoring the Conversation to the Age of the Child

19:57 – Thinking About What You Are Thinking About

23:55 – Things Parents Should Strive to Modify

37:30 - Keeping Oneself Healthy

Good Word of the Day:

"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations."

- Jeremiah 1:5

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This week we are so pleased to have Dr. Dayna Harris - a Child Psychologist, with us on the podcast! She has an Educational Specialist Degree and a Doctor of Education Degree, and she truly loves to work with kids. In fact we met because she was the Child Psychologist at our kids' school! And her son is one of my son's best friends! Dr. Harris shares with us how to help our kids to think about what they are thinking about, and encourages us as parents to do the same!

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

2:39 - Dr. Dayna's Background

4:19 - Good Word Of The Day!!!

6:21 - Functioning in Dysfunction

13:38 - Tailoring the Conversation to the Age of the Child

19:57 – Thinking About What You Are Thinking About

23:55 – Things Parents Should Strive to Modify

37:30 - Keeping Oneself Healthy

Good Word of the Day:

"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations."

- Jeremiah 1:5

If you would like to connect:

Fostering Voices on Instagram

You can also email us!

Follow us on YouTube!

AND we would LOVE it if you would SUBSCRIBE and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

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Marriage is something we love to talk about, because it truly does help foster kids, and adoptive kids, and your bio kids to feel like they are in a safe and healthy home. The things that make marriages awesome are great communication and even great community!

We are happy to have been able to host a Marriage Shower for Cate and Josh this week, and that's what prompted this episode. We start with why we have showers and gatherings, then we get into the advice that was shared at the shower.

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:13 - Today's Topic – Marriage

10:42 - Bits of Wisdom Shared at Wedding Shower

18:40 - Our Sponsor – Showit!

19:00 - More Marriage Wisdom

28:48 - Good Word Of The Day!!!

Marriage:

Marriage is something we love to talk about, because it truly does help foster kids, and adoptive kids, and your bio kids to feel like they are in a safe and healthy home. The things that make marriages awesome are great communication and even great community!

We are happy to have been able to host a Marriage Shower for Cate and Josh this week, and that's what prompted this episode. We start with why we have showers and gatherings, then we get into the advice that was shared at the shower.

"This book will forever alter the way you look at your next meeting, industry conference, dinner party, and backyard barbecue—and how you host and attend them."

Advice:

Don't think you are competing or deserve something for serving your spouse. You are on the same team, not keeping score of stuff that doesn't exist, so set your spouse up for success. Have grace.

Envisioning your spouse in the other team's jersey is not healthy. Referenced Outward Mindset again, by the Arbinger Institute. Very important to have a healthy mindset in marriage!

Surround yourself with great community in every season that will point you to Jesus. Desperate need for Jesus to make your marriage work - humility is necessary. And ask for help. Steadiness, and pointing others to truth. Be a safe place to confess things to each other and confess everything to each other.

When you feel like things are coasting, that's when things fall apart. Communicate frustrations so they don't pile up. God created us with emotions. Part of emotion is connection. Learn how to understand what emotions are happening helps build intimacy. Untangling Emotions is a good book.

Allow yourself to go to bed angry. Think of marriage as a team sport- be willing to shift to cover. Go to bed at the same time- it's hard to have sex in different rooms. Decide roles (who is in charge of finances), decide how you will communicate about money.

Of course, since this is a wedding shower, we talked about sex:

Communicate desires and drives ahead of time.

And "tiredness is the enemy of sex", which is a good word from Grandma Watson

Good Word of the Day:

Say what you mean. 'It's fine', is never fine.

– From Cate and Josh's Wedding Shower

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Good word of the day:

"It's fine" is never fine.

Establish common communication habits. Say what you mean. Truth and love in communication.

This is a great episode featuring an interview with our sweet friend, Dee Lavigne, of Queen Dee Fitness, and The Lavigne life on YouTube and beyond. She shares some simple tips for us all to stay fit and healthy! Give her a follow on social media and YouTube to be entertained, and inspired!

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

5:15 - Welcome To The Pod, Dee!!

10:11 - How Long Have The LaVignes Been YouTubers?

11:04 - Let's Talk Some Fitness

21:18 - Accountability and Community

25:50 - Good Word Of The Day!!!

Links:

Dee LaVigne and family on These Four Walls YouTube

Queen Dee Fitness

Even more LaVigne-ness!!

The LaVignes on Tik Tok

Good Word of the Day!!!:

Balance!

