When I was a child, I attracted life based on fear. I was rarely able to have fun, always afraid of what lay ahead. I spent a lot of my time playing fantasy as an escape from the present. In my mind, if I could dissociate from the present moment, I was okay. Or so I thought. But I was only looking for safety. Running and hiding from anything which would trigger me into having to deal with reality.

If you have a deep sense of fear that you hope will somehow go away, but you focus on being in a fantasy or not dealing with reality and you're continually fighting yourself and struggling, nothing will change.

In today's episode, you'll learn how to change your relationship with fear and manifest less of it into your life.

What You Will Learn from this Episode:

* How fear acts as a magnet, attracting more of what you're trying to avoid

* The connection between childhood experiences and adult patterns of fear

* Why avoiding fear only amplifies its power in your life

* How to shift from fear-based living to love-based choicesPractical exercises to identify and process your fears

I used to feel this is it–”this is as good as it gets,” feeling empty and unfulfilled in my relationships. Even bored at times [when not feeling anxious]. Do you find yourself constantly trying to be the happiness fairy?, Only to end up feeling lifeless and disconnected? Let’s look at the hidden causes behind these patterns and how to be your own happiness fairy.

Pay attention to the silent energy drains you allow in your life. It’s not your circumstances, it’s all in your assumptions. They keep you stuck, believing it’ll never change (whatever it is you want to change). Tune in to get some tools to help you set your wings free so you can fly!

In this episode, you'll learn:

How attachment styles shape people-pleasing behaviors.

*Ways people-pleasing sucks you dry.

*Why assumptions destroy everything.

*Tiny steps to set boundaries and build self-love.

"You want to feel full. You want to be filled up. You want to feel a sense of personal power. So it means you're going to get uncomfortable." ~ Tracy Crossley

Are you tired of feeling like an accidental jerk in your relationships? Do you find yourself oscillating between anxious attachment and avoidant behaviors? You're not alone.

In this episode, Tracy candidly shares her personal journey as an anxious-avoidant, exploring the complex push-pull dynamic that many experience in relationships. Struggling between the desire for connection and the fear of vulnerability, she dives deep into the root causes of anxious-avoidant behavior, offering relatable insights and practical advice to help listeners break free from these self-sabotaging patterns.

Tracy also provides a roadmap for those navigating this challenging attachment style, highlighting strategies for healthier relationships. Whether you're single, dating, or committed, this episode equips you with tools to stop pushing people away and start building the connections you truly desire.

Key Insights from this episode:

* How childhood experiences shape adult relationships

* The role of guilt and shame in fueling attachment patterns

* Strategies for challenging emotional unavailability and self-sabotage

* Techniques for practicing radical honesty and staying present

* Building genuine self-acceptance and lasting relationship change

"The most freeing thing you can do as an anxious avoidant is to be honest about your emotional space right at this moment. Stop telling stories and start telling the truth about yourself." ~ Tracy Crossley

Have you ever felt torn between your true passions and the expectations of others? In this episode, Tracy sits down with frequency healer and quantum coach Paget Kagy, who shares her inspiring journey from aspiring actress to spiritual guide. Paget opens up about her childhood dreams of being an artist, the pressure to pursue a "practical" path, and the family tensions that arose as she tried to follow her heart.

She recounts the challenges of navigating her "dark night of the soul" and the powerful moment of realization that transformed her life: "You are the creator of your reality." This profound shift led Paget to embrace her true calling as a healer, helping others clear energetic blocks and align with their higher purpose.

Tune in for an uplifting and transformative conversation about breaking free from limitations and stepping into your authentic self.

Key Insights from Paget's Journey:

* The struggle of balancing creative passions with societal expectations

* How hitting rock bottom can lead to profound spiritual awakening

* The importance of taking full responsibility for your life circumstances

* Discovering your true purpose through inner work and self-reflection

"Most people think life is happening to them, but the real shift comes when you realize you are the creator of your reality—everything changes when you take responsibility for your energy and your life."

~ Paget Kagy

Have you ever felt like you're stuck in an endless cycle of personal growth, constantly facing new challenges? You're not alone. In this episode, I share my recent experiences with multiple "dark nights of the soul" and how they've shaped my understanding of attachment and personal development.

I know that spiritual awakening isn't a one-time event, but a continuous journey. It's like progressing through levels in a video game, with each new stage presenting tougher obstacles.

By sharing my own vulnerabilities, I hope to inspire you to embrace your journey, no matter how difficult it may seem. Remember, no one is coming to save you - and that's a good thing. Your journey is uniquely yours, and every challenge is an opportunity for growth. Are you ready to face your own dark night of the soul?

