Today, we talk about all the things you hear from anti-LGBTQ Christians, and we ask if those are real thoughts and questions, real concerns, or are they just repeating what they have been programmed to say??
 
We have some fun discussing if they are real people or are they just bots??   ;-)
 
And, most importantly, we talk about how to respond, especially when they just so happen to be family members. 

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How we define family changes. Relationships change. So, our expectations of family should change.
 
We get triggered, we get hurt, especially at this time of year.
 
Beloved, you deserve to find your people. You deserve to love and be loved as you are for who you are.
 
As Richard Bach said, "The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life."
 
Let’s talk about family, chosen family, and realistic family expectations. 

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We get a lot of emails from beloved souls who have been absolutely terrified by their church and Christian friends.

Cause, you know, that’s so Christlike. (sigh)

They are told that they’re not enough, that their parents are right, their pastors are right, and they’re just awful if they can’t change their fundamental core. That they are doomed.

No Beloved, you’re NOT doomed!
 
Today we talk about two kinds of Christianity and faith. They are very different, and WE get to decide which we want to be part of.

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The church will call people a heretic for years before they finally recognize them as a saint.
 
If we need the church’s approval, to be validated, to be seen, a lot of the world will sit unrecognized.

People whom God sees as perfect and loves unconditionally will often be sitting in the dark in tears, waiting for approval.
 
You don’t need to wait for approval! Why? Because, you’ve already got approval!

As you are, for who you are. Because Beloved, THAT is what you deserve. 

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You know that debating people who are committed to misunderstanding you can be toxic.

We fall down the rabbit hole and it usually does not go well – especially for our hearts and peace. You deserve better!

Let me be clear: YOU are not the one who need to defend ANYTHING. And at times it’s best to just speak the truth, share a resource, and sashay away in all your fabulousness! 

Today, we share a very intimate, personal, powerful email we received – and we talk about NOT wasting your time defending yourself! 

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Have you ever been told you’re cherry-picking scripture? This is when you don’t buy someone else’s interpretation of the bible, they tell you you’re cherry-picking. We’ve been told this many times, and I’m pretty sure you have been too.

It’s when we won’t lay down our verses and replace them with their verses—the ones they’ve cherry-picked and thrown at us!

It’s when we don’t buy into the church’s interpretation-du-jour, because it doesn’t sit well with us, even if don’t know why. So basically, if you don’t agree, then you’re cherry-picking.

It’s a cute little phrase, huh? They say it like it’s a bad thing.

Let’s talk all about cherry-picking. Uh yes, yum… I love cherries!

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We hear it all the time, we know you do too: “Jesus said to go and sin no more!” Well, honestly beloved, enough is enough!

Remember that Bible story: “Jesus Scatters Self-Righteous Men in the Name of Mercy and Justice!” No? Hmmm… How about this one: “The Woman Caught in Adultery.” Yeah, that’s more familiar. It’s the same story, but a completely different interpretation.
 
The commonly taught interpretation misses the main point, which is that these men in authority have manipulated and exploited and abused this woman!
 
Jesus is not calling out the woman—he’s calling out the religious leaders! He doesn’t fall for their tricks—I love that! And he lets the woman go—I LOVE that!

Today, we deconstruct and disarm “go and sin no more” once and for all!

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For those of us who have a religious background – it was likely ingrained in us that we are broken, fallen sinners – in need of being saved.
 
And how convenient – a church within walking distance who can help with that – as long as we follow, and do and believe what we are told.
 
But what if they are completely wrong?

What if you knew that you knew that you knew that there was absolutely nothing wrong with you??  Would that change how you view yourself?  Others?  Life?  The past?  The future?  Would it give you peace?  Hope?

We believe that this is at the core of life itself, and we want to reassure you today that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. 

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Let's be clear: the false narrative that links grooming with LGBTQ+ individuals is nothing but a despicable lie, born out of hatred and ignorance.
 
The truth is that most child sexual abusers are heterosexual. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with it.
 
What's at play is a sick and twisted desire for power, not love.

Yes, kids ARE being groomed – prepped, taught, indoctrinated, predisosed – but what they are being groomed for is hate and conditional love and bigotry.

We are being played with this false narrative and enough is enough. 

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We have all heard about decluttering your stuff – keeping what is important and what makes you happy.
 
Well, the same is true with decluttering our beliefs – especially for those of us who are deconstructing from harmful, false religious teaching.
 
When you have a collection of beliefs that don’t work for you – that don’t focus on loving God, loving others, and loving yourself, it is such a gift to you and those around you to declutter those beliefs.
 
As you discover the truth about how far out of hand those beliefs have gotten, how hurtful they are, you can neutralize them! Lift them off your shoulders.
 
It’s time to declutter your beliefs, so your heart can be free to love and be loved.

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