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Starting off the new year with goal setting is our favorite way to start the year! This helps us to set up ourselves, and our kids, to accomplish things! Accountability is a big piece of the goal setting puzzle, especially because it helps us to remind the kids of the work they need to put in to make sure they accomplish their goals too. We also use the goal setting time to pause and reflect on the great, and hard things, from the year before. We are able to give thanks to God for answering specific prayers, which is always a great thing!

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

2:03 - Watsy's 2022 Goals For The Year

8:42 - Here Is Where We *Actually* Talk 2022 Goals!!

18:06 - Good Word Of The Day!!!

Show Notes:

Dave Ramsey Goal Sheet

Bek and Kev goal setting with kids

Financial Goals

Give a higher percent every year

And stick to personal allowance

Spiritual

Read paper Bible - the beautiful book Jihae talked about is this one

Chris is going to refocus on men's group - learn more about the one he goes to here.

Prioritize accountability

Intellectual

Reading more books - but especially rereading books! Which goes back to the Good Word of the Day last week, where we want to be more effective, not just more efficient.

Family

Becoming a family of service and creating memories

GOOD WORD OF THE DAY

"Forget the former things;

do not dwell on the past.

See, I am doing a new thing!

Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?

I am making a way in the wilderness

and streams in the wasteland."

Isaiah 43:18-19

If you would like to connect:

Fostering Voices on Instagram

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Starting off the new year with goal setting is our favorite way to start the year! This helps us to set up ourselves, and our kids, to accomplish things! Accountability is a big piece of the goal setting puzzle, especially because it helps us to remind the kids of the work they need to put in to make sure they accomplish their goals too. We also use the goal setting time to pause and reflect on the great, and hard things, from the year before. We are able to give thanks to God for answering specific prayers, which is always a great thing!

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

2:03 - Watsy's 2022 Goals For The Year

8:42 - Here Is Where We *Actually* Talk 2022 Goals!!

18:06 - Good Word Of The Day!!!

Show Notes:

Dave Ramsey Goal Sheet

Bek and Kev goal setting with kids

Financial Goals

Give a higher percent every year

And stick to personal allowance

Spiritual

Read paper Bible - the beautiful book Jihae talked about is this one

Chris is going to refocus on men's group - learn more about the one he goes to here.

Prioritize accountability

Intellectual

Reading more books - but especially rereading books! Which goes back to the Good Word of the Day last week, where we want to be more effective, not just more efficient.

Family

Becoming a family of service and creating memories

GOOD WORD OF THE DAY

"Forget the former things;

do not dwell on the past.

See, I am doing a new thing!

Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?

I am making a way in the wilderness

and streams in the wasteland."

Isaiah 43:18-19

If you would like to connect:

Fostering Voices on Instagram

You can also email us!

Follow us on YouTube!

AND we would LOVE it if you would SUBSCRIBE and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

If you want to see how to leave a review, check out this handy little video!

Here are our top 5 books from 2021 with honorable mentions of the other 40+ books we read this year. We love to read as a way to grow our minds to different ideas and perspectives and we hope you enjoy these books as much as we do!

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

2:46 - Intro to High and Low from 2021

6:47 - Actual(!) High and Low from 2021

11:44 - The Books of 2021

13:28 - Quick Thank You to Our Sponsors

14:06 - The Books of 2021 cont.

31:09 - Good Word Of The Day!!!

33:21 - Continued Focus on Health

Gigantic 2021 Book Review

Jihae Books

• 1 The Madness of Crowds by Douglas Murray
• 2 Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy
• 3 Daring Greatly by Brene Brown
• 4 No Greater Love by AW Tozer
• 5 The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the Modern World John Mark Comer
• 6 Business Made Simple: 60 Days to Master Leadership, Sales, Marketing, Execution, Management, Personal Productivity and More Don Miller
• 7 The Tanning of America: How Hip-Hop Created a Culture That Rewrote the Rules of the New Economy Steve Stoute
• 8 The Gospel Comes with a House Key: Practicing Radically Ordinary Hospitality in Our Post-Christian World Rosaria Butterfiled
• 9 Crying in H Mart: A Memoir Michelle Zauner
• 10 Never Lose a Customer Again: Turn Any Sale into Lifelong Loyalty in 100 Days Joseph Coleman
• 11 I Am Here: The Journey from Fear to Freedom Ashley Lemieux
• 12 Surprised by Joy: The Shape of My Early Life CS Lewis
• 13 Eat a Peach David Chang
• 14 Fortitude: American Resilience in the Era of Outrage Dan Crenshaw
• 15 Real Artists Don't Starve: Timeless Strategies for Thriving in the New Creative Age By: Jeff Goins
• 16 Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life By: Emily Nagoski PhD
• 17 The Hiding Place by Corrie Ten Boom