Key Insights from this episode:

*Understand that multiple "dark nights" are normal and part of growth

*Recognize attachments to outcomes and ideas of "arriving"

*Learn to be present with uncomfortable emotions

*Take emotionally risky actions and what it means for success

“Nobody is coming to save you, and that's a damn good thing.” ~ Tracy Crossley

Ever wondered why some relationships feel like a constant uphill battle while others seem effortlessly smooth? Join Tracy and she sits down with dating coach and author Evan Marc Katz to explore the intricacies of modern dating and relationships.

Evan shares his journey from aspiring screenwriter to becoming a renowned dating expert, offering a unique perspective on finding love in the digital age. We discuss the common pitfalls of online dating and how to navigate them effectively.

Key Insights from Our Conversation:

* The truth about "easy" relationships and why good partnerships shouldn't feel like hard work

* How our attachment styles influence our dating choices and relationship patterns

* The importance of expanding your vision when searching for a partner online

* Why consistency and progression in communication are crucial indicators of a healthy relationship

* The role of self-worth in attracting and maintaining healthy partnerships

Whether you're navigating the complexities of online dating or seeking to improve your current relationship, this episode offers valuable insights to help you find and nurture a loving, lasting partnership.

Don't miss out on Evan's free gift - a special report on "Seven Massive Mistakes You're Making in Dating" available at evanmarckatz.com (use the code "freedom" to access).

"The best relationships are marked by a lack of anxiety. It's not about finding someone perfect; it's about finding someone who makes you feel safe, heard, and understood."

~ Evan Mark Katz

Ever feel like you're caught in a never-ending cycle of caring too much about things that don't really matter? You're not alone. In this episode, we're going to explore the fascinating world of attachment and how it impacts our relationships, self-worth, and overall happiness.

I'll share my personal journey from being consumed by attachment to finding true freedom. We'll discuss why caring about attachment is a waste of time and how to shift your focus towards self-love and compassion.

Key Insights You'll Gain:

* The root cause of attachment and its impact on your “entire” life

* What is self-responsibility and how it helps you break free from attachment

* How to stop giving others control over your emotions

* Do you know how to sit with your feelings without judgment? Listen in.

* Ways to build true confidence and attract healthier relationships

"Attachment is a distraction from the lack of love you have for yourself."

~ Tracy Crossley

Someone makes an off-handed remark and you bristle. Or they criticize you and you go into full-blown defensive mode before you dissolve into a million pieces. Why does this happen? Why are you so sensitive to some things while others slide off your back? You react when there is some truth in what was said; a truth you don’t want to admit to yourself, let alone have it pointed out by another person. When they call it out you become awash with shame. Shame is a VERY uncomfortable emotion to deal with so instead of feeling it, you deflect, attack, avoid or blame.

Maybe your friend says you can’t be alone, which is why you’re always jumping from one bad relationship to the next. If that’s not true, there would be no reaction. Nothing would be triggered inside of you. But if you strike back and/or want to crawl into a hole… that’s a sign. Shame is talking and it’s time to listen. In this week’s podcast we’re talking about how to deal with criticism and shame. It’s hard to see the unsavory or unlikeable parts of yourself, but acknowledging those parts is the road to self-love, self-acceptance and emotional freedom. When you own your actions and feel the shame, you open the door to healing. No one likes criticism, but it can be an incredibly powerful tool for growth.

WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget)

Put on your cape and open yourself to all sorts of criticism. Own what’s yours and let it flow through you. Remember you have your magic cape!

Do you choose love, or are you waiting to be chosen? Maybe you believe love has forgotten about you, or it’s reserved for other, more “deserving” people. Instead of opening yourself up to it, you ruminate on what you don’t have, believing you’re being punished by some mysterious force. That, my friends, is playing the love victim. Love is actually a choice, but to get there, you have to see how your actions are working against you to create what you don’t want.

Shame around being single, negative beliefs that say you’re not good enough and fear of abandonment all contribute to feeling like love isn’t available to you. And when that’s what you believe, you’ll pick partners who support that belief; it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. In this week’s podcast I’ll challenge you to look at your situation as an observer to zero in on what you’re choosing to create. Yes, CHOOSING. Having love starts with owning your choices and deciding to make new ones. If everything is a choice, why not choose love?

You consider yourself a strong person. When a challenge presents itself, you tackle it head-on. People come to you for answers because you always seem to have them. You pick others up when they fall. You’re reliable and trustworthy. But to be that pillar of strength, you push your emotions aside because you can’t be someone else’s hero if they see a crack in your armor. And therein lies the problem.

We have been brought up to believe that giving is strong and receiving is weak. But that’s backwards. Asking for help and being able to receive takes courage. Allowing others to see you as human is what strong people do. In this week’s episode I’ll challenge you to explore why being “strong” is important to you, and where you struggle to receive. Because you can’t give or receive love freely if you’re emotionally shut down. When you open your heart to others and allow them to see your vulnerability, you radiate strength.

WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget)

The hole in your suit of armor is inside of you. Allow it to exist without being strong so you connect with yourself and others.