I met Lyra at Dixie De La Tour's birthday orgy in San Francisco. (Yes, that's a sentence I get to say now.) We made out, she flew across the country a few weeks later to spend 28 magical hours with me and my partner Daniel, and my crush on her is TRULY ridiculous.

Lyra is a professional dominatrix and sex educator based in the San Francisco Bay Area who specializes in pegging, anal play, and helping people feel more at home in their own bodies and desires. But that's only part of her story. She also grew up in a high-control religious cult, survived an unimaginably painful rock bottom, and rebuilt her life with the help of community, pleasure, and an unwavering refusal to let anybody shame her sexuality.

She's funny, brilliant, deeply compassionate, and one of the most emotionally intelligent people I've met in a long time. I adore this woman.

In this episode, we discuss:

• How Lyra went from cult kid to professional dominatrix
• Why pressure doesn't work for sex (or relationships)
• Growing up in a high-control religious community that was oddly sex-positive... and deeply unhealthy
• Discovering polyamory and Bay Area sex parties
• Why powerful men often crave surrender
• What it's actually like to specialize in pegging
• The difference between empowering sex work and exploitation
• Supporting men's emotional healing through intimacy and touch
• Why Lyra believes we're all capable of reclaiming our "slutitude"

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xoxo,

Samia

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