Re-Read Books

• 18 For Women Only by Shauti Feldhahn
• 19 Essentialism by Greg McKeown
• 20 Love Does by Bob Goff

Chris's Books

• 1 Wizard's First Rule: Sword of Truth, Book 1 Terry Goodkind
• 2 What Got You Here Won't Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful Marshall Goldsmith
• 3 His Needs, Her Needs: Building a Marriage That Lasts By: Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr.
• 4 Nonviolent Communication: Create Your Life, Your Relationships, and Your World in Harmony with Your Values Marshall Rosenberg PhD
• 5 Public Speaking for Success Jim Rohn
• 6 It Worked for Me: In Life and Leadership – Colin Powell
• 7 Twelve Pillars – By: Jim Rohn , Chris Widener
• 8 More Than a Carpenter Josh McDowell
• 9 Tangled Up in Blue: Policing the American City – Rosa Brooks
• 10 Re-read The Compound Effect

Read Together

• 11 Feeding the Mouth That Bites You: A Complete Guide to Parenting Adolescents and Launching Them into the World Kenneth Wilgus PhD
• 12 Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew By: Sherrie Eldridge
• 13 The Anatomy of Peace, Expanded Second Edition: Resolving the Heart of Conflict The Arbinger Institute
• 14 The Outward Mindset: Seeing Beyond Ourselves The Arbinger Institute
• 15 Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box The Arbinger Institute
• 16 A Promised Land by Barack Obama
• 17 How To Have Your Best Year Ever Jim Rohn
• 18 Your Turn: How to Be an Adult by Julie Lythcott Haims
• 19 Winning the War in Your Mind: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life – By: Craig Groeschel

Keeping Score:

Jihae - 29 Books

Chris - 19 Books

Jihae is the 2021 FV Pod Book Reading Champion!!

Other Links:

Lily's devo she did on the Bible App - Growing Your Faith

Patrick Lencioni 5 Dysfunctions of a Team

‎At The Table with Patrick Lencioni: The Five Dysfunctions …

Dave Ramsey Goal Sheet

Bek and Kev goal setting with kids

Good Word of the Day

"Don't ask yourself how you can be more efficient, ask yourself how you can be more effective." – Carey Nieuwhof

Wishing you all a great new year of healthy bodies, spirits, and minds!

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Becky Goodson, Nurse Practitioner extraordinaire shares with us the 3 things that she tells almost every single one of her patients to be healthy and to operate at their best. Listen in to see how you are faring with these 3 simple things you can be doing every single day!

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

0:56 - It's 'Gee-Hey!!'

1:14 - Health and Wellness

2:39 - Three Health Recommendations – Vitamin D,

8:57 - Gut Health

13:54 - Omega 3s

18:49 - Talking About Weight

25:24 - Ways To Improve Your Health

29:58 - Good Word Of The Day!!!

Links:

Activated Health and Wellness is the Practice, owned by the amazing Dr. Rodarte, where you can find Becky!

100 Days challenge was by Michelle Poler on Fearing Less & Doing More

Get in touch with Becky

We didn't find any fish with the skin on recipes in time for publication this week. Apologies!

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We know misery loves company - so join us as we talk about some of the challenges we have been facing in the parenting front lately. Let us commiserate together, but also encourage one another - cause we are all in this together!

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

2:16 - Talking About The B-Word....Balance

6:09 - The Current Season of Life

10:38 - The One Device-Related Rule

26:09 - Reasons For Serving

31:39 - Good Word Of The Day!!!

Links:

Sun Valley Community Church on YouTube

Feeding The Mouth That Bites You

The Good Word Of The Day

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Romans 15:13

Elf (2003)

Let's Connect!

Fostering Voices on Instagram

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We know misery loves company - so join us as we talk about some of the challenges we have been facing in the parenting front lately. Let us commiserate together, but also encourage one another - cause we are all in this together!

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

2:16 - Talking About The B-Word....Balance

6:09 - The Current Season of Life

10:38 - The One Device-Related Rule

26:09 - Reasons For Serving

31:39 - Good Word Of The Day!!!

Links:

Sun Valley Community Church on YouTube

Feeding The Mouth That Bites You

The Good Word Of The Day

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Romans 15:13

Elf (2003)

Let's Connect!

Fostering Voices on Instagram

You can also email us!

AND we would LOVE it if you would SUBSCRIBE and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

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