Abuse is basically someone in power using, misusing those without power. Whether it’s emotional, spiritual, physical, or sexual. It’s someone with more power abusing someone with less power.

Is your church spiritually abusive? Today, we give you ways to know for sure.

To discover this can be troubling, depressing. But it is so beautifully freeing. 

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What Does it Really Mean to Deconstruct My Faith?

When you leave your previous understanding of your faith, it may feel as if you lost your entire identity because of how tightly you held those beliefs.

In this episode, we talk about what it really means to deconstruct your faith.

What affirms our deconstruction is realizing that God is in all the places we were told not to go. 

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Do you wish you could get away from that internalized voice of disapproval and shame? 

This is one of the hardest issues to face for LGBTQ+ people on their path to acceptance, and for families and loved ones — especially those with a faith background. 

Today, we talk about the enemy within: internalized queerphobia. 

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What a time it is! I’ve had to pull myself back from living in a constant state of fight or flight. How about you? 

Fight or flight is meant to be a temporary state, a brilliant way to protect us from that proverbial tiger. But that should be a very small portion of our lives. 

If we find ourselves stuck in fight or flight - what’s the alternative? What is the ideal state look like?

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This episode is for parents of LGBTQ children; or LGBTQ people with parents; or those allies and friends who know parents. In other words, this is for you!

In our work with tens of thousands of parents of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer children, there are 5 questions that almost always come up. Things they are concerned about; things they wonder and worry about.

In this episode, we answer those questions! We help set hearts free to fully affirm and accept; to love and be loved. 

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It’s common in today’s non-affirming church teaching to talk about the Bible as “the inerrant, unchanged word of God,” meaning, if you even question what you’ve been taught about the Bible or what it says, you are labeled a heretic!

But, as we have discovered on our own deconstruction journey, there are a lot of problems with that!

In this episode, we talk about what to do with the Bible in the midst of a deconstructing faith.

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I went to seminary as an evangelical. I had no idea it was going to hold so many surprises. Here are the top 7 shockers that change the entire game of Christianity. 

Knowing these will help us continue to unravel the hurtful, destructive teachings that, in truth, really have nothing to do with Jesus, God or the Bible. 

It was the beginning of the deconstruction of my faith, and the beginning of a much deeper, more beautiful, more satisfying faith and spirituality.

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The teaching of contempt, the teach of “us vs them,” has seeped into our culture and thinking. 

There’s no magic answer to fix it, and it has taken root in our lives, in society. So, what can we do? 

In this powerful episode, we discover how to recognize and deal with contempt in our lives - that we are receiving and that we are giving. This episode is about beginning to truly see ourselves and each other. 

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If you could write a love letter to your past self - to little Susie Q or little Bobby - what would you say?  And if you could write a love letter to your future self - in 10, 20, 30 years - what would you say?

In this episode, we talk about the thread of love running through your life, what may be hindering that, and how we can free our hearts to love and be loved - as we deserve. 

The most important love you will give or receive is the love you give to, and receive from yourself. 

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How often do you find yourself responding to the same old questions and hurtful comments from non-affirming people?

In this episode, we discuss why you should never waste your time, never waste your heart debating with, or explaining yourself to someone who is committed to misunderstanding you. It can be toxic!

You don't deserve it, and we'll talk about how we can respond instead. 

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